Originally Posted by braindrain
Trust me man, magnams will be perfect for you. At 5.6” EG they will probably feel like heaven compared to normal condoms. They are tighter at the bottom so they won’t slip either.
I’m thinking about buying a 3 pk of them online from condom depot and trying them out. Also for the above posts, I don’t have the problem now, well, it might spring up one night after not getting some in a week but for the most part I’m regained control over it. When I was having sex proir to my 2 year break from it, I didn’t have a problem with premature ejaculation but I also didn’t exactly last as long as I wanted to at the time (15-30 mins max). The pe for me started in October when I met this girl I got really into. I was never made the first move or wanted to have sex for fear of how I’d perform after not having sex for so long. This happened earlier in the year with another girl. We’d be both naked, I’d be erect and wanting to have sex but in the back of my mind I was afraid of how I’d perform.
**LONG STORY**
Well, one night I was at her place, we moved to the bedroom and she wanted to have sex. I went down to the gas station, got some condoms and went back to her place. I was nervous for the most part. It almost felt like my first time again. I got to the point where I put the condom on. Had a little trouble and started losing my erection a little bit. Got the condom on, went in and was just thinking in my head to not cum the whole time. 2 mins go by and I was done. This is where I felt embarrassed but she was comforting me and letting me know that it was ok but I felt like a jackass and let it bother me. I ended up doing fingering her to get her off which is the first time I had to do that. She assured me that night that she had a idea that it might be short because of how long it’s been. She never got made at me and was supportive that night but I refused to believe thats how she really felt. I only had that one condom on me ( I left the actual box in the car but I didn’t have the will or mind set to get back into again) Well, I brushed the night off, thinking it can only get longer and not shorter. Boy was I wrong.
Fast forward a week later after that. She wanted me to come over in the middle of the night. I came over with two condoms, I figured if the first shot was short, I’d be good the second time. We got hot and heavy, I put the condom on, she moves over the get on top and as soon as I slide in, I ejaculated!! I couldn’t believe it! She couldn’t believe it! I didn’t even get more than one pump in. I was laying there in shock and I’m sure she was too. So 10 mins go by and she was just trying to comfort me and see if I can go again. About 30 mins later, we started kissing and what not and I got up, put the condom on. I was on top, about to go in, and it happened AGAIN! This time it seemed shorter then before. We laid there, she was quite for the most part but dropping a few sentences here and there. She was thinking it was because of a mental thing because I don’t really like her deep down or some thing. I was saying no it wasn’t. She then said that maybe I should see a doctor, but I didn’t want to go through all that. I finally went home probably within 10 mins of that happening. As soon as I got home, I started researching things about pe and how I could overcome it, what causes it etc etc.
I started reading about control and all the start stop techniques and etc. I think the reason I had pe was because it was brought on by my own doing. During those 2 years dating a women who didn’t have sex, didn’t give head, never even wanted to touch a penis, I started masturbating more frequently. Like VERY frequently. Every night it was routine. I’d watch and d/l some porn. Get hard and rub one out. I’d try to get it down as quick as possible. I just wanted to get hard, and then get the feeling of orgasm real quick. I’d do this maybe 3 times a night. Sometimes I did this every night. Eventually I got to the point where if I didn’t do that everynight, I’d have trouble sleeping because I’d be wanting to do it. So this is 2 years of doing this almost daily. 2 years of telling my body to ejaculate in 2 mins or less. So what did I do to solve it?
I read up on a number of things, and it was a combination of things that helped me. I read that breathing slowly and having a set pace of breathe during sex helps. I noticed that I wasn’t breathing during sex much, I’d mainly just hold my breathe or not focus on breathing. I cut the porn and masturbating to a minimal. I determined that if I’m going to masturbate, I’m going to masturbate using the start stop techniques. I’d stroke until I’d get the feeling of ejac but I’d stop, take a deep breathe and put my mind somewhere else that’ll kinda tone my arousal level down. Then I’d do it again. At first, it was hard but I stuck with it. I sometimes did this for 15 mins and then not cum at all. I’d just stop all together thinking it might help me. 2 weeks into it, I had the oppurtunity to have sex again. I did it, this time I’d go a min and then ejaculate. I figured it wasn’t working. I was getting discouraged. I was still feeling jitters when I was having sex. I’d constantly focus on not ejaculating. Then, I went ahead and d/l “multi orgasmic man” and another book that was advertised to stop pe. I started reading multi orgasmic man but never got past page 40. I was busy working and constantly busy with school and what not. I wanted to read it, but used what I read so far into the book to my advantage. The info I got from the amount I read was to focus on relaxing during sex. Just focus on feelings and not performance. I started to do a little bit of kegels that was recommended in the book but didn’t stick to them. So now it’s November. Between October and mid-Nov we only had sex 2 times. And both times were short. I wanted to have sex, but didn’t want to go through the disappointment. Plus I figured she didn’t want to either. We’d have sex, it’d be short, then not really say much to each other and then I’d leave. I knew one of the solutions for pe was building confidence, but I was having difficulty. But I talked to a few people about it. Alot of people I talked to encouraged me to not get down, that it’s only temporary. I was brave enough to let people know. I let a few girls know even, girls I’m really good friends with. I figured I might as well. One girl said “it’s ok, I had the same problem with my current guy I’m seeing” I asked what he did to solve it. She just said she just kept fucking him until he got over it in a month. So one night in the end of Nov, we got hot and heavy. I went in, 2 mins later I was done. I was laying there, she was talking to me and we finally talked about pe. I let her know what I think was going on and why I had it and said I think confidence is a problem. She then got me up again and I had sex again and this time it lasted 3 mins. This was the 2nd round too! It was no longer then 10 mins after the 1st round. We laid there, then 15 mins later, I went in for the 3rd round. This time around I was going at it. It lasted about 15 mins, she even orgasmed from it. I know it was the 3rd round and anybody will last longer after that many times, but that one night built my confidence for sex. I felt relaxed about sex and I actually got to rememberer what sex felt like when it’s actually longer then 2 mins.
After that night, I read about doing kegels. And how diet can effect sexual performance. I started doing 20 kegel squeezes. I did them twice a day. I also bought durex performax condoms. They have some kinda lube in them that suppose to make you last longer. I know the numb your dick but it wouldn’t hurt to try them out. I focused more on the start and stop technique while masturbating. I drank alot of water dailey now, I made sure I got plenty of rest. I cut back on sodas. If I drank a soda, I made sure I was drinking one that didn’t have caffeine in it. Every morning when I’d have my morning wood, I’d masturbate, but stop every time I’d get close to cumming. I’d do a kegel squeeze for about 5 seconds and release. This actually made me regain control. I did this daily and moved it into sex. In mid December, we got to having sex. This time, I had my Performax condoms, I slide them on, I started having sex. I focused on relaxing all the muscles in my body. I breathe slowly. When I had the slightest urge to cum, I stopped, did a kegel squeeze and regained control. It was annoying that first night because of the constant starting and stopping. But I lasted for about 20 mins. Eventually by having sex daily, or about 3-5 times a week since then, I no longer have to stop completely during sex. I’d have sex, during the slightest feeling of cumming, I’d do a kegel squeeze and regain control. I was using the durex condoms for about a week. They do numb your penis, but for me it numbed it only slightly and occasionally when I first started using it, I’d still want to cum within 2 mins. I bought them for the confidence. If I felt numb during sex, I’d last longer but in my find I was getting more relaxed having sex. I was tricking my mind to think that sex should be this long. IMO thats what I think helped.
