Swinging - big and small penises

The Mrs. and I have been into swinging for the past few years and I have noticed a trend during that time and I’m curious to know if others have experienced it. It’s regarding penis size “intimidation” and lack of performance. I have found that, most of the time, men with average to small sized penises, when trying to swing, have difficulty getting and maintaining an erection in my presence (I am about 8.6BP 6.4 MSG right now). To clarify, this is straight male-female couples swinging. I have to think that the size of my penis, being on the large side, intimidates them enough to really effect their erection. But I have found that guys with larger than average penises, but still smaller than mine, don’t have the same issue. I’m curious whether others have experienced this during their sexual adventures or whether it is an anomaly.

And so people on this board have a realistic understanding of large, I have not found, in all my swinging, another guy with a larger penis than mine (I’m not attempting to brag, just demonstrating how rare the 8X6 is out there). I would love to find a bigger dude so I could give him props and see if his size effects my erection/performance and intimidates me.

I haven’t noticed this, but it’s plausible that self-consciousness about dick size would add to men’s anxiety in swinging situations. In any case, it’s amazing how badly even the slightest anxiety or distraction can destroy one’s erection. I have never in my life had a single boner problem when one-on-one with a woman, but as soon as there are more people involved, my performance is a lot more spotty, especially if I’ve had anything to drink.

Same here (I’ve been to a number of sex parties), and I’m not even as large as you are. I think that men who are convinced that huge dicks are common have either encountered a very strange sample of guys in the locker room, or their perceptions of their own penis size relative to others is distorted.