Turn my small penis into a big one, then for the first time, get a girlfriend?

I would like to challenge that.

I think you would need to be very self involved and self satisfied (not saying it as a negative thing) to have “great” sex with random people. I would reorder it to, great relationship= great sex. Even if it’s not a traditional marriage style relationship, but clear communication and understanding of the other person’s specific needs. And that happens deliberately and over time.
There isn’t really any math involved.
My opinion, just something to think about.

I asked about if you talk about size insecurities beforehand because generally people will think about what you tell them to think about. So if she wasn’t going through a file comparing yours to others before, she definitely will if you bring it up. Adversely to that if you say “you feel so good.” That is what she’s going to think about.

Hotdog down a hallway? I think you would need to be pretty huge for that to be a thing. Vaginas open up more and get wetter when she is excited. There is a pretty good chance that they were enjoying it.

I go through bouts of depression myself. I’m pushing back against one right now. Like when it suddenly gets dark before a storm. I wish I had something profound to impart to you about that but I don’t. Just hang in there.

KrustyRusty hey man you’re right (you guys are all right)

Alot of this is all in my head. I don’t want to face up to the idea of rejection and that I am not good enough in bed. Part of me feels like “if my dick was just bigger then I would be confident about sex”. But this is all part of where I am at right now. I was going through a really terrible time in my life months back and this month has been a process of healing myself and regaining self confidence (going to the gym, going out, reconnecting with people/making friends, flirting with women, getting other aspects of my life in order too). I have been unemployed for over 6 months and I will be getting a job again in the next week. For my new job I will probably be staying in a small country town for 2 months before coming back to my home city. This will be boring for me but I will use it as an opportunity to focus on my physical fitness and jelqing (and my career aswell). This is all part of the healing process for me. Including jelqing

This is really important to me. If I went to see a prostitute last month, I would probably voluntarily stop half way because I am not feeling anything and that would be upsetting to me. In fact this kind of thing has probably happened to me in the past - sex can be really boring for me and not worth doing if my libido is low and I’m not really feeling it
I have been very unhappy with my sex life. And if there is a way that I can make my big enough so that I could have satisfying sex with just about any girl that wants to have sex with me then I really think I should give it my best shot. This has been one of the things that has been motivating me help to pull my life back out of depression

Krusty I was unsure what you mean by this

But I thought about it and realised that it probably meant that I am the one who set the tone in my dialogue with that girl. If I am being self aware then I can be somewhat in control over what she thinks of me and our ?relationship - for example if I spent the whole time with her feeling insecure then that will definitely rub off badly. But if I am deliberate about having a good time and meeting both of our needs during our time spent, then she would appreciate that. I don’t think it went badly. The first time she tried to kiss me I turned my head away and she got insecure for 5 mins. I reassured her it was me and we still spent all night together (no sex though). We were affectionate together, we were fairly open and honest about things.. I mean.. I basically implied that the reason for my sex avoidance was low libido from depression but this is for me kind of associated with penis size insecurity so I feel like it was still pretty true (just not the whole truth). You’ve also got to understand that this girl is very sex positive, probably pretty experienced, and talked about multiple orgasms and understanding her body etc.

I basically told her that I would be going away for work for a few months and I am still feeling alot of interest from her. I plan on spending the next 2 months working jelqing and going to the gym and hopefully when I come back there will be some great sex

Welcome buddy for now just stick to a basic newbie routine and absolutely do not touch any device or clamps.

We can talk about those in maybe 6 to 8 months or even better a year.

Size helps but the master is what matters the most to women, never forget that. Also don’t forget that being absolutely huge can be a disadvantage more than anything for a lot of things. If you made a woman orgasm that means many more can.

Enjoy your path here and stay safe.

If your goal is to get a girlfriend, PE is a waste of time.
Penis size matters to women but it is far down on the list regarding getting a boyfriend, especially when you are a size like you are.
If you where much much under average, ok PE MIGHT be a good thing, but with your size it would be much much more relevant to work on a lot of other "girlfriend enhancing attributes"-

I believe this preference chart is probably not far from the truth:
https://calcsd. … references.html

You can at least work on enhancing your "Kindness, Intelligence, Foreplay skills, Wealth".
When you are top 75% in these, it could be efficient to work on your penis size (and probably not).

And btw. Notice the "ended relationship because penis was too big" column.!

Fair enough, you could meet size queens who wants bigger, but they are very very rare and disregard them (not sure they would be considered girl-friend material to me, just my experience).

Guys.. I get the sentiment - you don’t need to have a big dick to get a girlfriend. I know I could get a girlfriend pretty easily if I tried. But not the one I want. And I would not be getting the sex I want. It’s all or nothing for me. At least 2 months of jelqing (and working out) while I am locked up in a country town for work and then see if this changes things. You might say it’s all in my head but.. If it makes me more self confident then I will take it

Did you just buy a regular cable clamp from the shop for this?

And then apply heat with a washcloth or rice sock while your penis is clamped?

I really want to try clamping but the general advice I hear is to be safe and not overdo things

It would be good to know though.. In a way I have been gradually easing into jelqing since I was 14. I was just so scattered and inconsistent and never did it for more than a week

Yah in my book you want her to be as wet and open as possible, then you know she’s REALLY loving it a lot! Besides, who wants a somewhat dry, shallow, too tight pussy? Unless you’re into cumming in seconds flat and not enjoying sex, then an unprepared, not-so-good feeling pussy is your ticket. KrustyRusty knows what’s up!

I completely agree with “great relationship=great sex” that’s how it seems to work. Everyone I know that is not making it as a couple, or are divorced, didn’t ever have sex at all and when they did it was good in the beginning, but then it sucked and then separation. Again, KrustyRusty for the bonus points :)

What kind of sex do you want? What kind of girlfriend do you want? Like a nymphomaniac that craves huge cock all the time? Is that the kind of sex you want? If you don’t want to have sex at all until you have a bigger cock, and then find the woman you want to use it on, how will you be prepared to engage in the sex you want? It took my wife and I months before we felt like we were truly “fucking each other good” and we admitted it to ourselves when we hit our stride. Then it was anal sex, she was squirting all the fuck over me and my bedroom, more blowjobs, 1hr+ intercourse, 10+ positions a night, stuff like that. It took months to get to that point. She might be better at it than you; you might be better at it than her. But to really get good at sex with a woman you have to do it a good bit and learn each others’ bodies really well.

I wanted to ask if you have a fleshlight? You can create a dock (or buy one) for your fleshlight and practice fucking it and work on how to flick your hips and how to get into different angles with your cock so you can angle it around inside a pussy next time you fuck. I fuck the living shit out of a fleshlight in a dock I made when I masturbate to keep my stamina and strength up to keep giving it to my wife the way she wants and likes it.

Lastly, I don’t know what can be defined more as “self confidence”: having a big cock or having a woman want to fuck you. I’m gonna go with the woman wanting to do you as the answer. If you get the girl, you win, at least that’s how it normally works? Or at least used to work when penis size wasn’t a hamper on having sex. I sure as hell didn’t pull my wife because of my cock size. Barely almost 6.5”inches isn’t “hung” by any means. Is it? Maybe it is. She thought it was decently big when she was with my erection the first time. And we had crazy awesome wild sex for a few years before I accidentally found out that a man can grow his penis, and I figured what the hell I’ll try it and see, and it worked, but it didn’t really change the sex between my wife and I.

Okay. This is good. I want a great relationship, but in order to have a great relationship then I would need to make sure I am keeping up with the sex. Bad sex or no sex = breakup? Well, all the more reason I want to be good at it

6.5 inches was actually considered by some research to be the ‘ideal’ penis size range for long term relationships (obviously take this with a grain of salt)

I want a girl who is adventurous like myself. A girl who is not too afraid to ask for what she wants. Someone who has an open mind about things like open relationships, threesomes, partying, and swingers stuff etc. Maybe someone with a little bit of emotional trauma, but has worked through so much that she is of amazing emotional intelligence. These are not like checklist items, they are just the personality traits of someone I am drawn to. And I think that this kind of girl is not going to be super pleased or happy with a below average cock. Maybe she would stay. Maybe I could make it work. But it wouldn’t make her very happy at first. In fact it would completely suck just like all of the sex I have had in my life.

Honestly guys I’m getting the feeling that if you have never had sex with a girl using a small cock then maybe you might just not understand.

Yes, I’d have to agree with you: if the woman you want is into (and probably familiar and accustomed to) threesomes, swinging, and open relationships, she might be more interested in large cocks because she’s very into sex and has probably been with a lot of people. If you want to start with a woman and be committed to her, but then you both are into open relationships, and swinging/group sex, then is it something you hope you both fall into organically when the time comes? I mean, do you plan to start a relationship with a girlfriend under the preface of an open relationship? I think a woman that is already into these activities is going to be hard to please sexually in a few different ways because you have to ask yourself: is she even finding ways to please herself sexually? Is she getting what she wants? With a variety of cocks out there to engage in threesomes and swinging and open relationships, she can find someone bigger than you even if you are enlarging successfully.

So are you into sph and cuckolding?

I don’t like SPH - I feel like small penis humiliation is psychologically dangerous. When I spend too much time thinking about my penis as being small, I completely lose all my libido and can’t maintain an erection. When I think of it as being (almost) normal or imagine that I am fucking a girl with a large penis it makes me more horny.

I have a good friend with a large penis (7.5inch) who told me about his cuckholding ventures. At first it surprised me and I found it weird but the idea later grew on me. I see it as something I would like to try but not necessarily get into on a regular basis or get off on all the time. First and foremost I want to have good sex with her myself. Same goes with the swingers stuff and open relationships. This girl from the weekend said she had a threesome once and when I met her she just came from a party with a bunch of swingers and stuff (which is why she was probably pretty horny and keen on me that night). Like I said its not a checklist. I don’t neccessarily need any of those things. I just tend to be drawn towards people who are open to that kind of stuff and I know things would be disappointing with my below average cock.

Look. If PE works, then I have nothing to worry about right? I know that with 7-9 inches you can have totally new experiences and reach different levels of climax but if I were to get like at least just over 6 inches? I feel like I would at least be able to get SOME mutual fulfillment with just about any women out there. Because right now it’s like.. I feel nothing they feel nothing. Not nothing but like.. Almost nothing..
I have a few other things going for me aswell though - it is very easy for me to get a toned very fit looking body when I start working out, I pretty much always last longer than 20mins whether it be sex or masturbating, I was told by a woman I slept with that I am emotionally available (also that girl from the weekend and I spent hours and hours talking and being affectionate with eachother in her bed - I just think we got along really well), and I have a reasonably respected professional career (once I get the ball rolling and start working again).
I just need to know that this isnt all for nothing and that one day I will be able to pump a good sized penis into a girl that I really like.

Like I said I am optimistic. But part of me also a little terrified that maybe it would take 10 months to get to only 5.5 x 4.4 accounted for only by improved erection quality. Look I am stoked already about my improved erection quality this past week. But I really want to be packing at least 6 inches with at least normal girth or above normal girth (4.59 inches according to google search)