Was I being extremely dumb? (penis size insecurity thread)

I don’t really know where to start this stuff…so I’ll let it go here.

I joined Thunder’s around an year and a half ago. Being the information maniac that I was…I read all that I could. Also I got caught up in all these adds and posts on forums by women who claimed stuff like “under 7 no way” , “size doesn’t matter, yeah right”

My already altered ego from a rejection… made me think that’s why I don’t have the confidence with women…cause my size is only like 5.5-6 x 5.1.
I was like… “I’ll do this and I’ll get the confidence and then women will be into me.”

I don’t have to say that this stuff actually made me kinda needy… and an underlying insecurity was haunting me… I tried to mask my insecurities with PUA stuff…many of you American guys know what I’m talking about. But that stuff makes you even needier… makes you think you gotta do something special….thus makes you extremely needy.

My question is… was it really something normal? Stressing yourself and feeling small at my size? Isn’t this really just in our heads… Haven’t I done unnecessary damage to myself and cultivating an unnecessary insecurity?

Aren’t there lots of guys out there at that size doing great and having fun?

See, when I was all stressed about dick size…I was finding a million websites and stuff supporting my limiting belief. After I let go…for whatever reason I would find another million saying it’s not that much of a problem. Believing is seeing.

Now what I hear is that….yes, size really matters….because if you say it doesn’t…that means a micropenis is equal to a 7x5.5 …which is not really right… I believe when women say “size matters”…they refer to “Don’t be small-tiny.” I keep hearing women say average is fine…

Did I just mess up my college years for nothing? Most likely…

I read a while ago some posts by some guys at my size who were doing great with girls…. Now I met a buncha guys who actually claimed to be bellow average and they were having gfs and stuff.

I come to realize that I really messed up a lot … and blew lots of chances… Don’t do the same…

I am a new member.I do not know how to say anything,but I really know the matter of shot.

Short ,not shot

I have wasted my college years as well. I guess that is why I went back and I am having fun.

How are other Thunder’s place members doing with these stats? Are you thinking “geez, one day when I’ll be big enough…” or are you having a great sex life and doing PE as some sort of bonus…

For most of us the real problem is not a penis that is too small but a lack of confidence in the size of our penis. I knew from the start that I could see a counselor who would tell me penis size means nothing unless its under 4 inches. Maybe over time I would start to not care.

Or I could start doing PE and stop feeling I had a small penis because it was actually very big. I am now 9 months in and glad I took that route because I feel I have a big penis now. I still do PE because I’ve reset my goals but I’m happy with what I have now so I don’t feel as anxious about gaining.

Its true that we don’t need money,abs,nice car,huge penis to get girls but it sure gives extra confidence and then you stop worrying about it. A counselor could change our mindset too but that costs money and isn’t guaranteed and I like taking matters into my own hands.

Take a ruler and put it on your groin: 5 or 6 inches is actually quite long I think. Its just your body that puts it out of perspective. Getting up in the 7 and up club is really getting freaking long if you look at the ruler on its own.

I think the real killer is self consciousness - it just saps your energy and focus.

I hear you. Somehow, just doing something proactive has eliminated my insecurities. I just don’t really feel insecure anymore. I know it isn’t helpful, but I used that negative energy to make a positive. Size issues tend to bother me most during breakups though, I must admit. Women will drive us crazy, one way, or the other til we die. I still love them though.

I now have a 6” BPEL but I want a 7.5”! Wooot but yea it’s all consiouness. I really want from looking around 7.5-8” as I want to be able to go balls deep and be able to grind with 5.5” EG as I love getting head and would still like to be able to do anal to any women that may let me without it being too painful if they are not use to anal =D Just my tid bit but yea I look at mine from my angle and then if you bend down and actually get a closer look at it you’ll realize it’s not as small as it looks, and thats what a girl sees if she’s right up on you looking at it giving you head and such. I’ve started thought on 1/08/2010 and have already gained over 1/4 of an inch =)

—101

Sometimes you can really find strength in your weaknesses and vice versa. It definitely helps to feel like you can control something (be proactive).

You’re kicking ass Newbie101! Great gains. We started about the same time.

My problem isn’t really about EL, but FL - sex is good but walking around with a smaller flaccid in front of my Girlfriend makes me feel insecure..

I need flaccid gains but if EL is boosted with PE, bonus =)

One thing to remember , just to keep things in proper perspective -

You can make a woman cum with your finger if you use it right.

I’d say size does matter. If it didn’t it wouldn’t get talked about as much as it has been, but average/smaller dicks can ALWAYS be worked with. All sizes seem widely acceptable so yes everyone needs to get out there, explore, and get there meat wet. (LoL )

Hopefully you single guys are not “getting your meat wet” and wrapping up, LOL.