Why did you start PE?

Holy crap!! Teaching you’re pre-pubescent 13 year old kid to Jelq?? Please if you’ve considered that maybe you definitely shouldn’t have kids. You know that little fucker would just tell his friends and you’d end up in jail for teaching kids how to pull their dicks off, but seriously I will teach my kid to jelq when he’s a mature adult.

1. I kind of developed a “bull” fantasy in a hotwife relationship. In the off chance it ever comes true, I want to be ready. Probably won’t though!
1A. I want to make sure I keep my own wife happy!

2. Think I got the shaft (pun intended) genetically. Remembering back to seeing what my father was packing accidentally, figured I could use a little help. Though my beginner gains might suggest I can get close.

3. Again, likely will never happen, but I kind of like my cute female boss.. And certain she is a size queen of sorts. I have caught her looking before and wonder what was going through her mind. She won’t likely see it in the flesh, but I want to make sure I look decent through khakis!

4. Started playing mens rugby, want to have a legendary Zulu run when becomes my turn. Look it up if you are not familiar.

5. Just to be a better man in all aspects. I have taken more interest in health, both physical and mental, might as well be better sexually, too!

Agree with the other black guys on here, we definitely do have it rough as there are more than a few of us in this world that come up short and don’t have the craved BBC.

My wife has never complained about my size but I never get the feeling I’m really filling her up due to my lack of girth. That’s what bothers me the most.
I’ve seen a few of my friends penis’ after playing football etc and they’re flaccid state is thicker than my erect state. I’m about 6.5 inch in length which I could just about live with but 4.5 inch girth is what is the major let down for me.

Black girls are used to being with black guys with big penis’ and white girls want black guys with size.

Being a white guy I always figured how much it would suck to be black and average. Everyone just assumes stereotypes. GL. It’s a long process for most.

Man can I relate to a lot of what is said in this thread. I’ve always had a bit of a size complex since back in college. It didn’t get really bad until six or seven years ago. Before that it was always more like, “I wish I was a little bigger.” Then when I got out of a relationship back in 2007/2008 and hit the market again the whole social media thing kicked in. Most of the guys on there listed their size as 7 or more. Sure, I was aware of size inflation, but it still got my insecurities inflamed. Having decided I wanted to be a little bit more loose now that I was single it felt like the guys I were messing around with were mostly larger than me. Follow that up with an ever increasing sensitivity to size-queen comments made usually in jest about things in general and it really started feeding into some latent body dysmorphia that I obviously had rattling around my brain. By the time I met my current partner I was pretty insecure about my size but still wasn’t at the point of even researching much less contemplating PE. That all changed over the first year we were dating.

I was by far smaller than all of his ex’s. Worse still he had made some comments about some others guys that went something along the lines of, “So and so has a great dick.” To which I’d ask why it was so great and the response would be, “Because it’s huge!” We had some conversations about those type of comments. He said mine was “fine” which to me is practically an insult. He said he was happy with my size but I couldn’t get the fact I was smaller than the rest of his ex’s and these “I love huge” comments out of my head. I had found this site and was contemplating trying it but with the potential risk of permanent damage, however unlikely, it just seemed to risky and not worth it. Then I found Grindr. I’m an attractive guy and was getting lots of attention (all with my BF’s knowledge, we were both on it, so don’t judge) but when the conversation would go to dick then it would start getting uncomfortable. When I used my actual measurements I either would get a lack luster response or none at all. I decided maybe a picture would be better and took one that showcased my dick to be as big as it was going to look. Not only did I get the same usually lack luster response, or at best “that’s nice” but I even got blocked by some guys. That combined with the whole demoralization I was feeling about my partner’s history and comments had me one day just say “fuck it” and try it.

I gained a bit and that certainly made the problem a little less severe, but it still haunts me periodically. I’m back at it because I want to try to reach my original goals. I’m also working on the psychological aspect of this thing because at the root of this all is a stupid societal message that says “big = good” and “small or average = bad” which is total bullshit. For most girls (or guys) you don’t really need more than 4.5 inches. You certainly don’t need to be “above average” to satisfy most partners. But society tells us different. You *need* to have a big pay check, big expensive (r fast car), big paying job, big house and a big cock to be “successful.” Fuck that on all fronts, I say. While I can say it very easily on everything else, I can’t seem to get my brain wrapped around the last one though, so I work to make it a bit bigger and to make me psychologically not give a shit about it.

As to some of the other comments. I’ve always said I was glad I didn’t have the black thing going on with this size going on since the size expectation was even larger than it was for white guys. Intellectually we should know most black guys are average too, yet again that’s not what society tells us. So they must have an even greater mind fuck going on. As to women saying 5.5” is small, that’s probably because they are as bad at measuring cock size as their partner’s are. I had a friend tell me she needs at least 8” and then hold her hands up. That wasn’t even close to an 8” length. When she says all her partners have been over 8” and then I happened to see a picture of one of the guy’s hardons (Tumblr can be really weird about that lol) it was clear she had no idea what she was talking about. If I was being generous I would have said it was just under 7”. All that said, it’s easier to tell other guys their cock is fine being whatever size it is than to believe it myself. I’ll keep working on my internal message and making my cock bigger at the same time :) .

Basically, I’m looking for better EQ (it’s always awesome when your partner is completely satisfied and says it with that expression in her face) and better flaccid hang (my flaccid disappoints me sometimes, it’s probably much better to be a shower).

And become the new Manuel Ferrara. :D

It definitely does suck, it’s the expectation that girls have. They see me as a black guy and automatically think big dick. When they realize I’m not hung like a horse like some other black guys it can be awkward.com

I started PE as a solution to long term penis envy. As a teen growing up without any significant male guide, penis size seemed to be very important. I recall the painful comments, questions and gestures (yes, gestures can communicate so much) that made me even more insecure about myself and how others perceived me. Already growing up the proverbial fat kid only added fuel to the fire. I was always told that I was a good looking guy and had no problems getting dates. However, the penis size issue has made me insecure to the point of not getting intimate with any girl. Now that I’ve been studying up on relationship dynamics between men and women, as well as body language and PE, I am becoming the man I wished I could’ve been years ago.

I was just curious which gestures that would be?

Gestures? Hold your hand up as if you are measuring 1 inch of length with your thumb and index finger. Now imagine people who you have known have seen you naked using this gesture as the context of their discussion is of you.

I don’t know about you guys, but this crushed my self perception of manhood quite severely!

Ah yes i understand that gesture :) . Holding up a pinkie finger is another one. You know what’s funny? To me they don’t even have to do that about me. If I see someone doing it or talking about someone else’s dick, I get a complex about my own. I’m thinking that the guy probably is at worst small side of average and everyone is exaggerating. Therefore since I’m not large, but nowhere near small either, then maybe someone talks about my dick like that too…and then the whole thing comes tumbling down. Well at least, that used to be how it played out. More recently I’ve been better at this.

I’d take the pinkie gesture over the inch since prior to PE, I was averaging a little less than my own pinkie length!

Lowtower, I can definitely relate. My fear of being laughed at actually kept me from pursuing a sexual relationship until I was almost 22. I grew up in a household where we simply didn’t talk about sex, so I also had little male support in that regard.

I started because I’ve always been insecure about my size, even though after reading the forums here, I feel like I have no reason to bitch. I allowed a couple comments from drunk women over the years to affect me way more than I should have.

Just got out of a relationship with someone who had been with a lot of guys, and also decided to tell me I was smaller than her ex. Head games ftw! She would tell everyone I was big, but in the bedroom she would make little comments that sucked. I’ve gained a lot of weight over the years so my visible length has gone down considerably (was 210 lbs 10 years ago, now I’m at at 310 lbs). Trying to lose weight and get in shape, better myself in several areas of my life, and improve my EQ. I guess I want to do PE to see if it works.

Realizing that being circumcised had not let my penis grow to its full potential.(now I’m restoring my foreskin and its awesome)