Wife doesn't want me to PE, or doesn't want me to be a person who would PE

Impressive gains!

I keep PE from my gf for now. I suppose I’ll eventually tell her about it especially if I’m lucky enough to see some of the same gains that other members have gotten.

I only do this because I’m not 100% sure how she would feel about it. I’m afraid that she may take it personally in some way. The problem is I’m going to do this whether she likes it, or doesn’t like it. It’s not for her, it’s for me. Hopefully when I do tell her she’ll have already seen the benefits of PE and won’t have a problem with it.

Much wisdom herewithin there is.

Lots of good responses. Thanks for that. I wasn’t so much looking for advice as I was wondering whether other guys’ wives, etc. have had similar responses. I have a lot of respect for my wife and tend to believe that her behaviors have fairly reasonable, non-manipulative explanations.

In this case, I’m inclined to think that buccabeetle’s and the second half of Dino’s response are spot on. If anyone else has had similar experiences, feel free to keep the responses flowing.

Never quit PE! PE is like hitting the gym for your penis. PE must be handed down from generation to generation.

Long Live PE!

Had a similar conversation with my wife today. Told her I was unhappy with the quality of my erections and would like some more size to boot. She said “why fix what isn’t broken.” Told her I was going to do it regardless as I wanted a healthier penis long term as well as size and better EQ. She said whatever, can we change the subject.

I start next week.

Gottagolarger good job for starting. I hope you make you get big and stretch her out hahah!

I wouldn’t dare tell my wife. She’d flip. The fallout would not be worth it. So, it’s by stealth. She doesn’t want me to have a bigger dick — the desire is all mine. I do it because I enjoy it — it feels good and enhances my sex drive. Sometimes, I’m a bit like a crazy 13-year old, except the recovery period is much longer. Even found myself stroking my dick surreptitiously in the car beside her the other day. She was driving and her mind was elsewhere. As for me, I enjoyed every stroke.

Rick .. You’ve grown almost 1.5” .. How has your wife not noticed or questioned that?

Michael B .. I haven’t told my wife that I’ve commenced PEing. I’ll cross that bridge once she (and I) see some growth. But I know that my wife wouldn’t want me to PE. I can confidently say that she’s more than happy with the way things are and she wouldn’t really understand the need.

Would she try stop me? I’m not sure .. I think she’d shrug it off but not encourage it.

Would she have some latent concerns about me using it somewhere else? I would hope not but at an instinctive level I can understand that theory.

So I’m going to quietly keep going and see what happens.

Two reasons for that. First, if the growth is slow over a period of time you tend to not notice unless you put a tape measure on it — and I do, but she doesn’t. Second, my wife is post menopausal. Many women lose interest in sex at this stage and she is one of them. I do not even turn her on anymore when she sees me naked — which is every day. I even restored my foreskin from a CI-3 to a CI-8 and she didn’t notice until I told her. Her reaction was not good and I won’t repeat that here (so it’s by stealth).

This is one of the reasons why I’m here. I go solo now (“to death us do part” and all that). And this helps enhance my own satisfaction. It would be better with her, but not to be.

I do stealth PE as I’m sure my wife would have a similar reaction. In a healthy relationship there is no room for manipulation, so I route for one of the following possible reasons:
- she may think you have an insecurity and is concerned of why you might have it
- she is content with your present state and doesn’t see the need for you to spend time for a possible risky training

Despite of what the majority on this weird forum thinks, not every sexually active and content women is obsessed by cock size. There are many other features women are looking for when they evaluate us, before ideal cock size (which does not necessarily mean large). It might very well be the case that your wife is already content by your size and she prefers more that you improve on a different feature.
For example, my wife was not too happy with me going to gym. She said she liked my body as it was (she is turned off by beefy look) and I just waisted valuable time instead of doing more important things in life. I had to tell her about other benefits of going to gym to make her feel OK with it.

For those guys saying that your SO doesn’t want you to become more attractive fearing the competition of other women, I think this is one of the funniest nonsenses I’ve ever heard! Talking about breast surgery with my wife, I said a non-negotiable NO to augmentation. Does that mean I fear that she will become more appealing to other men, so I rather chose to miss that “great opportunity”? Well, I DO want her to be very attractive to other men - it’s a matter of pride for me - but I don’t want her to look LESS attractive to me! I like her smaller sexy tits way more than some big melons! Do you think the paranoid women obsessed with breasts size would understand me, or would think I’m manipulative with my SO? My wife is pretty normal and had no problems understanding in the right way my preference.

Nope but every man is! :)

My wife of 10yrs knows I PE and says that I’m big enough, but after I PE and we have sex with my now larger unit she comments on how large it is. She also like the fact that she has less trouble cumming!! Bottom line she likes the bigger unit.

Women are more manipulative than men so the same response from a woman would mean something different than the exact same response from a man given the same topic. The majority of women greatly fear their SO becoming or more attractive or drawing attraction from from others. Mind you 90% of my family (maternal and paternal) are women so I think that what I just stated holds a great amount of weight. Btw, I was raised by women after my father died in 1984 and women are very manipulative in just about every aspect when dealing with men.

My mom raised me too I think I understand the manipulative aspect that your talking about. I find that sometimes dating women they decrease your attraction by making you skip the gym and contributing more to an unhealthy life style.

How ever I do not fall for this anymore. I tell them the gym comes first before you. They hate when I say this but hey my body is important to me!

Hey Rick. That’s a bit of a sad reply, and I hope it’s a scenario I can avoid. Time will tell. But your gains are impressive .. So best wishes and good luck with it all.