Collected wisdom from the vets and good gainers

As a newbie this thread has been very inspiring. I have started PE to improve erectile quality and gain length and girth as a secondary benefit. I am married to a great woman who is satisfied with my current size but not so much with my ED I got after coming home from Afghanistan. For some woman size definitely counts. My first wife was like this; never achieving orgasm with me without digital intervention. She had an affair with a rather well hung guy; I know because I came home from work and caught them at it. After a massive argument with her she admitted her boyfriend made her orgasm very easily. Well that marriage ended and I was left feeling shattered and inadequate for years. I
I hope I gain easily but am in this for the long haul. In the first month now but already my ED seems to have gone and my erections seem harder, fuller, and heavier.

As a newbie this thread has been very inspiring. I have started PE to improve erectile quality and gain length and girth as a secondary benefit. I am married to a great woman who is satisfied with my current size but not so much with my ED I got after coming home from Afghanistan. For some woman size definitely counts. My first wife was like this; never achieving orgasm with me without digital intervention. She had an affair with a rather well hung guy; I know because I came home from work and caught them at it. After a massive argument with her she admitted her boyfriend made her orgasm very easily. Well that marriage ended and I was left feeling shattered and inadequate for years. I
I hope I gain easily but am in this for the long haul. In the first month now but already my ED seems to have gone and my erections seem harder, fuller, and heavier.

Weighing in, luvdadus, on your inspiring thread to Newbies:

At age 56 I started experiencing ED. I thought it was simply age-related, but not so. It turned out that years of beta-blocker blood pressure medications combined with a thiazide diuretic had had their vascular toll. At the time I rarely had nocturnal erections or woke up with morning wood. Sex was becoming a _very_ iffy proposition and I began to avoid opportunities because of fear of failure. This fear/avoidance led to my receiving the highly-dubious Performance Anxiety Poster Boy Award for 1999.

One of the men at alt.support.impotence (links to this organization are listed at the top of MSHF) suggested pumping to me as a means of perhaps recovering some of my penile vascular losses. He said also not to be surprised if my dick got larger over time.

I had a nice dick in those days. 6 x 5.75, not real long but thick and I was pleased with it, except when I was flaccid. I’ve never been a shower. 2 inches was par and I’ve been extremely self-conscious about that since junior high. Given the possibility of reducing the level of my ED and increasing (maybe) my dick size, I started pumping, but more for ED than size.

After 4 – 5 months of pumping (no other PE exercises) I was an inch longer and had more girth. Nocturnal erections and morning wood were coming back. I needed a bit less Viagra to stay hard during sex. I was stoked.

Found PEForums first, which led me here. I have nothing bad to say about PEForums, however here at Thunder’s I found a membership much more interested in the “science” of PE and the comparative mechanics of getting results than in how far one can shoot and how to get laid more often. That stuff was gravy to me; I wanted quality erections and more flaccid size.

Rather than tell you what I’ve tried – a long laundry list of techniques that changed many times during my going on three years of active PE, it is easier to tell you that I did not hang, did no “blasters,” no reverse Kegels, or use sticks or devices other than the pump. Nothing wrong with any of these; they just didn’t fit my “style” or time budget.

At somewhere around 8 length, I was totally delighted with my erect size. By then the degree of my ED was much reduced. My penile vasculature was quite different – from smooth and no veins to very prominent veins and arteries. But flaccid gain lagged waaay behind. On a very good day I was 3 inches, no big whoop to me.

It was not until I began to experiment with cock rings that flaccid gain began to kick in. I wore a standard 3 snap leather cock/ball strap for about four hours after all PE workouts. Sometime later I had a series of PM and email conversations with Peforeal, who had the same flaccid intentions as I did, learned about his clever find of the Wrist Strap and began wearing one of those instead of the leather one for reasons of comfort. The cock/ball rings seem to have resolved my flaccid gain problem. Without one, I now hang 6 x 5.5 compared with the old, skinny 2 inches.

For the first time in 6 decades, I feel – inside my head – that I’m “hung.” More later about what that and the rest of this PE stuff means to me.

I went into “semi-retirement” at 8.39 x 6.39. Then (WTF?) I went up to 6.50 girth. Now, (WTF?), I’m pulling another extra half inch of length in my pump cylinder. That hasn’t cemented, but I don’t care if it ever does because I am a very happy camper.

Newbies: This is about stick-to-itiveness, not some sort of passive wish you might have. As DLD and others say, you have to visualize and you have to take the time - often taking it away from the rest of your life requirements - to stay with it.