Previously, I tried to post a rather long-winded message, but my DSL connection crapped out before I could send it & I lost the entire content of the message. Anyway, let me condense what I said in that previous, failed message. Wad is right, a woman can appreciate the ‘feel’ of a cock with lots of girth, much more than she can a ‘pencil dick’. Hell, my cock ‘feels’ huge in my hand, then I look down & I see good ol’ ‘Stubby’. Tactile sensations are important, I don’t question that at all, but we are a very ‘visual’ species. Aesthetics DO matter in all things. This is a fact, not just conjecture.
Hermann von Helmholtz, a very smart cookie I must say, believed vision to be a form of unconcious inference. This is basically a fancy way of saying that we unconciously size things up based on certain assumptions of the world around us, when we don’t have enough real data. This is a pretty good system & we are usually able to judge sizes & distances pretty well, men better so than women. Women got the better verbal skills, when the cards were dealt. But, the eyes, or rather the brain, CAN be tricked. Magicians do it all the time. And, even though this is not a optical illusion, in the strictest sense, the fact is that objects do ‘look’ smaller or larger, depending on their proportions. If you were looking at a 8”x8” cock NEXT to an 8”x6” cock, you would have no doubt in your mind which is the larger of the two. Because they are side by side, it is easy to see that the 8”x8” cock is much bigger overall. But, without this point of reference, this rather large cock would not look so big, merely fat.
MX, the people that you mention, ALL have much better proportioned cocks than me, especially you. It is very easy to say that length isn’t that important, when you have a surplus, especially in comparison to your girth. On the flip side of that coin, it is very easy for me to say that girth isn’t that important, since I have a surplus of girth, in comparison to my length. The true ‘ideal’ cock is probably somewhere in between. But, to illustrate my point, here is a breakdown on some of our proportions:
MX - 8.6250” bp x 5.875” = 1.47 - Another .625” girth & you have just about the perfect overall size.
Phat9 - 9.7500” bp x 7.000” = 1.39 - Very good proportion, but maybe too big & scary for some women. :D
Dino - 8.5000” bp x 6.500” = 1.31 - 6.5” of girth with 8.5” of length is about as good as it gets in the real world. Perfect girth & length for most women. IMHO
Me - 7.5625” bp x 7.375” = 1.03 - Can you say stubby, boys & girls, I knew that you could. :D Also, giving me head is a chore for most women. :(
MX, to have the same proportions as you, I would have to be almost 11” & I don’t see that happening. And, quite frankly, I wouldn’t want that much length. I think that 9” bp may be achieveable & this would give me a much better ratio of 1.22. Still not as good as any of you, but one that I can accept. I don’t think that I would want anything over 9”, even if it’s in better proportion. Because I like getting laid & considering my girth, this might just preclude much of that activity. :D
Wad, I know that your post wasn’t about symmetry, but I can honestly say that not once, have I heard a woman say, “God your cock is BIG!” It’s always, “God you have a FAT cock.” Some may say that this is splitting hairs, but in my mind, atleast, fat is NOT big. If I had 6” of girth I would be pretty happy with that considering my length. Anyway 6-6.5” girth is pretty much the ‘ideal’ for most women. Actually, at 6” girth, you are at just about the perfect thickness for not only sex, but for receiving blowjobs. While, most women I’ve been with, enjoy giving my cock a handjob, most get tired of trying to suck it VERY quickly. I think that everyone will agree, handjobs just aren’t the same.
I started kinda young, too young actually, so, at 36, I have had my fair share of sex. I only say this, because I know some may say, “You just haven’t been with enough women yet, just keep getting out there & you’ll hear a woman say it’s big.” And, while I know that they can obviously ‘feel’ my size, they don’t seem to be able to ‘see’ my size. I’m not much for being tied down, so I haven’t been in a real ‘relationship’ in quite a few years & even that lasted less than 3 years. And, the way that it ended, turned me off of the whole ‘couple’ thing, maybe for good. I would say that most of my ‘relationships’ now, are lucky to last a month, some no more than a single night. I, however, am not very happy that I can’t seem to trust women anymore, so I don’t want to come across as some kind of ‘Sam Malone’ or anything like that. I envy guys who are happily married & I would love to find a woman that I could grow old with, instead of just the very empty, meaningless, ‘hook-up’, but I digress. Anyway, in all of this time, no woman, not one, NONE, have ever said the magic word BIG. If you take my 6.75” nbp measurement into account, then the ‘visual’ presentation is even less impressive.
If you take the average sized cock into account, 5.875” nbp x 4.75”, that’s a ratio of 1.24 nbp. Before I got back into shape, I was about 6.25 nbp length, which is a ratio of about .85 nbp. While the .5 less fat in my pubic region has helped to make it look a little better, at a ratio of .92 nbp, it’s still not good enough. MX, Phat9, Dino, even you Wad, are all MUCH better proportioned than I am. Wad, you have the same length that I do, but you have 6” girth, I have 7.375”. I wonder if you had to look down at what I have every day, if you would still think that girth is so important? I know that you’ll probably say that you would still prefer more girth, but it’s easy to say, when you don’t have to live with it. I don’t want to sound like a whiner, because I know that a fat cock gives me a considerable edge over a guy with say, 4.75” girth, but that doesn’t change the fact that it looks much shorter than it is, because of the disproportional girth.
So, basically, to sum it up: Girth is NOT everything. IMHO, If you want to be known as BIG & not just FAT, you’re going to need a ratio of around 1.2 or better & a length of 7” or better. Guess what? All of the guys that I mentioned above qualify as BIG, except me. I’m going to need atleast 8.875” bp to achieve this ratio & be considered BIG. Hmmm.. Kinda sucks for me doesn’t it? But, in all fairness, it could be worse. I could have a 5”bp x 5”. So, it’s all relative, but I’d really like that BIG look.