GF says I'm selfish for doing PE

I don’t think anybody is selfish if they are working towards something that makes them feel better and happier. In many cases we PE for our own satisfaction. Ill bet she won’t complain once you get bigger though

She might complain a little because most of the time it’s fast pretty rough sex because thats how we both like it and sometimes she says that she’s too sore even the next day. I dunno what my goal is gonna do to her

Touchmyrod, you mentioned her eyes lit up when you were completely flaccid. How big are you flaccid?

Would she tell you your selfish for going to the gym? PE is just another body improvement. The only thing that is PE is very anti social because it usually time that you can only spend with yourself. When I was hanging I was hermit but when I did come out of my cave it was all worth it:) .

Hmm, am I the only one who understands the girl’s position? I mean, why are you doing it? I understand your insecurities, but if she’s really maintaining that it’s perfect, couldn’t she actually be telling the truth?

That said, I completely understand why you want more, but be sure to use her as a gauge - when she tells you to stop, (cause you’re gonna do it no matter what she or we say anyway:) ) stop.

But going to the gym probably doesn’t run the risk of making your sex life harder for her, so it’s not just another body improvement. Several members here have attested that size has started to become an intercourse problem, and therefore a relationship problem, with their girlfriends or wives. The practical definition of a dysfunction or addiction, is when it interferes with your normal life and relationships.

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I would think that’s a small number with most it’s more a power play and they are nervous that they are losing control and you may want to use your new bigger and better dick on someone else. At the rate one gains in PE 90% of women will easily adjust if they are the pe’ers regular sex partner.

This could be a real possibility.
She may go on the prowl if she had a breast enlargement and perhaps that would threaten boyfriend/husband.

That’s probably dead on. How many times have you seen a girl at the bar showing off her new breasts and feeling frisky? All the time.

Touchmyrod, I am in your situation now. I am doing PE and told my girlfriend about it a while back. However, she has stated that its perfect and fine and why would I want to change it? She mentioned selfishness as well. Its true, PE is not merely a body improvement like exercising because it carries into one’s sexuality. This area of sexuality is exclusive to you since you are the one who PEs, not her. I suppose it would make your partner feel left out since you are perceived to be doing something sexual without her.

If she is saying your dick is fine, then you have to acknowledge her view or else you are being selfish. That said, PE is about you. You are going to PE anyway, so try to bring her into the fold. You can explain what PE means to you and what you plan to achieve and more importantly why. Heck, ask her if she would want to help out! Show her what PE is, explain the exercises. Set goals together. Make it a relationship thing. That would take out the anti-social, sneakiness from PE. In short, try make PE about the both of you, not just you. I think you will go alot further with your gains.

Good luck on your achieving your goals dude.

I think the breast enlargement analogy hits it right on the head as far as understanding why she is uncomfortable with PE.

I really don’t have an opinion on touchmyrod’s problem. But I do know that everything is easier to understand when you take an unbiased look at it from another person’s perspective.

My wife has recently lost a lot of weight. I have found myself being a little uncomfortable with this, and this feeling surprised me. I thought I would be 100% happy about it.

So what I have is the little jealous boy in me who is uncomfortable with her being more attractive to men, (myself included), and the man in me seeing how much happier she is now.

We all have our insecurities whispering little things in our ear. Sometimes we have to tell them to shut up. Sometimes those who care about us have to let us have those insecurities.

Sheesh! Sounds like I am on Oprah or some fucking thing.

Yeah. Shut the fuck up! Hehe, just kidding. :P

I’d be too embarrassed to tell a girl I’m getting with (or been with) that I do PE exercises. Props on having an open relationship!

I think you don’t have to ask her a thing. This may sound stupid and agressive but your dick is just as it says, YOURS.

If you’re worried about causing any kind of pain or discomfort on her THEN it sounds acceptable (that’s what she states but I honestly suspect since you were her first).

Any other case it’s just selfishness of her, besides, I don’t think ANYBODY can have any rights from any part of your body. She’s your wife, not your owner. If you say to me that you want to rip your dick off or if she says to you that she wants to have giant silicone boobs, what could we say? We can only give our opinions (don’t rip it off, it’s very useful :D - I like your breasts the way they are/I wouldn’t like them to be very big/etc.), it would be very selfish (and illogical since we don’t have that right) if we put things that way - don’t do it, I don’t want YOU to do what you CAN do with YOUR body even if YOU want to.

:)

P.S.: Show her these posts, maybe she’ll change her mind. ;)
P.S.2: Search and show her the posts stating the amazing things PE did to a relationship (and for women’s pleasure). :)

I’m going to disagree just a little bit. If you’re married, or in a serious and committed relationship, you (and your body parts) don’t belong to just yourself. What you do with them matters a lot to someone else, and that should influence your decisions, even if the extent of the influence is just considering the other person’s point of view.

Let me give a non-PE example. Before I was in a serious, committed relationship, I kept my hair quite short. My hair is not great hair, and short means lower maintenance and longer time between necessary haircuts. My SO liked my hair better a little longer. No one would call my hair long now, but it is longer than it used to be. She has to look at it; I don’t. It’s still not a lot of work to care for.

Someone who wants to rip their dick off or get giant silicone boobs against the wishes of their partner is saying that ripping their dick off or having giant silicone boobs is more important than their relationship. I realize that those are extreme and absurd examples. I’m just saying that if you’re in a relationship, you, your body and your life are not entirely your own. If you think they are, then you’re not a couple; you’re just two people who happen to be together.