GF says I'm selfish for doing PE

I told her how much I want to gain in both length and girth and she’s against it. She says it’s perfect the way it is and says she couldn’t handle anymore. We’ve been together 7 yrs, have 1 kid and we do plan on getting married when finances will allow us to. I’m the only one she’s ever been with so I think that has a lot to do with it. When she asked why I told her for my own insecurities and she said it sounds like I am going to cheat on her since she thinks it’s perfect.big actually. Plus I don’t want to gain that much anyways.

She does think it’s big because this morning I flashed her and eyes just lit up and I was completely flaccid and quite a few times ill go jump in bed in only boxer briefs and when she comes in the room she’ll ask what I stuffed in there. That made me feel good because she said do you have my sock in there, then pulled off my boxers and said oh my god it looks so big.so what is a man to do in this kind of situation?

She’ll get used to it. If she is against you doing this for your own self esteem then she is the one being selfish imo.

I told my wife about PE this past Saturday night. She told me she was happy with my size now and didn’t think I needed to PE for size. She said she knows I’m above average now. I know that she knows she has to be careful when talking to a guy about the size of his penis. Kinda like a guy has to be careful about womens brests. So I told her I know its good enough now but if I could make it bigger would you rather length or girth? I told her I have already made it 1/2 longer and could work on lenght or girth independently if she prefered one over the other. All she would say is she is interested to see if I can do it. So no more hiding for me, shit I may even be able to get her to help me measure. But I don’t think she would understand if I told her I wanted to take a picture to post on the internet.

See I haven’t told mine that it’s actually possible and she doesn’t know I have an extender, an anti turtle sleeve, an ads or that I jelq and OCCASIONALLY hang. She told me it’s not even possible to make it bigger. Being insecure really isn’t a problem anymore since I have all positive PI’s and not one negative or neutral so I know it’s just a matter of time before the gains start. Since I started I’ve had better EQ and have been lasting longer and we’ve been having sex ALOT more, sometimes she’ll come 2 or 3 times while were having sex and then want more later that day but can’t because she says she’s too sore. Or she’ll masturbate later in the day after coming twice earlier. Our sex has gotten 10x better and she wants to try anal so I don’t want to be too big.

She does sound insecure. Try letting her know the PE is the reason for the better sex lately. Maybe that will help her except it better. Then when the gains start, she’ll have a better appreciation for it. In any event, if PE is helping you to have better sex, and your girl says she is happy with you current size (which I’m sure they all say until the gains kick in) anyway. Than I think this should be good enough.

Doing PE would be selfish if it’s done at the expense of your relationship. Some guys get crazy about it. You don’t sound like an obsessive, however.

Fit reasonably into your daily life it would be little different than working out to maintain your general fitness. In this case you are at least working to maintain and/or improve your sexual fitness. A reasonable woman ought to understand a man’s concern for that. I don’t know about you, but I’d like to have no need for Viagra for a long time to come.

True, but if she is insecure, she still might equate PE with enlargement only. If not explained properly, she might feel he just wants to try his new member out on other women. That’s why I think it’s important for him to explain all of the benefits of PE, not just the end results of a bigger dick.

Does anyone else agree?

I agree and I think thats the direction she’s going towards

Figure out a way to show and prove to her that you are doing this for her and you both! That should help a little.

Use the sexual health aspect, they can’t argue with that too much and then it is definitely for the two of you. Oh yeah, in the meantime if your dick gets bigger what the hell.

One day maybe she’ll say it’s too big and then you can celebrate.

My experience has been that women are completely insecure, and if they say they’re happy with your size, believe it. If you aren’t happy with that, then it is better to PE on the sly. I had to do it for my own self esteem and pleasure in achieving full contact in the vagina, but paid the price for being too honest.

Just tell her that she has the largest vagina you’ve ever experienced, and that you’re only PEing in order to grow your dick to fit her vagina. Then explain to her that once your dick is the right size, it will be too big for “normal” women, so she’ll have to stay with you forever and ever.

Yes I agree

He is already in the large ball park. He may even get bigger. He needs to explain that PE may keep it from shrinking and possibly ward off erectile dysfunction in the future.

You’re on the large side to begin with, and if she is on the small side then it is entirely possible that you are as big as she can take, and any more could become a problem for her. Several members here have posted about running into exactly that difficulty just a bit above your starting size range.

I think PE can be selfish if it doesn’t take into account that female partners can have real limits of comfort, and that there are some women out there who genuinely have small vaginas just as guys have small penises. And not all female partners may want to have sex turn into a time-consuming exercise of preparation and positioning for the rest of your sex life, just to accomodate male vanity.

FF

I’m on the large side to start? Well thats good news, I thought I was average. However she is not on the small side, not sure about her vagina though but after 7 yrs it still feels pretty tight and I can feel everything inside her. I do know everything she likes and I know exactly how to get her off EVERY time. Maybe thats why she thinks it’s perfect.