Mental aspect of a pe routine.

Hi, before I get into my question, let me introduce myself to the board as I’m fairly new.

I’ve been a lurker, I guess you could call it, for a few years now. It’s incredible I’ve been looking at pe boards for a long time now and haven’t posted more then a handful of times. I do a little pe experimenting here and there, but I’ve yet to really jump headfirst into a pe routine. I just could never get myself into it, but I’ve always come to these boards because it gave me such an incredible amount of knowledge as far as sexual health, self confidence, and just so many other things. I seriously believe that all males should have access to the knowledge that is being held on these boards by so many members and threads. It’s amazing how much you can learn just from the experiences and knowledge of others. Anyway, here’s a little background on myself and why I looked into pe before I get into my question.

I guess I started off a little late as far as sex, so I was always very worried about how the opposite sex would view my penis size. I’m a 6’2, young black male, who’s heavily influenced by the whole hiphop culture, so you know the perception most females would have of my penis size. Most people call me a pretty boy, and I’ve never had to much of a problem with the ladies. My insecurities with penis size however kept me from getting to far with most females I ever dealt with though until my current girlfriend came along. We’ve been together for a year and a half, and things have gone great. She was my first and has been my only so far, and we’ve had a very healthy sex life which has had a very positive influence on my confidence. I attribute my healthy sex life to the knowledge I learned off of this board and other pe boards, which allowed me to look past my penis size and know I can still pleasure a women without having a small raft sticking from out my pants. At first I was skeptical if I was truly pleasing her like she said, but I never brought up the issue to her. It wasn’t until one of her friends hit on me off the strength of the things my girlfriend was saying about me, that I knew I was truly pleasing her. After that my self confidence shot up.

The only problem now is I’ve had a hard time getting myself mentally in tune with a pe routine. I start off and commit, at the longest, a week to a routine. It is just very hard to get myself to consistently start a routine. Pe, is not life or death to me, but it’s always had the option to improve on my penis and I want to act on it. I’ve always told myself, your sex life is great now, just imagine if you started pe when you first learned about it. I’d be damn near unstoppable.

I just want to know what advice do you guys have in mentally preparing yourself for the start of a pe routine? Wether you’ve been at it for 3 years or 3 weeks, I’m just curious to know how you mentally prepared yourself to start a routine. I know some did it easier then others, but any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry for the long drawn out post also. I guess I have 3 years worth of pe posts and replies inside of me.

And to anyone who’s curious, my starting measurements are

6.5” erect nbp length
5” girth

Not the biggest but not the smallest.

Hi GVF,
That’s a great post, and those are some pretty good starting stats as well. If you do decide to begin PE regularly I’m sure you’ll do well.

As far as motivation goes, you sound pretty secure in yourself, and that can be a bit of a drawback. :)

Me, I’m doing this out of a massive sense of insecurity. Other guys here are doing this to boost their egos. Other guys are doing it to please their wives. Still others are doing it because they started it, got gains, and can’t seem to stop!
Once you’re clear on your reasons for wanting a larger schlong, and once you’ve decided exactly how much you’re willing to pay in terms of time and effort, maybe your motivation problems will vanish. Then all you have to do is keep your eyes on the prize.

Whatever you decide, best of luck.

Givemefreedom,

PE isn’t a matter of life or death to me either. If I only had <4”EL it probably would be. I’ve been PEing for 10 weeks and I’m not gaining yet, but one of the things that keeps me going is the fact that I now experience harder erections (I’ve had a few ab-so-lute-ly steel hard!). It’s is also much more sensitive now, and I enjoy sex in a way I havent done for years. Other nice thing are that it just looks in better shape and much more frequently hangs nice and low.

So, the health aspects alone will keep me motivated.

Firstly that is excellent news, I am truly jealous. Anyway I do my routine with the mindset:
- The only way to get bigger is to do this
- The only way to get stronger erections is to do this
- You cant’ miss any days, the only need for a day off is when you need a break or need to recover.

Also I think getting the right time to do PE is crucial. At first I used to have problems with privacy and fitting in a PE routine to my daily life. Now I do PE at times when I am least likely to get disturbed, and when I am not with my girlfriend. Once you find a routine that suits you, you must stick to it or you will get nowhere, theres not really much point in doing a week here and there.

Also like Yipee said - I am insecure and want a bigger dick so that drives me. Maybe you should take a really cold shower, then run round the streets naked. If anyone says you have a small dick use this to motivate you. Nah to be serious now, good luck with the getting stuck in to a routine and for future gains.

melv :)

First things first..

6.5NBPx5 is above average or at least a very high average so i can see why don’t see this as life or death but you have the potential to obtain a MASSIVE DICK. That is good motivation as it is. You seem pretty confident now but imagine how confident you would be with a 8x6 between your legs. PE also improves your flaccids pretty quickly, thats one of the first things you will probably notice, and it looks impressive.

As for mentally preparing yourself for a routine, to start with you have to force yourself to do it, but when you are actually doing it, jelqing or whatever, you will think ”What was all that fuss about, this is actually quite fun!”

After 2 weeks of PE, it will become a habit and you’ll get used to it, then after you see your first gains you will be addicted and no-one will be able to stop you!

Good Luck Man

“Maybe you should take a really cold shower, then run round the streets naked. If anyone says you have a small dick use this to motivate you.”

That is some funny stuff ! I think I just might do that tonight…

You can also think of PE as an exercise you would do to improve your chest, shoulders or biceps. Your dick isn’t quite the same as those muscles, but if you think of it this way and set your expectations the same you will see results.

If you wanted to add mass to your chest or arms you might hit the gym or buy dumbbells and a bench or do many pushups several times a week. It takes dedication and hard work to achieve the look you want, months perhaps. Well, PE is the same!

A daily regimen needs to be setup and stuck too. If you miss a day here and there it’s ok. But basically you must stick to the routine. Personally, after every morning shower, I spend 10 to 15 minutes manually stretching. About 10 months later I have clearly measurable results to be proud of! You are starting out pretty big already… imagine one quick year from now having a considerably larger dick… and as others have already said, you may enjoy your workouts and stick to it like so many of us have.

Thats true about the weight lifting comparision. I think it would take me about a year to put an inch on my arms, it will most likely take a year to put an inch of length on me and girth. Although, the inch of girth on my penis looks like a lot more than the inch on my arms.

Thanks for the positive replies guys. Like I said, I’ve been lurking at pe forums for a long time now, and it never seems to amaze me just how much knowledge you guys have. What’s even better is how open and supportive this forum is, I can’t tell you how many times I may have been reading a post where I was able to relate to a problem or question another poster had, and it was answered and dealt with so great, I felt like you guys were helping me out.

But enough with the ass kissing, haha.

Anyway I’m going to start a routine tomorrow. Privacy, luckily to me, is never an issue as my computer is in the basement and I’m a night owl type person. I’m going to start off small and go for maybe 15 mins a day. Two on and one off. I’ll slowly work up from there. I’m also going to start contributing regularly to the board in the hopes that it also helps me to jumpstart my routine and most importantly, stick with it on a consistent basis.

Anyway if anyone else has anymore tips or ways you mentally prepare yourself to keep with the routines, by all means, share the knowledge with this youngblood. I hear of guys who are 50 years old, sticking with this, and I’d love to be where some of you are at when I get that age, with an active and healthy sex life. I’ve never been the type of person to easily do something like this and keep with it. I’m hoping to turn a new leaf and change that starting with pe.

One thing that has helped me stick with the routine is a simple mental trick that I unintentionally induced on myself. Simply put, at the end of my routine I do my jelqs, and when I’m done with those I give myself the happy ending. I know a lot of forum members say this is a no-no, but the jury’s still out on that subject. At any rate, they’re the best orgasms I’ve ever given myself, and I have them consistently every time I PE. So, now I associate great orgasms with PE, and whenever I feel like jerking off, PE comes to mind. Naturally, like any guy, that feeling hits me pretty much every day. Just call me Pavlov’s Dog. Show me a hot chick and all of a sudden I’m PEing. Mental association is a wonderful thing.

Luckly for me, determination was never the problem with me.
From what I can remember I never quited stuff just like that, even if I had a reason I would usually delay quitting stuff.

But I can still give you some advice, see how that works for you.
Try to imagine the biggest cock you think there is, sticking out between your legs. You just walk around town and girls give you their phone numbers while looking at that thing. (well you have a g/f so it doesn’t work for you)
Now look at your’s, and think how bad you’d really want that cock. And know there’s quite an easy way to get it. I think it’s worth the 15 mins a day for that cock.

Plus, starting to see gains, feeling your dick bigger and strong makes it all worth it in the start.

And I, too think this forum is amazing, from few forums I’m in (not PE) there is no place to compare what so ever the level of the people, and the knowledge being passed between people, and with really great people that almost always are willing to help.

Sorry for grammar and other mistakes that might be in the text.
It’s hard for a 15-year old which english isn’t he’s native language to type these kind of posts. Hoping my english doesn’t take the forum quality by much. (btw just found the spell checker, heh, neat.)

Hey PEler,

Come back when you are eighteen.

So that’s where that bouncing noise came from!

Hey Givemefreedom, check out this thread about motivation:

Guys, don’t let this happen to you…stay focused on PE dammit!

Thanks man. I’ve been inconsistently doin some pe, but at it consistent inconsistency if that makes sense haha. But lately I’ve been having a problem keeping it up, sometimes it stays hard forever, other times it will stay semi hard but not that rock hard erection I want.

Anyways I’m (going to try) starting a consistent routine tonight, can’t count how many times I’ve said that. 15 minutes a day, 2 on/ 1 off, until I’m consistent enough to push myself further.

And thanks for the link. I’ll give this a look.

Don’t say you’re going to try, say YOU WILL start a consistent routine. Making contracts with yourself is quite powerful stuff.

And I’ve been like you, on and off. But I’ve recently started the newbie routine, and this time I’m going to stick with it. Just think back where you could’ve been if you started PE as soon as you discovered it. That is what motivates me now.