sitting with legs apart

Okay i’d hate to say it, but under the guise of anonymity, I sit like a girl. Whether it was growing up with only my 4 sisters and my mom as role models I don’t know.

Whenever I think about it, I try to correct it by sitting with my legs more open. But most of the time I don’t think about it, I sit with one leg resting on the knee of the other one. I never fully cross them, but I still have had comments about it.

I was wondering if anybody has successfully trained themselves out of doing this and what methods they used ?

I don’t think that its much of an issue really.

I find myself in open, semicrossed, fully crossed and I don’t worry about girlishness or not in regards to these. Maybe I’m missing something - I don’t know. Nobody says anything to me, but then I can probably kick every ass in the room if it came down to it. Maybe that is why I don’t sweat shit like that.

I did it, too. It was automatic. It felt comfortable, more comfortable than other ways of sitting - still does - although in fact this posture is not at all good for leg and foot circulation.

The only thing you can do is torture yourself and be uncomfortable for a long, long time. Maybe always. Everytime you sit, force yourself to butch-it-up and spread your legs, feet firmly (always) on the floor. You will hate this.

Pretend, no matter whom you are sitting with, that you are an Oakland Raider who coincidentally has been doing very successful PE.

You’ve got big balls now. A very big dick. You can’t easily cross your legs without cramping your meat. Also, it is your “unintentional” purpose to expose your meat through your pants by keeping your legs spread at all times.

I know some of you, including esac, will think I am being facetious here. I am not.

Hint: While you master this technique you will have an almost overwhelming urge to lock your hands behind your head. Do not do this because in body language that indicates a state of self-insecurity or doubt. Instead, lean slightly forward, elbows on knees, looking the person you are addressing directly into one of their eyes, preferably moving from one eye to the other.

With practice, you will get it. But you will not feel totally comfortable all the time.

luvdadus says a whole lot of wise things. I listen to them all, and very carefully.

But if one were sitting in a room with The Boss, The Manager, and the very svelt and lovely Corporate Project Coordinator, kicking ass is maybe not the image esac is going for, I’m thinking. :-)

You are right. Being raised with 5 women, I tend to hold myself in a more feminine manner. I hate it. I am comfortable in the fact that I have a woman so I don’t have to worry about picking anybody up, but I really hate it when people ask if I might be gay. Not that there is anything wrong with that of course, just nobody likes to be asked if they are something they aren’t :) So I am trying to change as much of that as I can.

I only rest my foot or my ankle on my knee.

>>luvdadus says a whole lot of wise things. I listen to them all, and very carefully.

But if one were sitting in a room with The Boss, The Manager, and the very svelt and lovely Corporate Project Coordinator, kicking ass is maybe not the image esac is going for, I’m thinking. :-) >>

Excellent point, I do need to watch body language more.