Talk me out of getting bigger (At the end of my PE journey but still want to continue

Yeah, I guess what it comes down to is where you draw the line in terms of size, and ideal size is more of a mean average than anything else. Maybe I should do some more reading in the ideal size threads.

One problem I have is that I don’t have sex. I’m a shut-in for want of a better word and so I get no feedback.

Edit: Having said that, going back to something you wrote in your post: “…until you get above 6” most here do not seem to report many issues.” Again, it comes back to the notion of an ideal size, which is based on an average taken from a sample group of sexual encounters. “…most do not […] report many issues.” meaning (presumably) : most report issues, but not many issues, below 6” girth

…I’m thinking that I don’t want to get large enough that there are really any issues at all.

I’ll leave my comments for PE concerns.

I’d focus your energy on getting out and meeting new people. Your penis is just fine. Get out and enjoy your life.

Thanks. That’s one thing that’s been really difficult for me. I have anhedonia and social anhedonia and being around people just makes me feel bad.

I used to attend depression support groups but it just made me more depressed so I stopped, but I’m going to start attending different kinds of groups through meetup.com so maybe things will change. I think I just need to work on it.

Get out and attend the meetings.

Yeah, I think I need to. There’s one tomorrow. I think I’ll get myself along to it.

Huge first step.

I realized I could create a 11x8 penis and it wouldn’t change what I needed changed.

To Mr. F,

Hobbies are good entertainment but creating a whopper of a dick and having no sex seems like a waste of resources.
Unless admiring your work of art and masturbating really does it for you.
But if you can find joy in it, why not?
Different strokes, as they say (no pun intended).
If they have support groups for others with your malady, that might work.
You might join a gym and try to develop the rest of your body as well. Exercise releases endorphins that combat depression. You could burn some calories and improve your health while doing it.

@Titleist: You know I think this might totally be the wrong place for this thread. Maybe it’d be better in Love Life and Fantasies, or maybe it shouldn’t be at Thunder’s at all.

Maybe this place really has changed that much since I was a regular here, or maybe I’ve changed, or maybe my memory of the place is off, or maybe it’s a little of all of those.

Maybe it’s best just to let this thread sink.

I guess so, although I didn’t manage to get there today.

I’ve been to social groups for people with depression and we’d go to pubs and clubs and things but it ended up making me feel worse. I think probably because I wasn’t fitting in with the regulars. Having depression is a pretty arbitrary reason for getting together and the core group that formed (because they’re the majority) consisted of the most regular type of everyday people, which I’m not. I’m hoping that things will be different now that I’m going to be attending groups that are more focused in terms of theme…? …but who knows.

Yeah, I had a psychiatrist tell me that it’ll never be big enough. I don’t really know what he meant, I think he misread why I was doing it, but it’s worth mentioning.

I guess you can insert whatever it means for you at the end of that phrase: “It’ll never be big enough to/for (your reason here)”. I guess for me it would be: “…to make women consider me a viable partner”; or maybe: “…to make all of my fantasies of having a new life in some delusionally idyllic world of pornoland come true.”

Maybe he just meant it’ll never be big enough to make me happy.

I know. I used to think I was using the abundance of time I’ve got on my hands to at least achieve something worthwhile, but it’s frustrating that I never get to use it.

I have to say that’s a big part of the enjoyment for me but I’m getting tired really tired of watching porn.

I think I’m going to do that. I think that’s probably the next step for me. I might defer attending the groups until I’ve got back to the gym and lifted my mood a bit. Also, my finances are a wreck and need a little attention before I start splurging on nights out…

…I’ve kind of got my work cut out for me but because of the depression it looks like a mountain to climb.

You can do it. Just got to accept putting the work in will suck for a time before you start seeing the results. Also quit the porn now,.. For good. You will be surprised how this will improve your life. Depending on how long you’ve been abusing it it may take months before you feel different. Don’t cheat, stay off it for good. It will be hard. Read Your brain on porn. It’s all true.

Sounds to me like that’s exactly what he meant.

Do it. I’m bipolar myself and there’s literally nothing better for making me feel more in control of my emotional state than lifting.

Thanks, I think I will quit the porn, I’m pretty sick of looking at it to be honest.

And yeah I’ve been really depressed the last few days and everything was looking impossible to me but I’m feeling a bit better today and things at least look manageable now.

Yeah, I remember working out before and it making a massive difference to me. I keep meaning to get back to it.

I’m going to get a diary and start recording my progress and my moods and I’ll start small with bathing daily, making my bed etc. and doing stuff around the house daily as a form of exercise and see if I can build my stamina that way. I’ll work on my finances too and once they’re a little better I’ll join a gym. I think if I can get to that point, I’ll have a pretty good basis for working on building something like a proper life for myself.

Congratulations on your goal, how about continuing your studies, two stones with one bird am I right, who knows, might meet someone special.

Your interests are what make you interesting having someone with the same interests is even more interesting, as long as it is interesting to you the most, some people like cars some people like rocks some people like stars and some people like socialising, you see where this is going.

You have places where all sorts of people go, car events, astrology centres, museums, libraries you see where this is going too.

PE is a goal to me nothing less nothing more when I’m done I’m gone, I’d let everyone know first of course.