Today, she said, "Stop"

I did not think it would happen this early, but today we threw down in the bedroom, and after much wrestling, she said, “You need to stop making your dick bigger.” I asked, “Why?” She answered, “Because it hurts when you put it all the way in.”

I have not taken a solid erect measurement in a while, but I had taken several flaccid stretched measurements and noticed a substantial increase. In the past this has always translated into erect gains as well. Sometime ago I began hitting and pushing past her cervix. No complaints there. I suppose now I am going even deeper. During the last week or so of sex I’ve noticed a tighter feel. Actually, it feels more like there is a lack of lube, but she is actually lubed as much as usual. I figure the increased girth is causing more friction. But she has not complained about the girth.

So, my question is this: If I stop all length work will she, over time, adjust to the length, and then I can start back up? Is it possible for the woman to adjust in this way?

Now don’t take any of this wrong. Sex is better than ever for both of us. She speaks of it often and initializes the action more than ever before PE. The problem is that she loves for our pubic bones to bump and grind. So do I. Hence, if my length is now at the maximum that she can handle while bone to bone, then I do not want to go any further with length … UNLESS she is able to adjust to the size over time.

As a side note I might add that she is in the middle of the 28 day cycle and I understand this is when a woman’s vagina is at its smallest. This may have been one reason for her comment.

I await the wisdom and experience of others. I don’t want to ruin a good thing - our sex life, that is - NOT even for a bigger tool.

May I ask how long and thick you are?

Sound like you are atleast 9x7?

And may I ask why would you assume him to of that particular size?

I guess you have to choose, be massive and fill her at all times but no grinding. Be big but not always fill her completely but always you can grind.

Actually, thinking about it you just need to learn more positions and which is appropriate at that time of month for her. Your going to have to think more during sex about what you can do that week and whats going to hurt her. As your head expands, so must your brain :p
She may not realise this herself which is why she said to stop rather then just alter your position, mention it to her and try out the theory? :D

‘Size is nothing without control’ :worthy:

go into girth mode……

How big we takin’ here bro?

Can you feel the “bottoming out”?

Maybe you made it to the “enough is enough” piont….

LOL, not hardly.

The last good erect measurement I had was 7.25 x 5.5. However, since that time my stretched length has made a substantial increase. In the past erect length increase followed right along.

The problem is that I started at 6 x 5 just last November. So she has adjusted to what I would estimate at this time to be close to 1.5 inches in new length and maybe just over a .5 increase in girth in 6 months. In about the past month I’ve hit a spurt of growth again.

I am going into the girth mode for sure. There is room and to spare there. I’ll just do light length work to maintain gains. And I think I’ll sit down and have that serious PE talk with her to see where I go from here. I told her about PE not long after I became a believer. She has loved ever benefit from it and gives progress comments after our nude wrestling matches.

As far as hitting bottom, if I did I was not aware of it. So maybe there is room for more length and she just needs time to adjust to what has jumped out as of late. The last thing I want to do is screw up our screwing. We have an excellent sex life, especially since the PE venture began.

Thanks for your comments. I welcome any and all.

Yes.

My wife was also “complaining” (not that you could call it that!) that I was getting too long (at less than 7 inches, yeah right!) for her, especially when doing it doggy style.

Last night she admitted that a little more wouldn’t hurt as she had become used to my new size. I gained a lot quickly and I think that that has a lot to do with it. She simply needs time to adjust to your new size.

Mines at 7.25 and in certain positions it does hurt her (made her eyes water last time :) ), but she likes it. I’m not going to go much longer though, since I like being able to push it in all the way to the hilt :)

I’ve been fucking a Check pornstar lately and she tells me I should be a male porn actor with the size of my dick (7,3x5,7) :) Anyway, I hit bottom when doing her doggystyle, so I guess she hasn’t adjusted to the big guns of the male porn actors or they have smaller dicks than I’ve got.

My guess is that your girlfriends get adjusted to the feeling of a bigger dick, but doesn’t adjust physically, so if you feel that you hit her cervix it’s a good time to stop your lenghtening routine. Check out the this chart for optimal penise size (which of course is individual to every woman): The Ideal Penis Size - The Penis Size Preference Chart: preferred penis size, penis shape and penis looks.

As for vaginas adapting to increased length, you can consider trying a thick cockring over the low-/baseshaft. I’ve found 8mm thick black rubber rings with 5 different inner diameters, $5 each. It effectively halts normal thrusting without any discomfort for either partner.

Currently at 8.25” BPEL, my gf hasn’t said anything other than hints and tell tale signs during intercourse, clearly suggesting that it’s plenty long for her at times when her vagina isn’t fully tented from arousal (note: I’m not talking about the cervix here).

Before gaining another 1/2” or so, I will likely start using the 8mm and see how she adapts over time.

Do only girth work for a couple of months then you can reassess the need for more length.

Something I have wondered with all the cul de sac/hitting bottom talk is if there is a certain length, seems like around 7, that you hit the cervix in some women, but are not able to push past it and hit the cul de sac. If I understand this correctly, it is like and intermediate length that is uncomfortable, but if you gained some more length, and were able to hit bottom, it would be pleasurable?