Family Secret
I would definitely pass it on as soon as he’s emotionally and socially mature enough to handle it in a healthy manner.
The entry into adolescence and adulthood talk that I’ve given to my nephews (my own son isn’t old enough yet) have all worked out really well.
All frank and in a matter of fact manner.
Presented with respect and providing information that you wished you had growing up, and all the while bearing in mind that it isn’t about you.
The feedback I get is pure relief. I think it works better after they’ve been experiencing the changes for a while so they know what you’re talking about though.
High school is an important time where they make or potentially break their futures.
It’s hard enough for them as it is, let alone obsessing over things that don’t matter through shame and or confusion.
That means better grades and a less moody teen! Healthier choices because they have real information that their teachers aren’t allowed to give, and their moron buddies bullshit information about those same issues won’t stick.
With the issue of drugs, it helps to have someone they know like a relative or whatever that overdid it and stuck with the long term effects. I tell them “Whether we like it or not, you probably will experiment. Just don’t overdo it. Just look at so and so. See him? Yeah? Well that’s a damn good reason to say no to drugs. What do you think?” First comes the micro expression of fear, and then the smile and “Yeah!”
(Sorry, I don’t mean to hijack the thread. Overall this is a father-son talk thing, but back to the topic now)
I’m planning the same with my son.
However, with the PE talk much later on.. It will be passed on as a “Family Secret” that is passed on from father to son and should be given the respect that family secrets are due.
Even if size doesn’t matter to the boy, penile health is the last piece of the puzzle.
We train together and he’s quite the little athlete (I’m definitely not going to PE with him though. I’ll show him what to do initially though if I think he can handle it. If I have any doubts I’ll just get him to sign up here at Thunders!) Why not have the benefit of a healthy body that includes a healthy penis that will see him through good and bad times with a greater quality of life.
One negative could be that you wouldn’t be asking each other “How’s it hanging!” after that.
To withhold PE information that you know works for you (considering shared genetics) could lead him to damaging his unit if he ever tries PE uneducated.
Gents, remember how long it took you to see what techniques/routines etc worked for you to get healthy results? Maybe some injuries that could’ve been avoided? Wasted time and focus on techniques/routines that just don’t work for you that work for everyone else?
If you were an athlete and you had an edge, wouldn’t you pass that on?
EG. Body building - which exercises make optimum use of your genetics and overcoming weak points; Boxing - 1 shot liver punch knockout that you know you work better than anyone you know; Baseball - the perfect pitch; Academia - Better study and memory techniques; etc etc.
Why wouldn’t you pass it on?
Remember with kids, it’s not about you it’s about them. Ultimately, they’ll be making their own decisions.
Why not school them up so that they can choose, not guess?