Fear of PE, risk reward relationship

Bib comments on telling the wife:

>Well, mine did also. It took me about six months to work up the courage to bring PE out in the open. I just did not like hiding something from her, knew she would understand, but just had to find the right timing and setting to tell her. It’s all good.<

Bib,

If there is one thing that has helped me the most so far, I would have to say telling my wife about PE is it.

I’m glad you mentioned it. It’s much more exciting anticipating the gains together compared to being a “closet” PE’er.

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DA,

Shit, I missed this post also. I think I am losing my mind.

If I have missed any other posts, just bump them to the top, PM me, kick me in the head, whatever. I guess i have relied on the little read/unread thingies on the left side. I will have to go through a bunch of posts to see what else I have missed.

>If there is one thing that has helped me the most so far, I would have to say telling my wife about PE is it. <

I agree with this totally.

If you have not seen it before, I told my wife about PE while on a fairly long drive, just the two of us. She could not get away. hehe. While she did not draw back, and listened, by the end of the trip, she was on my team. She of course gave all the old, tired remarks about my penis being fine, but said she would support me, and she has completely.

>I’m glad you mentioned it. It’s much more exciting anticipating the gains together compared to being a “closet” PE’er.<

By the time I told her, I already had some good gains. She knew something was up. But after, she was interested in the gains. First becasue of how much better the sex was, and later, when it began to be too big.

The overall process was much better and actually more fun for having told her.

Bigger

You say “when it started to get too big”

Just wondering - can you still get pelvis to pelvis with your wife - i mean do you bottom out before you are completely inside her?

BigJ,

>Just wondering - can you still get pelvis to pelvis with your wife - i mean do you bottom out before you are completely inside her?<

Yes. The only posiiton we can get next to each other is ‘spooning’. There, I can go as far as I wish with no problems.

Bigger

Yes. The only posiiton we can get next to each other is ‘spooning’. There, I can go as far as I wish with no problems.

spooning???

spooning:

stack two spoons and lie them on their sides….you know spooning.

Hi everyone! I’m fairly new to this forum (joined in October). But I have done so much reading, here, in the past month that I feel like I already know a bunch of you. This is a great group, and I am overjoyed that I found this place. It has been very encouraging and educational to go through so many of the posts. Amazing!

My background is similar to some of yours. I was raised by conservative, religious parents in a small, southern town. We didn’t even talk openly about sex, let alone the instruments used in the process. ;) Hehe. I grew up a grower instead of a shower, so always assumed from locker-room comparisons that I had a somewhat less than average tool. I know better now, but it was still a frustrating experience for a young man.

In my 20’s, my long-term, live-in g/f measured my erect and bone-pressed penis (we had no idea that there was a right or wrong way to measure back then), and got a 7” length. It was probably about 3” flaccid and about 6” nbp. Depending upon whose surveys you consider valid, I was by most standards about “average” back then. We didn’t think to measure girth, but I’m guessing I was about average there, also. One thing for sure, though…sex never seemed “average”. It always felt incredible. “The worse I ever had was wonderful” as the saying goes.

After a long and torturous marriage, where the sex was pretty good but there was very little love or respect, I divorced about three years ago. BTW, this was not the g/f mentioned earlier. I should have married her! I’m now 50, and have lost some length over the years, and more noticeably some girth. :( Still, it never seemed like a major deal until recently.

After my divorce, I met a woman I thought to be the love of my life (We were engaged for about a year). The sex always seemed to be outstanding, and she normally (and easily) had 3 or 4 orgasms during many of our love-making sessions. In spite of her frequent compliments about my abilities as a lover, she usually coupled those comments with a plea for me to gain some weight…and, eventually became downright insulting about it. I’ve always been on the slender/athletic side, but during my year-long divorce battle I lost a LOT of weight and became rather gaunt. My ex-financee’ never came right out and said it, but I believe her real issue with my “size” was related to my penile girth which is a bit below average (4.5”). We broke up over other issues, but I can still feel the sting of a comment she made in a web forum regarding her “ex” having a “small package”!! That did it for me!!! Fired me right up!

I am very goal oriented, and never settle for less than my best. My new PE goals are set before me as my highest challenge to date. I am determined to be 8” x 6” within the next 12 months, with an ultimate goal of at least 9 x 7. I won’t be satisfied until neither I nor any lover I have can reach all the way around my penis. I have just started with PJ’s, JAI’s, and pumping. My BiB starter in supposed to arrive this week. I will be careful not to overdo it, but plan to work up to 3-4 hours a day, 5 on 2 off. A year from now, I’d love to run into my ex and say, “Hey, you got a minute? I want you to measure something for me!” Haha!

I started seriously working out back in the summer, and have already gained 15 pounds of solid muscle…and I’m not even close to being through yet. Who says it’s all down hill after 50? I’m on a roll, and am transforming every part of me that I can. My self-esteem was in the dumper after my last romantic break-up, but I’m not one to take things like that lying down. I know what I want, and I am going after it with a vengeance!

Sorry this was so long! Now you know my life’s story. You’ll be hearing more from me as I mark off incremental increases along the way to my goals.

Let’s all get hung!!!

bigjack

Welcome bigjack…..may the PE gods smile upon you.

:)

Hey, thanks for the welcome, bbs!! I’m smiling already, but I’ll be grinning like the Cheshire cat once I register some PE gains. Then Alice in Wonderland will be in for some REAL surprises!! ;)

bigjack

So, what are your thoughts on the fear of PE-hanging, and your stance on the risk reward relationship? I never really had a fear of hanging- I knew it would work. I DO have a fear of the heavier weights at this point in time, though. I am hoping as I progress those fears will vanish- kind of like when you start lifting weights benching 300 pounds seems like it would rip your arms off your body, but then one day you can do it. The risks are small and the rewards are great IF YOU CHECK YOUR EGO AT THE DOOR. I am surprised that there have been injuries from going too fast since I have been gone and we last had this discussion on pushing too hard too fast a month or so ago. I guess no matter how often it is repeated that there will be guys that ignore this advice.

What is your level of confidence? My level of confidence is really high. I just had hernia surgery and would have been embarrassed by the pre-surgical shave a few months ago, but now I hang flaccid even when scared shitless :) Like a lot of guys I went through psychological hell for many years because of a small dick- that won’t happen EVER again. I also can last as long as I want now during sex. I can handle a 20-30 minute blowjob and as much intercourse as she can handle before I decide to cum. I told my G/F about PE and she is really into sucking me to get me to my max size before we fuck. Believe me, blowjobs are way better than pumping- LOL.

How have you handled the Puritan taboos? I never really had to overcome the taboos from a religious standpoint- although there have been days when I sit here in disbelief that i am hanging weights off my dick :) It is almost surreal.

How far would you go to have a bigger penis? I am in this for the long haul. I will go as far as I am comfortable with, but when the risks seem to be getting too high from a possible injury standpoint I will stop.

2in2002,

> So, what are your thoughts on the fear of PE-hanging, and your stance on the risk reward relationship?<

Well, I started out as scared as anyone about what I was doing to my penis. With time and experience, I quickly gained confidence and learned a hell of a lot about my penis. I went overboard sometimes, thought I had made myself impotent a few times. Freaked out every once in a while. I learned I could get whatever I wanted, as long as I put the effort into it, and that the effort was sane, and I had a plan. Mainly just used common sense.

>What is your level of confidence?<

As for myself, I had no problems after a while doing any of the things I did. For new things, new angles etc., I eased into it, learned, and then applied what I learned.

>How have you handled the Puritan taboos? I never really had to overcome the taboos from a religious standpoint- although there have been days when I sit here in disbelief that i am hanging weights off my dick It is almost surreal.<

First, I never got ‘caught’. After my wife knew about my hanging, it was a little strange the first time she saw me doing it. Both of us quickly got over it. My inhibitions about PE lasted about a month maybe. I realized I was not doing anything bad with my peepee. Self improvement, period. Now, I get a little pissed about the way the penis is presented in our culture. It is a body part, not the evil of the male physique.

>How far would you go to have a bigger penis?<

I went a hell of a long way. The trip was well worth it, and if I had to do it again, I would.

Bigger

>”I went overboard sometimes, thought I had made myself impotent a few times. Freaked out every once in a while.”<

I can definitely relate to this…

Now, I get a little pissed about the way the penis is presented in our culture. It is a body part, not the evil of the male physique.

elaborate on this if you would Bib…. why get mad?

Johnny,

I would not say mad, just a little irked. The 50% of the population born with a penis first cannot help it, and second, should not have to act like it is radioactive.

Think of the ways it is portrayed in common media. Either funny, odd, or evil. Rarely, if ever, sexual such as with womens breasts or hips, etc.

Bigger

Your comments are so very true, although it took your post for me to actively think about it. A woman in tight jeans is ‘hot’ or ‘sexy’. A guy in tight jeans showing off his package is ‘rude’ or ‘showing off’. I have never heard a positive comment (at least in my prescence) from a woman when a guy is being obvious about his endowments.