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I have a PE progress thread running already … I wanted to start another one up focussing solely on improving my sexual performance … I think it will get more views and input if it is in its own thread … this is far far more important to me than increasing size … I will still be aiming for both … but if I have to concede one to the other it will be sexual performance which gets priority

My rough plan to start is to focus on EQ Improvements … down the line I would love to improve stamina … and along the way I’d like to increase my sexual skillset

I am mid 30s and single for the first time in a long time … I plan on staying that way for the time being … hookups and fwb are the order of the day at present … I ve already learnt this is much different to committed long term relationship sex

Obviously real life is nt porn … let’s get that out the way … and every man and woman is different … so relax, be calm, smile, laugh and be charming … put each other at ease … be well groomed … smell fantastic … tidy house … clean bedroom and bed … drinks and food available if required … bottles of water etc … and prepare mentally … plan and visualise elements of the time ahead … standard stuff which is highly likely to happen and throw in some wildcards … not trying to predict the future or overthink … just priming ourselves to be in game mode … muster up as much confidence as you can without being arrogant … every single person can be great at sex … any human being can do it … like anything in life it requires physical and mental effort … we can all do it … the above does nt involve taking your clothes off but will already set you out above the vast majority … confidence can be drawn from this

If something does nt go quite to plan … relax breathe and smile … make a joke … be charming … self deprecating … never get defensive or blame the lady … they are just as nervous and fragile as us … always treat them with the utmost respect

My EQ could be better … much better at times … my stamina varies and can be improved … my fingers and tongue are completely unaffected by these … and are my greatest weapon … I’m told I’m very good … but im always looking to get better … if EQ is nt what I’d like … focus even more on fingers and tongue … tease … go slow … forget all about EQ … the lady will as well … explain away with tiredness and tell her how much you want to make her come … same with stamina … tell her she’s hot and got you bursting so quickly you could stop it … then get back to work on her so she completely forgets … she will just remember how unselfish you were … and she will be back

Now for improving EQ … probli PIED … and poor masturbation methods … tight grip … coming soft etc … I’m still doing my own trial and error on this … the passing of time is the biggest weapon we have … the passage of time whilst not doing the bad habits which created the problem in the first place

About a year ago I went 10 days without porn or fap … complete no touch policy … this resulted in a great erection and sex … I did nt last too long from memory lol … but atm I’d take the EQ all day and then work on stamina

So outside of my PE routines I’m going to adopt a no touch policy as much as possible … just don’t touch … this means no edging … I want my brain to forget all the bad habits I have taught it … I ve cut out porn already … this will continue … hopefully sex will come regular enuff … if I do choose to masturbate it must be done properly and infrequently … no tight grip … can only finish if EQ is very high … basically with this I want to re train my brain with good habits

My PE routine will have more rest days … and I will aim to have 24 to 48 hrs rest before sexual encounters … preferably more than 24

Please feel free to comment, critique, suggest, think out loud, link, share, ponder, vent and add to this thread in any way you feel appropriate

I’m hoping it becomes a treasure trove of information for members to benefit from

I have a PE progress thread running already … I wanted to start another one up focussing solely on improving my sexual performance … I think it will get more views and input if it is in its own thread … this is far far more important to me than increasing size … I will still be aiming for both … but if I have to concede one to the other it will be sexual performance which gets priority

My rough plan to start is to focus on EQ Improvements … down the line I would love to improve stamina … and along the way I’d like to increase my sexual skillset

I am mid 30s and single for the first time in a long time … I plan on staying that way for the time being … hookups and fwb are the order of the day at present … I ve already learnt this is much different to committed long term relationship sex

Obviously real life is nt porn … let’s get that out the way … and every man and woman is different … so relax, be calm, smile, laugh and be charming … put each other at ease … be well groomed … smell fantastic … tidy house … clean bedroom and bed … drinks and food available if required … bottles of water etc … and prepare mentally … plan and visualise elements of the time ahead … standard stuff which is highly likely to happen and throw in some wildcards … not trying to predict the future or overthink … just priming ourselves to be in game mode … muster up as much confidence as you can without being arrogant … every single person can be great at sex … any human being can do it … like anything in life it requires physical and mental effort … we can all do it … the above does nt involve taking your clothes off but will already set you out above the vast majority … confidence can be drawn from this

If something does nt go quite to plan … relax breathe and smile … make a joke … be charming … self deprecating … never get defensive or blame the lady … they are just as nervous and fragile as us … always treat them with the utmost respect

My EQ could be better … much better at times … my stamina varies and can be improved … my fingers and tongue are completely unaffected by these … and are my greatest weapon … I’m told I’m very good … but im always looking to get better … if EQ is nt what I’d like … focus even more on fingers and tongue … tease … go slow … forget all about EQ … the lady will as well … explain away with tiredness and tell her how much you want to make her come … same with stamina … tell her she’s hot and got you bursting so quickly you could stop it … then get back to work on her so she completely forgets … she will just remember how unselfish you were … and she will be back

Now for improving EQ … probli PIED … and poor masturbation methods … tight grip … coming soft etc … I’m still doing my own trial and error on this … the passing of time is the biggest weapon we have … the passage of time whilst not doing the bad habits which created the problem in the first place

About a year ago I went 10 days without porn or fap … complete no touch policy … this resulted in a great erection and sex … I did nt last too long from memory lol … but atm I’d take the EQ all day and then work on stamina

So outside of my PE routines I’m going to adopt a no touch policy as much as possible … just don’t touch … this means no edging … I want my brain to forget all the bad habits I have taught it … I ve cut out porn already … this will continue … hopefully sex will come regular enuff … if I do choose to masturbate it must be done properly and infrequently … no tight grip … can only finish if EQ is very high … basically with this I want to re train my brain with good habits

My PE routine will have more rest days … and I will aim to have 24 to 48 hrs rest before sexual encounters … preferably more than 24

Please feel free to comment, critique, suggest, think out loud, link, share, ponder, vent and add to this thread in any way you feel appropriate

I’m hoping it becomes a treasure trove of information for members to benefit from