Originally Posted by kingdong69
So, what happens when stress, stops you keeping erection etc even in a aroused moment. Is it through lack of focus preventing your brain from sending right signals/chemicals as it’s sending mixed signals, stress + anxiety=no erection chemicals but aroused= erection chemicals. Combined together = poor erection??Also, I notice contradictory to the way it should be. If I get high, especially stoned I can get much better erection as I’m relaxed and less stress same after some vodka. But too much weed or alcohol has negative effects. Though sometimes I’ve been so drunk but really horny that my erection has been amazing(complete lack of stress and 100% focused on horniness). BUt other times so drunk I just wanted too sleep.
Sober erections is ok sometimes but only with a girl in a situation I feel comfortable in but sex is much better when high.
Sounds like a subtle psychological ED. The drugs are allowing you to relax and not think, which is whats required for a great erection, not thinking just feeling and enjoying. However having too much of the drugs have a physiological effect in the opposite way. So best way to think of it a little drugs relaxes you mentally, having too much of the drug relaxes your BODY to the point it doesn’t matter how mentally relaxed you are, you’re body wants to sleep.
Relaxation = Huge whopping erection. Example, a massage, being comfortable with your partner, enjoyment.
Stress = Small whopper jr. Erection. Example, too much caffeine, too much stress, being scared to catch a STD, being scared of impregnating, wondering if you’re performing properly, generally thinking too much during a time for no thinking.
For example kissing, when you first ever started kissing you thought about like how to do it, well most anyway. Then finally you said ‘f it’ and just kissed and it was great, no thoughts, just enjoyment. Do the same thing with sex and you’re golden. Some people need a few beers to relax properly, nothing new.
One last thing to add, the best erections I ever had were with random girls lol. Worst erection problems I ever had were with a girl I loved, in the beginning anyway. WHY?! Because the random girls were at a party, I drank a few beers, relaxed and didn’t care what they thought of me. However the girl I loved, I was thinking am I good enough for her, I want to perform my best, yada yada, a lot of thoughts going on, and I was SOBER. Until I said ‘f it’ and enjoy it, I never had good erections.
Moral of the story, take a deep breath, and relaxx. How to relax? Don’t think anything, just feel, enjoy.
Viagra/Cialis will help. Most people use it for recreation anyway.