Want more head!

A question for you good folks, I have read on other threads here about the taste of cum and woman doing taste tests, etc. I have cum to realize that I might be somehow missing the boat on finding a way to get my wife to go down on me more often (other than foreplay)

Its a rare occasion that my partner will simply give me head without wanting something in return, although she does it every time before sex as foreplay. When she does give without asking for a return (maybe once or twice a year), she will swallow. I love getting head as much as regular sex and am wondering if you guys have some advice on how I might make her receptive to getting me off by giving me head more often. Am I just out of luck that she would rather us cum at the same time…all the time?

I’m guessing I could just see if we could try to cum more than the 1 time we usually do. That way I could say, you do me, I do you, then we do together.

advice friends?

spruce

I’m confused. You don’t like 69ing? You just want a blowjob?

No I definitely DO like 69’ing and would gladly do that to get what I want. Part of the issue there is my partner still wants to have full intercourse each time, even if I get her off multiple times orally. I guess she only thinks of oral sex as fore play. I also enjoy watching my partner give me head especially while I cum. That is difficult to do while in 69 position.

I’m assuming you are all done in after your first ejaculation, because if you can come twice that’s the obvious solution. Definitely do the 69 thing though, she sounds like a woman who values reciprocity.

You know, this might be the one time where a Sybian would come in uncommonly handy. She could ride the Sybian and blow you at the same time—the Sybian might fulfill her need to have sex.

That sounds pretty fun, now that I come to think of it.

warning—Sybian will probably desensitize her with too much use, and the thing costs an arm and a leg.

Well I’m new to PE and the notion of being able to cum twice. I would love to learn how but my reading on it has been limited to this forum. It is hard to follow and understand from multiple threads of information. I am very open to suggestions on the best avenue for learning how to cum twice.

I definitely don’t think a Sybian is the answer for us, in fact I think part of the problem is that we have become lazy, she likes straight sex for the most part but we have oral each time prior. We are both extremely good at oral, she usually cums twice before intercourse. Sometimes she is so good that its hard to last very long. You could say “tell her to stop at some point” but to be honest I don’t think I will, lol. I guess I figure that she gets to cum from oral, so why shouldn’t i get off from oral a bit more myself.

We have a small vibrator that we use on occasion, she actually likes anal after a few drinks, have a swing we don’t use anymore. I guess this is just what happens after 10 years together and a kid on the way surely wont help the sex life I’m guessing.

Thanks zaneblue, I appreciate your perspective.

Spruce

Get the thought of taste testing into her mind.. That’s why my gf gives me head all the time.. I got flavored lubricant.. She can’t resist it when I ask because it will taste good for her and she enjoys doing it. But give it a try.. She might give you head when ever you whip out the bottle!

So she just gives you head?…with the risk of depressing myself farther, what do you or she do to get this started? Do you then return the favor, or is that it, you cum and done? She just does it to make you feel good?

See that is what I am talking about, I wouldn’t mind doing the same for her, I love going down on her and feeling her cum multiple times. I could just go up and start giving her head but then she would want to get fucked as well. I want to fuck to but every once in awhile it would be nice just to sit back and relax to some good head.

Maybe it is just a difference in years together with same person.

I know after I have a clitoral orgasm, I really want penetration. It’s not the same as for men. It makes me want it more, not less. Are you sure maybe a dildo wouldn’t satisfy?

zaneblue, do you think this is a good angle to try?

I’m thinking a talk her into giving me head and making me orgasm, and in return I go down on her and make her orgasm. By then I should be able to go again and we have sex. I like 69 as well but if she wants to have sex I’m thinking that doesn’t leave me enough time to get back up after cumming.

Thanks,
Spruce

Well I guess me and my gf have More of a thing where she just grabs the lubricant and asks “you want head” or I ask her myself and she says “wheres the stuff” I guess the easiest way to go about it without letting yourself down.. Is if it’s the right time for a relaxing blow job. Talk to her about getting the lubricant for something like that. And yes I Love eating the pun tang myself. And I’m always good to do that to her if she blows me.. But I do love the ones where I can sit back and watch a movie. But the main thing with me and my girl we talk about the stuff we wanna do. We talk about everything. So I guess the communication of letting her know you want a blow job to relax with.. Be like Baby I’m so exhausted from work today. You know what I could really use.. And she might just say ” Let me grab the stuff” just have to get the cycle going. And hey.. Surprise her with head too. Because that will make her do it for you more often.. Sorry if I got off track in there or if I didn’t make any sense to you. But that’s pretty much how I do it. Mainly the communication of her knowing what I want.

HeyHowAreYA, actually I totally understand what you mean and am thinking perhaps communicating what we both want might be part of the problem. Ive always been afraid she would think I’m a pervert so I kept pretty quiet about sex. She is pretty quiet to but when we finally get into bed she is pretty wild. Could be a tough nut to crack! (so to speak)

If I’m on here bragging about new great sex with my partner feel free to jump in and take full credit (well almost full credit ;) )

Oh, of course that’s the thing to do if you can manage it. Definitely try that.

Hahah OK That Credit is Mine!! Just messing! Good luck to you with it. But here is a little story for you to motivate you.. Well see I am a kinky bastard at heart. Me and my gf were really like simple about sex till we started talking more about it. We communicated on what each other liked. What we want. What we’d like to try.. So far we’ve used costumes. Tied her up had the hand cuffs. Did her in weird spots.had all kinds of fun with feathers candles and we still have lots of stuff in mind. She’s all for my PE because I talk openly to her about it. After talking about stuff there are two things I have yet to get but I am on my way. Anal and a threesome. The thing is once you get talking about what you ant they start to get curious on how it will be. So the anal was a no go for the longest time. But I started talking More about it and making her want it and be curious. Make everything sound as if it Will be heaven if you do it.. Cause most of the time it is. Shit I remember a time me and her only had sex with her on her back.. Now it’s all over the place and any way I want it cause I showed her how much she loves it.. So seriously the best ways to get what you want and to make everyone happy is to communicate and talk about things cause you never know what sparks will fly in her mind when you mention.. But shit you said you’ve been married for ten years? I feel like my advice is meaningless for you then.. But if it helps I am very glad to be apart of your success. So good luck man!

Yes HeyHowAreYA , 10 years is the kicker!!! lol
I do appreciate the advice. If I’m honest I guess I actually knew that communication was what we were needing. I guess I wish that it would be her that would approach me, but she doesn’t like confronting anyone, much less me. Not to make it sound like a confrontation, but it is admitting that you aren’t happy with how things are.

She just seems to have lost interest, same ole same ole, once a week if lucky.
Yeah 10 years, time to freshen things up, hopefully she will take to it.

Well don’t make It a confrontation hat things are bad.. Say hey wanna try some new things?? Do it the best way possible. Say you know what I was thinking and we should experiment a little. In your case it’s much different then mine. But hey whats the worst that can happen. If anything her mind will be curious no matter what. And I have all faith things will get better for ya. I think just talking about it makes them want it more lol.