"Big head" ED still haunts me :(

It’s been over a year since I had my last problem with not getting it up.. until today :(

I’m really sad and I thought I’ll ask for some support here, as most of you guys know about these sort of problems.

The last time I had problems was with my ex, when, especially in the beginning I couldn’t get it up or, it would go soft really fast. Today I went to a hooker who was absolutely gorgeous (really fit body, big perky tits, beautiful face, black hair, blue eyes, the whole package) and gave GREAT head. Unfortunately I was still concerned about my past ED problems and, of course, my little joey went limp again.

What the hell can I do to stop thinking about this shit??? How can I ever have a one night stand, without using erection enhancing drugs??? When I get used to another woman I have no problems whatsoever.

Thanks to all thunder’s great members for your support.

Keep getting head until the problem goes away.

Many guys have a little trouble with new partners, just relax and know that it’s all in your mind.

Last time, I took erection enhancing drugs and it solved the problem and stopped taking it when I was more comfortable around her. There are a few other threads around here mentioning member’s hardness problems with new partners or situations. Good luck though.

optimal: this is what I did… I kept getting head until the ERECTION went away :) )

I know exactly what causes the problem - I was in a new and uncomfortable environment, I knew that if I couldn’t perform I will lose the money I paid without getting what I paid for, I kept thinking “I hope my dick doesn’t go limp” and maybe some other BAD thoughts. I know that when I get used with the partner, the environment, when I don’t have the pressure to perform I have no problems getting and keeping the erection.

So, I guess there is no way I will be able to take advantage of the services of a prostitute without drugs… That makes me really sad :( .

Oh, on a good note, she did comment on the size of little joey :)

If you have not cum for a few days, that can help. Being super horny tends to push the thoughts of self-doubt into the background.

I used some kind of drug for this only once. It was written on it that it wasn’t ment for men that had erectile disfunction, just for men who wanted to perform better (???).

The thing is it worked: my penis wouldn’t harden from the wind, it still got erect only when I was arroused, but the thing is the erection wouldn’t go away…. at all :) . I was really drunk when I used it, couldn’t feel anything (as in I wasn’t enjoing the sex at all), but my penis was mentaining it’s erect state. I hope I can use the same for the next time I have sex… and will work.

This is what that drug contained:

panax ginseng 75 mg, cordyceps sinensis 75 mg, cistanche deserticola 40 mg, tangkat ali extract 80 mg

Is it any good?

I have a ‘standard cocktail’ for the first time with a new girl. 7.5mg Yohimbine HCL (NOT YohimBE) 25mg viagra (I have the ‘soft chews’ that dissolve under the tongue) and 1mg. clonazepam to reduce anxiety. I had some pretty awful experiences with ED, but this combination works VERY well. Just as a warning, if you decide to try this START SLOW. See how each ‘ingredient’ affects you before attempting to combine them. And above all, thoroughly research everything before putting it in your body. I have not found evidence that the three drugs I mentioned earlier would interact badly, but I am far from an expert in the area of pharmacology.

I can’t get prescription drugs (like viagra).

This sucks big time anyway, as I realize, thinking back, that the whole time I was trying to have sex, even from the beginning when an erection was coming, the only thing I kept thinking is “is it still hard? will it stay hard? etc”.

I guess there is no way to get rid of that, ever. The first time it happens, it just stays buried deep in your brain and shows it’s ugly face whenever you feel like you have to perform. I wonder if going to a psychiatrist can help…

Crap… I am depressed when I should be happy. The whole night I couldn’t sleep thinking about this unfortunate event that keeps haunting me.

I should be happy that in this day and age there i have easy access to drugs that can make it go away. What if I lived a few years ago? I would have been seriounsly scared for life…

Hello Miron,

Performance anxiety can become a self fulfilling prophecy. You worry about it, and sure enough your worries come true. I think that the cocktail suggested by Spike has a good deal of validity to it and should warrant some experimentation.

There is another side though that is rarely discussed. You mentioned depression, and in the same context, lack of sleep. There are a number of ways that anxiety will cause sleeplessness, but when you throw depression and sleeplessness together it leads to a deficiency of Serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter. A neurotransmitter literally allows the electrical component of our nervous system to reach the brain. If there is insufficient amounts of that neurotransmitter, the message that the nerve is conducting will not make it to the brain. A very large amount of our sexual nervous system uses Serotonin as its neurotransmitter.

Adding to Serotonin is as easy as taking a pill of 5 HTP. You will not feel this in the body as you would taking Spikes cocktail, but if you are indeed depressed and tend to loose erections without having a hormonal cause, this is the first place that I would look. Take 100 mg daily. You cannot overdose yourself at that rate. Do not take more as an overdose will cause anorgasmia (inability to climax).

Best of luck.

Miron this is something I know about so please pay attention. I have had social phobias where I sweat uncontrollably as well as many nasty sexual problems. The only way to combat these problems is to change your attention. As the analogy goes; DON’T think about the pink elephant - impossible of course.

You need to change your attitude which in turn will change your mental images, sounds and feelings which in turn will affect your chemistry in a very positive way. Instead of focusing and worrying about whether you will lose your erection, focus on what you want; imagine your cock splitting her in two, imagine her saying an hour later’fuck, that cock was hard’ - think about what you want. Our minds are cybernetic; what you focuson you will get. It takes time, maybe weeks but stick at it and you will have the erections or whatever you want.