delayed ejaculation

I apparently suffer from what is known is “delayed ejaculation” which is basically the opposite of premature ejaculation. It means, at least in my case, that I can basically go on forever and not ejaculate during intercourse. With my hand, however, I can ejaculate within minutes. So essentially I have conditioned myself to only respond to my hand, that is just moving the foreskin up and down a little over the head, which is totally unrealistic.

It’s exacerbated by the fact that I am not circumcised and the foreskin has trouble retracting all the way down, so that means that during intercourse, it won’t slide up and down providing adequate stimulation. I’ve remedied this by stretching out my foreskin, no porn/no fap (cumming), and edging by mimicking the movement of a vagina over my dick and not doing what will bring my to orgasm most efficiently. This has helped, but still a ways to go before I can orgasm during intercourse. I usually just come on her by jacking off at the end (since I’ve essentially edged for a long time I cum really quickly). Right now there is no way I can see that I would ever cum with a condom on.

While it seems impressive to be able to essentially go on indefinitely, it is a problem as I’m sure you can understand.

I know this isn’t a medical advice forum, I just want to know if anyone has experienced this often neglected (compared to its opposite) problem and what they did about it. Any thoughts would be helpful in knowing I’m not along in this never talked about condition.

How long have you been off porn?

I’ve had this problem for a long time as well. First I thought it was my foreskin, so I circumcised myself then I thought it was because of ED.

I actually came pretty quick this Tuesday. What I think did it was that I didn’t masturbate at all for almost a week.

Well, i had the problem of delayed ejaculation, i could go for long periods of time without cumming by having sex, sometimes was frustrating because i really wanted to finish but i wasn’t able to do it, and for my partner was uncomfortable and frustrating as well, also because it was a bit painful for her, maybe some people could think is a good thing but i don’t think so, if i could have had control over the orgasm it would’ve been fine.

The problem i had, maybe it can help you, was that i used to masturbate pretty often and also watched porn for long periods of time plus edging, for that i think i was kind of desensitized and at the moment of having sex, i only could cum using my hand and sometimes never finish.

What i did, first of all was to avoid masturbating often, if possible only cum when having sex; probably i stopped watching porn in the way i was used to but i don’t remember very well, with time the problem just faded away because i didn’t notice when it was gone.

Right now is not like i cum quickly, is just that i have more control over it, what i think it helped were kegels and PE in general for the control also, but i discovered PE years later, so now is like when having sex i feel like cumming just after a few minutes but i can extend it for a long time and it’s very nice this way.

I can rarely ever cum with a condom on. It is frustrating for me and the partner at the time. However, I’ve been with girls where I could bone down for hours without cumming and normally had to finish with a bj. I think girls pussies are just different. I’ve been with other girl equally attractive and their vag is so tight that I feel the need to cum after a minute or two. A lot has to do with how much porn you watch as well. Sorry it’s a problem because not being able to finish for a girl can be frustrating but that should be a problem if talked about.

Thanks so much for the reply guys, and the encouragement.

So basically I’m going to go hard-core, absolutely no fap, no porn and continue stretching my foreskin to allow for the sliding motion during intercourse. We’ll see what happens.

We have sex maybe once a week. I cum in 15 to 20 minutes maybe half the time. Trying to figure out why. It is usually so close that it would not take much to put it over the edge. One thing that used to help was Yohimbe. Doctor even gave me a prescription for it. I have read some people don’t think it is any good. I may need more of it as I age, but it does make me jittery.

Some people think that the use of Viagra to get it good and hard is counter-productive to ejaculation. We usually give up in 45 minutes.

I thought maybe it was the “edging” I would do during the week. Experiments showed it was not the cause. I could have the problem even if I abstained the whole week.

Best results seem to be if I masturbate twice maybe 4 days prior. I do notice that if I masturbate the day before, my batting average is pretty poor.

I have read all the psychyological stuff, but what I am looking for is something like Yohimbe. There are plenty of them available on the net, but I have no way of knowing which if any are good.

Looking for the right place to post some info about Yohimbe that may be useful for others. According to the Search, this thread is the only mention of that word for the past month. Maybe I don’t search right.

Anyway, I have been using Yohimbe by Twinlab 400mg per pill. It is very effective.
I wanted to try a slightly lower dose to avoid all the nervousness, and red face I get from 400mg.
Bought Solaray 350mg. It seemed less effective than the Twinlab, so yesterday I tried 1 2/3 pills which should amount to about 585mg.
It had no effect whatever. This stuff is inert. I plan to throw it away.
Anyone else had experience with Solaray and/or Twinlab?

Careful with Yohimbine bro it’s nasty stuff. In many countries it is forbidden to sell nowadays.

Woops, posted in the wrong thread, sorry.