PE causing delayed ejaculation problems

Hello everyone, I am very new to posting, been lurking for a while. Anyway,

A little backstory: I have always had a delayed ejaculation problem, taking 30 min to an hour to climax IF AT ALL, I treated myself using cialis to take some pressure off, gradually tapering off of it, as I believe my delayed ejaculation was mostly a mental problem. Lately been lasting between 4-10 min so I am happy about that.

I bought a penimaster pro (after looking at this site decided vac was the way to go) after using it a few days while at work for about 9hrs using very low pressure and taking a break every hour I noticed I couldn’t cum with my girlfriend. This happens sometimes and may have been a coincidence but heres my question to this great community.

1. Has anyone here noticed less sensitivity from pe with a vac extender?
2. Has anyone noticed that it takes longer to reach orgasm if you PE with a vac extender?

I would love to hear anyones input on this. My theory is that the constant “feeling” from having vacuum on your penis somewhat mentally desensitizes the head even if no physical desensitization occurs. My initial thoughts were (since I am cut) that the lube+latex would help reverse some of the keratinisation that has occurred from 26 years of dryness.

SIDE Question: does anyone know of a way to reverse keratinisation?

I was thinking of using a facial acne wash with 2% Salicylic acid for 30 sec EOD in the shower to help remove some keratinisation, I have read other places that this works but I only trust this forum, this method seems slightly risky.. But maybe I’m just paranoid.

Thanks for listening to my rant! And please chime in with any comments! Thanks a lot!

Why in the hell would lasting too long be a problem? More pleasure for your woman (or man I suppose).

djra8: I used a noose type extender for a while and was having problems. I recently purchased a bath mate water pump and have noticed an increase in sensitivity ( i also suffer from D.E.) so you might try that.

thicker 7: I hear that comment a lot from guys. Trust me on this, most women don’t want to be f——- for that length of time; they start to get tired and sore after a while. Many of us with D.E. often suffer relationship problems because of it. At first the ladies are impressed with our stamina but it gets old really quick. Plus, it’s no fun having sex if you can’t climax.

Says you! I could care less if I don’t cum, I just love to fuck.
I would much prefer to have your problem than having to fight off orgasm every few minutes.

Djra8,

Have you started taking any other medications recently? Also Do you take any anti-depressant drugs? The difficulty climaxing is a common side effect of anti-depressants.

Imagine being unable to come AT ALL from sex. Or only able after going at it for so long that you’re exhausted and your partner is getting fed up and sore. It’s really not that great.

To the OP: have you tried yohimbe? It’s not for everyone (strong-ish stimulant if you’re not used to it) but I’ve found it dramatically increased my sensitivity and reduced how long I needed to fuck before coming. I used to have DE but through a combination of an understanding girlfriend, lots of patience and some yohimbe, I fortunately got over it.

As far as keratinization goes, I’m lucky enough to be uncut myself but I’ve heard great things about foreskin restoration from guys who’ve tried that. Takes a while, of course. For quicker results I think you can get little plastic things specifically made to fit over the head of your cock during the day, ro prevent friction with your underwear and body. Vaseline is great, too. Hope this helps!

I’ll be watching this thread, as I have similar issues.

I agree with Wibble on several points. Yohimbe is good stuff. Also, putting vaseline, or any kind of skin lotion on the head of your penis daily also helps. Girth related exercises seem to help. Practicing with a toy (e.g. Fleshlight) helps a little. Most importantly though, is having an understanding partner.

It’s very important to relax. If you worry about something happening, you usually end up making it happen.

I wonder if this problem is more prevalent in the US than it is in countries where circumcision is not routiney performed for “hygeine” reasons?

99.9% of dicks work fine by themselves and don’t need to be snipped to conform to outdated medical prejudices, dammit.

UPDATE:

It has been some time since I posed this, since then I have used the DTR (foreskin restore) don’t have much more than some extra skin, but it sure feels a lot better, still didn’t help with the DE, however, I also bought a vacutech pump, and ever since pumping my head is more red in color now and seems to be a lot more sensitive, maybe in part due to stretching and thinning of the skin.. In any case, I reach orgasm 99% of the time after 10 min. Another thought is that it might have been somewhat mental.. Its arousing to know I can fill my girlfriend more.. In any case, hopefully someone with my same problem can read this and take something away from it. I have to say this forum has helped me a LOT. While I haven’t posted much I have done TONS of reading and I would like to thank all the dedicated members here!

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I went through a period where I couldn’t release and most of the women I was with loved the half hour or more on the pony.

The issue began after I left my ex. I was so tense most days that everything was a struggle. I wasn’t sleeping well, I was training hard and riding a bike everywhere because I left the car with my ex to get the boys around, and couldn’t afford another one at the time.

My bodyweight went from 220 pounds down to around 180 at the lowest and I was just a bundle of nerves.

This went on until I met a japanese girl who didn’t like me not releasing and gave me the best blowjob of my life.

After that I was able to release more easily with her and then with other women.

Now I can last 10-15 minutes mostly.

And Yohimbe is extremely hard to find in canada and expensive.

Spoken like someone who has never been there. Trust me on this, thickerseven, this falls into the category of “be careful what you wish for”!

Exactly.

I know the OP’s issue has mostly been solved, but this can definitely be a problem. My fiancee hates it when I go over 10 minutes! I’m usually right between 30-60 minutes, though (she’s even cracked jokes during sex about her needing a Camelbak, haha!). If I end up lasting over 20 minutes it means she ends up raw and sore and I’m forbidden from sex for a few days because of the pain.

Sometimes I just know it’s going to take me too long, and if I’m feeling that she won’t be up for it then I’ll make sure she gets “hers”, then finish her off again with some oral. I enjoy orgasm (DUH?), but I enjoy watching her have them even more. A happy woman makes for a happy man!

Totally agreed. I would credit my delayed ejaculation with destroying my first serious relationship. To the OP, I haven’t yet noticed a difference in my ejaculation time due to PE, but as for helping with delayed ejaculation, cutting down on porn, masturbating, and most importantly, being mentally clear, and having good self esteem is important. I’ve found that once I took care of her first by other means, and then proceeded to penetrative sex without worrying about pleasing the other person, it gave me a much MUCH clearer head, and thus, eased the problem. Here in recent months, I think I’ve finally conquered it.

The use of the device left his stick with less sensitivity? Is it?