delayed/latent ejaculation

I suffer from a problem that I guess a lot of guys which they also ‘suffered’ from which is that i take ages to ejaculate - whilst I’ve managed to get over this problem largely through relaxation and finding out what helps me ejaculate quicker it still crops up and and sometimes don’t manage to ejaculate at all which is very frustrating. I was wondering if anybody else ever experienced anything like this and had any tips?

Hey Joe. All the time. I find I have less trouble with multiple partners, so I endeavor to bring home at least two girls as often as I can (and no, I am not kidding). I find it is easier to ejaculate when I masturbate too, so when I am tired of screwing I pull out and masturbate over the girl. Usually that works, but admittedly not always. I have tried focusing attention on the feelings, or on the girl, or on porno - all with no effect. So I feel your pain, but have no real solution other than to say I don’t ever really worry about it anymore - perhaps that is the best we can do?

Looking at a few other threads it seems part of it could be retrograde ejaculation. Often I will find semen in my piss - often without even getting a full erection - all I need to be is slightly excited. So it seems the problem might be that I ejaculate prematurely but its a retrograde ejaculation? - Is there any way of stopping this?

You are on your own there joe. I am definitely not retrograding, and have no real experience or even ideas along those lines. But that does sound more solvable to me, so perhaps it is a good thing!

joe;

Does this happen only during sex with a partner or also when you masturbate?

Are you always hard on during this time? If so, then your situation is actually the best for a girl.

Generally I have no problem with masturbation (although I do sometimes). The problem is more with sex although there are no concrete answers (sometimes I’m fine sometimes not). Although I have always had the semen in the piss since puberty. If I am turned on by something and I don’t ejaculate I will find the piss turns white at the end of the stream from the semen. I only just cottoned on to this retrograde ejaculation idea just now so sorry to seem so muddled. I figure that becasue of sex with anticipation and foreplay I may be retrograde ejaculating. I have only noticed semen in the piss once after sex however (in which I didn’t ejaculate) but maybe this is becuase I had a piss straight after. If there was some way to avoid retrograde ejaculation that would be cool. I guess I would rather have this problem (and go for 3+ hours - normal for me!) than suffer from premature ejaculation. Still if there were answers that would be cool. I wish there was some way to ‘force’ ejaculation - I figure porn stars etc. must have a few techniques! I was seeing this one girl for a few months and I only managed to ejaculate once! (I had to fake it but with condoms its tough!) - I guess part of it is psychological because this girl didn’t turn me on too much but after 3+ hours of sex it’s nice to have a small reward!

3+ hours of penetration? It would wear out your penis.

The penis being sore makes the prospect of going off to masturbate afterwards impossible - not only is it sore but there is a loss of sensitivity too - I would love it if I could go for ages then masturbate afterward either away or with my partner. But generally physical exhaustion comes quickly too.

joe,

If you try to keep the amount of time reasonable, you will still be able to masturbate. No girl will think any less of you for an hours work instead of 3. And really, most women will be having enough at 1/2 hour.

If you can cum with masturbation but not penetration, than maybe your penis is not stimulated enough. This might be due to mismatch between vagina and penis size.

In my experience going for a long time can be cool for the girl but sometimes not too! - I would say if you can manage it to try it sometime! - that girl often did wan’t more! - but there were also times when we both just wanted it to be over quickly - a quick f**k.. Thanks for the advise though Steve - but the ideal situation would be to be able to ejaculate when I want. + for me I don’t really enjoy cumming outside of the vagina - some weird basic instinct says ‘There is the pussy that is where you should be ejaculating’ - and the problem is if she wants you to wear a condom - you can’t masturbate then put on the condom then put it back in just in time! - by the time the condom is on you are back to square one…

joecastro,

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Hi Joecastro,

Welcome to the club !!!

I myself have having problem with delayed ejaculation over the last 15 years. Even on my 52 years of age I am able to keep an erection for several hours and not achieve an ejaculation. Most of the time I do have to fake it since my penis gets sore and unable to keeping stroking. I don;t think my problem is a mismatch of size between my penis and my wife’s vagina. I am not a over sized penis guy, but I do have a 7.5x5.5 what is considered an average penis size. Sometimes I think that my circumcisiom operation at age 25 has killed the sensitivity of my penis gland, causing me such problem. I do undertand you problem and how frustrating it is.

Joe

Since I have been doing PE, it takes me longer to ejaculate. I am less sensitive from jelqing and hanging. When my wife wants quickies, I used to be able to cum within 5 minutes and now it is taking me like 15-20 minutes. And I am tyring to ejaculate as fast as I can because my wife begins to not enjoy the quickies and has been toning down on them. There have been times that my wife got tired of me taking too long for a quickie and has made me stop in the middle of them. Please feel for me.

When we have our real sex, I can go without cumming for hours if I wanted to, without a condom, though, I usually can allow myself to be relieved when she is. It is that mental thing, okay…she is ready and now I must be ready and I really have to mentally make myself cum and really get into it.