Evidence that Ejaculation is All in the Head... My Story

This is my revelation. My greatest weakness is that I often have to learn for myself before I understand. People always talk about people with premature ejaculation, about how it is all in your head. Well, I respected their opinions, but I never fully believed them, until now.

Ever since I first masturbated, I have been a premature ejaculator. This was never an issue as an adolescent, ejaculation is the best part about masturbating. When I discovered Thunders, I was introduced to learning ejaculatory control and erection quality. Without my current supplements, I have always had poor, poor erections. So poor that as a circumcised male, I could masturbate with my foreskin (as opposed to not having a good erection and no loose skin). I learned kegels to increase my erection, but was unable to masturbate without ejaculating instantly. I attribute the kegels ruining my control to a poor routine, using the wrong chair and incorrect stance. I later learned how to properly kegel, and I was able to resume being a premature ejaculator with a harder, yet not hard enough, erection.

I always thought my premature ejaculation was attributed to my poor erection quality, so I began taking supplements. Currently, I take 7g L-Arginine and 240 mg Ginkgo Bilboa daily, and my erections are much better. Still, the erections are not 100%. I use cock rings to keep my penis as hard as possible, because I always go limp when using my Fleshlight to practice control. I was always thinking of ways to beat my premature ejaculation, when I thought of desensitizing creams. Running across a thread about the subject, tooth gel was suggested to numb your penis. I applied the gel, 20% Benzocaine, all over my penis, paying particular attention to my glans, and waited 20 minutes. The results were identical to not using the gel to numb my penis, and is when I had my revelation.

I have no sensitivity in my penis. It all makes sense now. I could never get proper erections, and even large amounts of supplements isn’t enough to give myself a proper erection. Why am I a premature ejaculator? Because that’s the only pleasure I receive from any masturbation. Applying Benzocaine to my penis did not reduce my sensitivity at all, my sensitivity is the same. I always wondered why I would practice with my Fleshlight, and how my body could bypass any pleasure and skip right to ejaculation. I don’t feel pleasure from masturbation, only pleasure from ejaculation.

That’s also why I know everything is truly in my head. I can forfeit any and all pleasure simply to reach ejaculation. It does not make sense for a penis to ejaculate without pleasure, unless everything is truly in my head. Once, I brought myself to ejaculation without touching myself in a hypnotic state that felt as if I was dreaming while awake.

When I can learn to control myself, I will truly be able to last as long as I desire. When I learn to control myself, time will no longer be an issue. The catch-22 is that I finally realized I don’t enjoy masturbation, only ejaculation. How can I learn to control myself when the only pleasure I receive is from ejaculation?

I think its a fascinating topic, psychologically. I agree with you that it is all in your head because I’ve experienced similar situations where I’ve used lidocaine to numb my penis and have ejaculated very quickly just because visually and mentally I was really excited and stimulated. It also explains why we have “wet dreams”. I’ve had ejaculations during dreams where my penis wasn’t being simulated at all; we all have for the most part. Explain that one then. That is 100% in your mind.

When you break it all down, stimulating the penis is just activating nerve endings that tell receptors in your brain that you are experiencing sexual enjoyment and many of us have conditioned ourselves to relate sexual enjoyment with ejaculation, directly. The same receptors can be activated by visually and mentally, since we get erections from seeing or thinking about sex. So the instant we start feeling any stimulus to the penis or in our minds, we translate it as this excitement that we know will ultimately result in ejaculation because it so many previous cases our mind and body inevitably wanted to get there and did. And it felt amazing. It’s rather simple. It’s just a learned response, just like Pavlov’s dogs ;)

Arginine works better with vitamin “C” and vitamin B6. All amino acids work better with B6. For staying power eat foods high in choline like fish and you may want to supplement with choline and B5. I posted a thread on the subject in “supplements” today.