Just a quick update here.. no pun intended ;) . I have been doing kegel exercises and I finally had 2 successful tries at holding back my orgasm and keeping my erection.
The first time was pretty much an accident. A few weeks ago my g/f all of a sudden decided she wanted to go down on me and quickly started to massage my body and my penis while in bed. This took me by complete surprise and my body responded so quickly that I almost ejaculated before I even had an erection. I pulled back a little because of the intensity but I knew it was so close and any touch would put me over the top. So she again went towards my penis again and I felt the inevitablility. Well, right when I felt it I pulled back and squeezed as hard as I could. I felt some small contractions but they were minimal and it lasted for like 20 seconds. Finally the contractions surpassed but I didn’t feel like I was falling into that refractory phase. I checked myself and I wasn’t wet! My erection was abour 85% but remained and she started going down on me. Well, it literally took over 10 minutes for me to have another orgasm and I had to help make it happen too. I couldn’t believe that I was TRYING to have an orgasm while receiving oral sex. WOW!
So, a few days later I wanted to see if this was a fluke or not (since my g/f has been on a “dry spell” as of late). I brought myself close to ejaculating while masturbating and finally hit that same feeling as the other time, let go and squeezed the PC muscles. The same small contractions occured, tiny bit of wetness but my erection held. However I wasn’t as sensitive as before and I really had to work longer and harder to get myself to ejaculate again.
I’m going to keep on doing those kegel exercises to get better at holding back those contraction and not squeezing pretty much every muscle in my body when I kegel for real. Hopefull this is the ticket!