HI, Also suffering from ED, would really appreciate any help or pointers.
I can get an erection with little to no problem when It is not needed, I.E. Hanging out and just having a good time at a movie with my lady. The second It needs to get to work or her or my attention is on it, it has a tendency to bail on me.
This leads me to think that its psychological or, performance anxiety. I do want to please her, and rock her world ect. ect.
A solution I have heard tossed around are ‘pills.’ Ive tried two different kinds and they have not helped me. One I cant remember, something I got from Adam & Eve I think, and one “Rock Hard Weekend” ( Not saying its a crappy product or anything, I got the recommendation from a friend actually saying it was amazing.) It just gave me a headache, and not even a wiggle down there when It was time to get to work.
I did actually get the deed done earlier on in the week she was down here twice, and then the 3rd I couldn’t finish due to deflating penis. I was not able to get it up for sex time again for the rest of the week. He did spring up frequently when it wasn’t time though.
The ensuing aftermath led to some serious emotional situations on both our parts, her blaming herself and then my subconscious as “I don’t really want to be with her” I quite like her, we make each other laugh a lot. But she does have some rough edges, as I’m sure I do also.
Other bits: She came down to visit for a week, with 2 months before I can see her again. Thereby pressure on sexy sex. She was more aggressive than I am used to, possibly putting me out of my comfort zone. I myself am pretty darn inexperienced and have never had a fulfilling sexual relationship, quite likely due to my ED.
Possible leads:
Was into hard porn for a long, long, long time. Trying to cut the habit now. Can’t say Ive been porn free, but can say Ive cut down dramatically.
I like sugar, no idea if I have diabetes or not, I consider myself reasonably fit, Good muscle mass, but also sporting a bit of a bulging belly.
I have trouble maintaining a solid erection even in the best of times. I find it difficult to hold onto the level of stimulation required to keep it for too long. Super hard niche porn helps with this, but I don’t think its conducive to my situation.
Closing:
I’m posting this to kind of get it into words as well as admit to myself I need help. I realize there is a lot of help out there, and will check out some of the sites in a bit, but for now I’m a little down and frustrated with a bit of self hate thrown in, so this is what I can get done. Any help or ideas are much appreciated.