Erection too hard

Hello friends,

In my opinion this thread should be in the sexual health forum, but I can’t start any topics there.
I have gained about an inch in lenght and half an inch in circumference since I started and my EQ has shot through the roof.
Sadly, there is a problem with that. My penis is so incredibly hard that it hurts my partner a lot during intercourse.
Lube doesn’t help at all.

The second problem that aggravates the first one is that I have a bend in my penis tot the left.
That, combined with the extreme hardness, makes sex less enjoyable for her.

I am going to try a penis extender to solve the bend issue, but the hardness is something I can’t really solve.
Do any of you have any ideas?

Stats: BPEL 7.25, EG 5.5.

Maybe you need to learn to make love more gently?

You sure it cause you’re penis is too hard or too Big? What kind of pain or where?

I’m guessing you’ve got too big for her especially based on your stats. For example when my length gains started getting close to 7.5” my wife told me it was hurting and going to deep. That’s when I stopped going for length cause if not then couldn’t go balls deep anymore and I would hate to leave any dick out in the cold while having sex. Could also be the way you’re having sex like too much side to side action thrusting.

Other possibility that could think of is she may have something physically going on with her, for example an ovarian cyst or something else. Wife had that twice and the pain for her started while we had sex.

Thanks for the reply Tom. The problem is that nothing changes whether we go at it slow & sweet or hard & hot.

Might be a combination. Going too deep is a problem, but not what I”m talking about right now.
I can feel the edges of my glans rubbing inside her vagina in a way that’s pleasurable for me, but painful for her.
Lube sadly doesn’t change anything. We talked about it and it appears that sometimes during intercourse my penis gets much harder than she experienced with other people before.
That in combination with the bend might get painful. I have to say that at those times I can’t squeeze my penis either, it’s hardness is really something.
At those times it hurts incredibly in my glans when I accidentally kegel. Would that be something I should see a doctor about?
It only happens every so often en only when I am extremely horny.

Edit: I forgot to answer those other questions. It doesn’t really matter how far I”m inside. When I”m halfway in it hurts her halfway down her vagina, if I try to go all the way it hurts deep.
They have already check her inside out. No strange things were found.

You could have Peyronie’s disease. The area with the plaque could cause discomfort. Post a pic of your penis if you have no issues with that, or even better consult an urologist.

I remember when younger I would get erections which were so firm as to be slightly painful. The pain at times such as that was not unpleasant, but was generally pleasant.

There are times now that I would like to enjoy such extreme firmness again. I do got to 100% hardness at times, but most often about 85-90% erect. My erection generally points to slightly lower than horizontal. I also remember the day when it pointed up to about 10 o’clock.

Luce, I’m sorry to hear this. The mother of my children was really small and I loved being deep in her, but she struggled in discomfort to please me, and eventually became part of our breaking up.

I was over an inch smaller then.

My wife now is the opposite. When I met her sex was amazing and now over an inch bigger its the same but she doesn’t physically feel the difference.

Best of luck finding a solution brother.

At 53 I am amazed at my morning wood sometimes. It borders on tearing the skin. Occasionally I get erectiins like that in the daylight also, but rarely. Too much noise in my head.

I read about a chi gong exercise that helped me with hardness.

If you lie on your back and hold your balls in one hand and place the palm of your other hand flat on your belly and breathe deeply and slowly for a while, it will allow chi energy to flow to your genitals more easily.

I tried this one night as I fell asleep and woke up so hard it hurt.

Try blowing a load before entering her like through masturbation, hand job, blow job, etc. Usually the second erection shouldn’t be as hard.

Also on your bend try an angle that puts the bend towards the back (posterior) of her vagina and less likely to be jabbing at her cervix.

My 2cents

This is just my two pennies worth of advise women can suffer from a condition called Vaginmus a condition that effect more women around the world than should in my op, primary and secondary varying degrees of serverity. Have you thought about her seeing a Doctor? My partner has a tilted womb I must be careful when thrusting as it can catch as yes she will react to it every time.Try different posisitions for instance with my partner she likes kneeling as it will not hit her womb at all then.

I got a question regarding hardness of my dick. If my dick looks and feels way bigger when Im with my girl then it means that my measurement when Im alone masturbating for measuring or just for pleasure are not my 100% power erection as I call it???

Maybe you are just to big for her or is the technique. You are above average so maybe its that.