Have some terrible problems...need some solid help

See my reply in this thread: Beating TMS

Hi there. Ok. I’m a wreck at the moment. Im only 18 years old. People at my age are out enjoying being young and full of cum. But not me. I have endless sexual problems. I have to go see a urologist and I plan to. Dunno whether to tell my parents or not but I wouldn’t even know how to get to a urologist. Basically I’m off at university (college in USA) and don’t go home that regularly but could go anytime since it isnt that far.

I made notes on a piece of paper of my problems. I’m sure i’ve forgotten a few things to write down but anyway here goes.

-Masturbated in face down (prone) position rubbing penis against mattress (Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome) putting excessive pressure on penis, especially on base (did this for 4 years).

-Noticed problems when girlfriend could not make me orgasm during handjob and problems multipled when I lose erection when she put my penis in her mouth (unusual sensation that had me begging her to stop in my head). All this time having very unstable erections. So the only way I could orgasm was dry-humping her.

-Ran into the website https://www.healthystrokes.com . Took a week off. Girlfriend still giving handjobs but not ejaculating. At end of week masturbated whilst lieing on my back but failed to orgasm. Did it in (quite long) intervals for the next 3-4 days. No luck.

-Decided to have sex. Trouble getting erection. Finally got it, but by the time condom was on, erection was lost. Therefore, direct stimulation was needed again. Penis however felt numb. This meant I was not aware when I was hard and was needed to be informed by my girlfriend. (Without stimulation erection lost within seconds).

-So during sex. When my penis popped out of her vagina erection was lost and unable to penetrate her(Good chance erection lost inside of her). Stimulation needed again.

-Had sex the next 2 days. Same problems. Same problems ever since.

Other problems of mine include having quite a long foreskin which does not retract past the head during erection. (Well nowhere near past the head). Just retracts a little bit.

Penis head doesnt like to be touched at all. I mean the inner penis.

Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

Few other problems. I’ve had left testicle pain during this time for a couple days but it pretty much went.

Whilst pissing (just went) when I held it, very uncomfotable. It was painful.

Sorry mods- just thought I’d say did not know which forum this belonged to. I thought this was the best one. Feel free to move.

Anxiety perhaps? may have to do with a psicologist rather than a urologist. good luck…

Fixed one of your “i’s”. Sexual health seems like a good place.

At this point I think your going to need to take a systematic approach to your problems.

Yes go see a Urologist. We are not doctors or inclined to give medical advice. You need to consult the appropriate medical professional. You sound like you could have more than one issue occurring. Which is why you need to take it in steps.

k4sej I realize English may not be your first language, but could you please take a look at the forum guidelines.

Spell check/Capitalization. Thanks. Forum Guidelines At 58 post you should be on top of this by now.

Thanks for fixing my punctuation mate. I don’t think the spellchecker came up.

Yes I 100% agree I need to see a urologist. The time for saying it must be anxiety in my opinion has passed. I can’t really ask anyone on here whats wrong with me because there could be many reasons for each condition happening. I just needed a little bit of advice.

Do you think I need to inform parents on this issue? Also do I have to see my General Practicioner and he sets up the appointment with the urologist or go straight to the urologist. So lost. Can’t even think straight!

Well I’m in the U.S and not familiar with your health care system. So hopefully some of our other members from your local will chime in.

If you’re 18 you’re considered an adult here. informing your parents of anything would be your choice. Although again, I don’t know the particulars of your relationship with your parents might be or the nuances of your health care system.
Both could be factors in any decision to talk with your parents.

Believe me, this much we know. Which is why I said to take a systematic approach to it. Take a breath and calm down. Make a list (mentally?) of what you need to do, starting with a visit to the urologist. Then based on what he/she says, take it from there. I hoping some of your fellow London’ers can chime in with other specifics.

You have a few issues going on right now, but realize this doesn’t make you a damaged person. Stay calm and rational and you’ll get through it. We can give you tons of support, personal experiences, etc., but you have to take the action. The other worse thing you can do is to cruise around the net and self diagnose yourself. The end result is you become a hypochondriac and I’ve got one of everything.

Guys, this has been a work in progress for MMAfanatic in that he has just recently been realizing and coming to term with the fact that he has some problems, issues, call them what you will. Below are two previous threads where he is just starting to grapple with the idea that all is not well with how his wee-wee is working.

- 18 year old with some serious erection problems
- Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome…wow

As this is a case of cloned threads by the same guy I have closed the other two. By all means please read them for back ground info so you can help him mo’ better.

MMAfanatic,

No harm, no foul on the multiple threads all on the same topic. You were feeling your way around and figuring out what the problem was. We don’t like guys posting clones of the same thread; but, I realize that this was not your intent. The first two threads on this topic was you groping around and trying to get a handle on what was going on. Now, in this thread, you have things figured out and have presented the guys with a very well laid out and well written assessment of what you have going on and what you plan on doing about it, at least so far.

I didn’t merge the threads as that merges the posts based on post date and it would have been a confusing mess.

Thanks for that. My apologies.

Hey mmafanatic! By no means I`m a doctor but I think you may find my advice useful to some degree. I was struggling with similar ED issues(completely lost morning wood,couldn`t get it up for an intercourse)a few years back when I arrived to the UK for the first time(I was 20 years or so).
How is your morning wood? As you mentioned before seeing an urologist in your case would be a reasonable step, just to make sure the plumbing is fine. The major part of your issue seems to be psychological so you may want to try counselling. I never tried it but if you`ve got the time and courage to do it, go for it. In the mean time do a research of your own(thats what I did)upon your problems and try to, as clearly as possible, determine their foundation. Once you get that right, the whole process will start to make sense and you will see, what steps should be undertaken in order to make things work better. Now you seem to have all the reasons of your ED down(unless you forgot about something)so working on that basis you should be able to outline the route. Try the following:
- Dry humping - stop any sexual activities let`s say for a month(you may need to stay out for longer), see how you get on. Hoping that your girlfriend will show understanding and won`t have anything against it. During this period do not attempt any stimulation. The aim of such break is to get to the point when your libido is higher than normal, the desire to blow is so strong that your dick or should I say brain becomes sexually responsive to forms of stimulation which haven`t made you arouse in the past, in example: sexual thoughts, presence of your girlfriend, soft erotic images but not porn, random touch like washing your cock under the shower. I can personally refer to this method and with clean conscience confirm that it had worked miracles for me.
Side-note: I also used yohimbe on the duration of “re-programing” myself as it has shortened the time needed for me to reach my peek/enhanced libido levels.*(I leave it to your judgement whether to use it or not)
*By re-programing I mean readjusting my brain from excessive porn stimulation(certainly main reason of my ED) to no stimulation at all which after some time resulted in redundancy of the first in order to get sexually aroused; by peek/enhanced libido levels I mean getting to the point where arousal and erections are far easier to achieve than in the past.
- Whobly erections - with this respect I found herbal “viagra” very useful. It`s basically a mix of ginseng and other blood flow enhancing herbs and the effect is immediate plus it stays in your system for approx. 2 days. I used to take it 3 up to 4 times a week, one capsule a day. Great night- morning wood, harder wood overall. You can get them in those “Chinese Herb” shops, they are all over the UK nowadays. Once again I can personally refer to my statement and confirm that I have used the above mentioned product, which I believe greatly contributed to restoring my erection quality.

I`ve got absolutely no interest in misleading you or whatsoever. It`s all up to you, it doesn`t do you any harm to try. Read upon ED as much as possible, try to find a solution tailored to your problem. I would still recommend a visit at the urology clinics. Hope I helped. Good luck.

Booked appointment for doctors. Its in three hours. Really edgy and I cant get my legs to stop shaking. I wonder if I should mention everything I wrote down on that piece of paper. I do not know what good it would do to mention ”bed-humping for years”.

Another problem I forgot to mention was that most of the time my penis is turtled up.

I’ll be sure to keep people updated.

Make sure you tell the doctor everything, even if (especially if) it seems silly or embarrassing. The doctor has the potential to help, but only if you are completely open and honest. Don’t hold back.

Yeah man, get checked out. I had serious problems with erections when i was your age (None at all), but i got checked out. It turns out i had a blood sugar disorder. It took alot of tests thou, because my body produced too much insulin after consuming a sugar load which means my blood sugar went up temporarily then crashed very very very low. The doctor always made me fast before a blood test so by the time the blood test was taken my blood levels were fine. I was tired constantly and went to many doctors before they found the true cause.

Anyway, After a year or so of exercises and kegeling which i believe helped tremendously in my erections came back. I’m pretty much back to normal. I still take Cialis or levitra which are awesome drugs!!! Do a search under “research chemicals”. But FIRST! By all means…. Get checked out by a MD!

Went to see the doctor (general practitioner). He claimed that he could not find anything wrong with me physically but has arranged a blood test and a urologist appointment.

He thought taking Viagra at this age was a very bad idea.