I went to an erotic asian massage parlor today w/handjob, but couldn't ejaculate

Yes, I get extremely anxious when having sex.

What do you think the anxiety is about?

I’m very self concious about myself. I wish I was as hung as ron jeremy like have 8 or 9 inches. My bone press is 8 inches, but my nbp is 6.75. So to the korean girl it’s 6.75 in length. I want to be like a porn star and have women say WOW!!, but that doesn’t happen to me. I want to feel better about my size. I also have a case of gynecomastia on my chest (bitch tits). Thank God she didn’t say anything about my tits. The surgery would cost over $4-5 thousand dollars, but I don’t have that much money. Plus I think I’m losing hair on my head I think I’m going bald above my temples

It’s all these things that add up. I worry too much.

Ok, I’ve gotta be quick because somebody is coming over. Wow, you’re really hung you lucky bastard! It sounds like you’re a bit overweight, right? Then you know what you’ve gotta do, right? Hit the gym, swim, run, or whatever is most convenient. Eat right. Being fitter will help your self image and your sexual function. Your cock will look huge!!!

I know all that is easier said than done, but the old cliche is true: No pain, no gain.

As far as going bald is concerned, I can’t help you there, but I would advise that as soon as it becomes obvious that you are indeed losing your hair, crop the whole lot real close. There are a lot of sexy guys with this look.

Good luck ;)

Ok, thanks ziggaman for your help.

Hey, I’m back. I’ve been stood up!

Mike, I was wondering why would you consider surgery instead of getting down to some serious exercise?

If he really has gynecomastia it won’t go away with dieting or excercise. Only way to get rid of it is to use estrogen drugs like nolvadex or arimidex when it is recent gyne or surgery if the drugs don’t help.

I took androstenedione when i was 18 years old. I wanted to get big like Mark McGuire, but I had no idea it was going to increase my estrogen levels.This increased my tit size, also my nipples became puffy. I don’t know if it’s glands or fatty tissue.

I think the problem with the masseuse is perfectly normal.

That kind of situation can be very non-sexy, especially when the girl is obviously acting like she is doing her job and not turned on. Then she looks like she wants you to hurry up, which is very annoying and has the opposite effect.

I know guys who are always horny as hell but they go to the whore houses in Mexico and go limp. It is highly dependant on the woman making you feel horny. If she doesn’t, and it is her job, blame her, not yourself!

Handjobs from girls should be free in my book heh. Blowjobs would be where the paying starts. It’s also your first time there. Also you shouldn’t pay more to a ahem working girl if she doesn’t know what you like and get you off faster. I’m not sure why you guys like to go for only a massage and hand job :/ IF you get her next time, and have similar problem, tell her you need to see some of her skin? Then you can pay her more. Of course she DID have a choice to stop after 3 mins so she did deserve a tip :) 20 wasn’t bad. Considering half an hour of the massage would have been 25. You could also maybe help her out with some instructions of stroke, speed, area :)

O yea , duh , you took some red wine. Alcohol might help you want to get it on, but it reduces your ability to do so. My British English teacher told us this in 12th grade :)

Do they ever go all the way, intercourse either planned or unplanned?

Mike, maybe you just don’t like handjobs. I think they’re very boring and once even fell asleep while my girlfriend was giving me a handjob. To me at least, they’re about as enjoyable as dancing the Tango with an 80 pound bag of potatoes on my back and an ice-pick stuck in my thigh. And I get off fine when doing it myself or during sex.

You do need to get over the anxiety during sex though. Doing kegels and getting worked up isn’t going to do you any good. What I like to do when I start losing my erection and I’m not really interested in the sex, is to just fuck her really hard. I mean, I fuck her like an angry caveman on steroids! That always gets my perverted imagination going and she loves it. I usually wrap an article of clothing around her hips when I’m doing her from behind to get a really good grip, that way I can do her even harder. Works for me and it makes her feel like a dirty slut. Then, as she yells out from her orgasm, her sister runs into to the room to see what the noise is about. I grab her and throw her on the bed, lube up my penis and fuck her in the butt … HARD! When I come on her sister’s pretty face my girlfriend looks up at me, still dazed from her massive orgasm, in complete awe of my virility. I then shout to her mother downstairs to make me some damn pancakes with blueberries. After having a cigarette with the two girls I go downstairs. Her father hides behind the curtains in fear as soon as I walk into the room, naked with my big sausage swinging. As I sit at the table eating my pancakes her mom kneels between my legs, subserviently washing her daughters’ juices, the lube and some small amounts of blood from my penis with warm water and soap. When she’s done, I fart in her face. She says “thank you”.

Ok the last part was just my imagination running wild. But I can tell you from experience that girls love it if you have stamina. Hookers won’t like it cause they just want your money asap. Some time ago my g/f’s sister confessed to me she was a bit jealous that her boyfriend can’t fuck her as long and hard as I do my girlfriend. She said the house literally shakes when we fuck. What I’m saying is: don’t sweat it. You (we) have a gift … use it!

You should have told her to show you her pussy if she wanted you to finish fast.

Billy goat…funny…disturbing, but funny!

Billygoat, you are in the apartment above me, right? Keep the fuc*ing noise down, I need rest. Oh, and thanks for the tip about wrapping something around her waist for a good grip, I’m gonna try that.