I think this is a complex issue beyond your and her ability alone to adequately communicate because neither what you’ve described nor what you say she said really makes the most sense.
Communication seems like it’s most of the issue.
Sometimes we don’t have the tools to communicate well but this is learned.
Sometimes because both parties are so close to the problem almost anything can be seen as a slight. That’s really hard to get over on your own.
Sometimes because partners know each other well they also know how to hurt the other badly and do this with or without intention.
Another thing: if you have to pull out to prevent pregnancy that is a really BAD way to prevent pregnancy because your precum also contains sperm, so you can pull out and STILL get her pregnant.
Can happen but the stats are about as frequent as someone on the pill getting pregnant. I’ve practiced this method for years with several partners and never had an issue. As long as you understand that sperm can live for 5 days and the egg is viable for 24 hrs and you know when ovulation occurs you can also freely ejaculate during the appropriate period.
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