Need advice on surgery.

As some of you know I’ve been having scrotal pains, then after getting checked out multiple times it turn out I had epididymitis (fixed ), 2 inguinal hernia’s and Varicocele on my right testis. I only have pain on the right side testic and inguinal region.

After seeing like 7 Doc’s finally this grandpa doc is like pain is due to hernia, for varicocele I got the sperm test it all seems fine . So doc told no need for surgery for that, then he went on to tell that I can get both done at the same time if i want .

So here’s the problem , I don’t know what to do ,should i just get hernia surgery or should i get them both fixed, varicocele is something that might not go away for the rest of my life.
Now i’m young 20 years old sperm is fine for now what if i lose fertility after 10 years.

And there’s the money part if i get both done at the same time it will be cheaper for me.

I’m freaking out like crazy. my grades have gone to shit.
3rd semester exam i was not allowed to write due to not having 75% of attendance in class , 4th semester was pretty bad , now I’m in 5th semester and before 6th semester starts I’ll get holidays ,which is in December that is when i have to get this done.

Please tell me what to do. I cant talk about all this stuff with my friends and relatives.

Ok , look.

Varicocele can cause fertility issues. But some doctors will say surgery, just to be sure, some will say leave it as it is now that you are young, if it doesn’t bother you much and if you observe low sperm count in the future then we can operate and fix it.

I know all of these cause my brother had fertility issues and had varicocele, operated it and 6 months later his wife got pregnant. Some doctors said to him that he should do the surgery cause varicocele can cause testicular cancer in time, but I don’t think it’s true, perhpas they were after his money, cause other docs said to him that it is not quite accurate.

Recovery period is about one month. No sex, no masturbation. The operation is very simple, relatively painless and you can attend anything you wnat to attend maybe in 4-5 days after. So you are missing 4-5 days in bed, just to be sure. You can walk after the second one or the 3rd one, if I remember it correctly.

About the hernia, I would operate the hernia.

So, yes…

I would do both and get over with it.

Hernia recovery could take you a bit more.

If bill10 says to get your hernia fixed, then its probably best to get them both fixed since its cheaper.

But remember, in the end, it is your decision, you take responsibility. Dont just blindly listen to anyone and do something that you will regret later on.
Weigh the pros and cons and make the decision.
To me, it seems clear: I would say go get it fixed.

It should not affect your academic performance whatsoever!
One or two weeks of missing uni is not too problematic, most of the stuff you can catch up with easily, usually!
Heck, I am engineer student and my attendance is like 10% (I only visit courses that have compulsory attendance).
And my grades are mostly A and B, so its doable!!

Edit:
The problem is, if you do not fix it, it will lead to complications later on and why would you want that?
I mean what exactly is the problem here, why would you not want to get it fixed now?
Are you anxious?

One thing is i don’t have the money or insurance for that matter to pay for it , So my parents will have to pay for this and how do i tell you this my father thinks a bit weirdly , he thinks it is good that i have all this issues , he told it on to my face , God is punishing you cause you don’t pray regularly . For my father paying will not be a big issue one month of his salary will be more than enough to cover this , but he has always hesitated to spend money on his children and wife and yet he has all the money to lend his brothers and sisters and their children but when it comes to his own family he has nothing to give us. Not even a smile for that matter.

So I’ve been collecting money from various mean’s which i cant mention here. one of my friend is also helping me out . My older brother payed for all the diagnostics, all doctor fees, medication etc… for a year , I don’t want to put this on his head too.

I cant wait to get it done , it feels like being kicked between the legs 4 to 5 times a day then when i lay down it goes away, the most funny part is now I’m actually becoming accustomed to it .

If i can afford both at same time I’ll get it fixed or else I’ll just get the hernia fixed for now and wait till i complete my education ,earn then get varicocele fixed .

Uhm, I understand what you mean. It doesnt feel nice to be indebted to someone - the people you get the money from.
And it sucks that your father is that way.

But just think about it this way - you are not taking their money, you are not stealing it. They are lending it to you, since you are not able to get to it otherwise for now.
If you know, in your heart, that you will pay them back later on 100% or heck even a bit more just as thanks, it should not make you feel that bad.

When I am in that situation, I justify it like that. And I usually pay back 110% or so and say thanks many times if someone helps me out in a bind!
I feel like if someone I care about is holding back asking me for help, I would feel bad. I would much rather give them the money, even if its a lot than deny them that.
I’m sure whoever is helping you out is feeling that way too! Recognize that!

It might take a few years to pay back, but that should not matter!
Graduate school, find a job, earn your own money. Pay back. No problem.
Meanwhile, you are pain free and healthy again! Treasure your friends!
These days true friends are hard to find!

Or come out to Australia, Argentina for a holiday get yourself fixed and is cheaper. Or if you want to pay less then Thailand but it is riskier.

I also have to have an inguinal hernia fixed soon in early September.

In my country surgeries are the cheapest .it’ll cost like around $2000- $2500 for both the hernia’s and varicocele.

Αli, get the hernia fixed.

Varicocele can be fixed later. No big deal.

That’s what I would choose if I had limited money.

You can always tell your father later about the varicocele. <<Dad, if you want to see some grandchildren, help me on this>>

Keep in mind people with varicocele can get a girl pregnant. It depends. You may never fix it and have children normaly.

I know , I got my sperm count checked its normal .

I don’t understand my self , I don’t want to have kids but still for some reason I’m so worried about it .

I DON’T WANT KIDS I’M 100% SURE . But i still want my sperm to be fine for some damn reason.
I have so many issues to clear out ,I have a big big baggage.
Well this year has given me time to think about stuff I’d normally never think at all.

And thank you all for your support .

Oh in mine Australia is free for all and has been that way and BTW cancer treatment is also free covered by medicare we are very proud of our docs and surgeons

I wouldn’t be comfortable with that it’ll just drive me even crazier. here I know the surgeons she is very good and one of my uncle has also gotten hernia surgery done from her , he’s like go to her she will take care of the rest.

Guys good news,

I getting the surgery done next month YEeeeaaaaaa.
I’m so happy . finally it will be done.