Please read - Condoms AHHHH

Hey guys whatsup I have been with a girl for about 1 year and we have went raw for about 7 months, raw is a great feeling Lol! Now I am with a new chick and getting hard is not the problem but staying hard inside the condom is. It is most likely because I am used to the sensation without it and now my unit is confused but it is a Terrible turn off. As soon as I put it on I looses hardness, however most of the time I gain it back while I am inside of her but after I cum I am diminished of a sex drive that when going raw kicks in 2 minutes later.. Has to be all mental will anybody must have experienced this and can help!

I’ll help.

First Forum Guidelines. Have a look at what you posted and what’s in the quoted post above. Learn from those differences: paragraphs for new thoughts, ‘Lose’ instead of ‘Looses’, the removal of random capitalization and run-on sentences.

Trust me on this point, Itmatterz: it matters. Follow the guidelines and make your posts as clear as possible.

Now, about your question:

Condoms are a drag, but they are a necessary evil - especially in this day and age. You need to get your head game right when it comes to anticipating the sexual encounter. That will help with the diminished hard on. The other thing is, make sure you are at a peak of excitement before you put it on, and once you do get right to business.

Over time your arousal will be re-trained and won’t flag as much. I think, like most, you feel annoyed that you have to put the condom on. Don’t let these thoughts intefere with your performance.

Lastly, what’s your girth?

If you are using condoms that are too tight, they can sometimes cause a problem. Although, to be fair, some folks find the tightness helps clamp the erection down and actually aids maintaining a firm erection; people are different.

Oh, and what brand are you using?

Hey man sorry about my post , I know it was difficult

I cannot get a clear measurement on girth I don’t know if it’s 5 or 5.5 my last girl said my unit was pretty darn thick and she has been with 5 guys so it must be closer to the 5.5.

Second I used trojan ultra thin lubricated, I use the ultra thin because it made the sex feel better, however like I said I was with my girl and going raw for 7 months

Last time I used a condom was before I started getting serious with the P.E this can play a factor

I heard that getting bigger condoms such as magnum can work, there is also a brand called “his” pleasure which is supposed to be good

Thankyou for your reply Mr. Happy

I”m going to assume you’re circumcised because that appears to be the majority here.

You can add a drop of lube near the tip of the INSIDE of a condom to get a sensation that’s a closer to bareback. The first time you try this take it easy and make sure you don’t slip out without realizing it.

Cheers,
-Ron

Start jelqing with a condom on and you will get use to it by yourself instead of with someone else.

I’m going to take the other side. I hate condoms, they’re a joke. I can’t believe you’d wear one unless it was a one night stand. Get her on the pill.

Hi, I used to have the same problem, but I over came it after speaking to my girlfriend but, I no longer have this problem when ever I put a condom on.

One of the best things you can do is get her to give you head, when you first put the condom on. The thing is you want to make sure that she watches you put the condom on, otherwise she may think that you don’t find her attractive. If she thinks that she made you go soft it will hurt her self confidence, which in turn will lower the chance of her offering you sex.

I have a similar problem.

Actually, I have the exact same problem.

I was engaged young and my fiance’ and I never used condoms once we were committed. I know how hard it is to go from raw sex for years to condoms. In fact, I had to throw away the first box of condoms I bought as a single man because I couldn’t fit them on (I’m not horse hung, but my girth is about 6.5 and I couldn’t roll them down my unit, it was painful, frustrating and killed the mood).

You may laugh, but I honestly think the best method is this:
Step1: Once you find a brand of condoms that you like (the smell, the fit, right thickness, etc) buy a box and use them without “female assistance.”
In other words, put one on when you masturbate or even put on one while you are hard and kegal for a while. It will get you used to the feeling.

Step 2: Use them to fuck some lovely young woman so good that she will want to grab some birth control pills and get in a safe, committed condom-free relationship with you!

The difference between 5 and 5.5 is regular vs. A Magnum.

5.5+ you should be using larger condoms(best if ordered online, CVS and Rite-aid aren’t cheap).

If you don’t have a way to measure try using the toilet paper roll test, if it can’t fit you definitely need to use larger condoms.

‘Pulling Out’ Method Gets New Respect - ABC News

This Study has just claimed that the ‘pull out’ method is statistically about as effective as using condoms. I’ve been pulling out with my girlfriend for a good 5 months now.. Zero babies so far.

Obviously - this does increase your risk of STD’s etc., but if you’re in a clean monogamous relationship it can be much more appetising.

Why am I not allowed to write STD’s without an apostrophe?

And spell check changing my words to American English?! You can only push me so far people ; )

I used to let my (ex) GF put on the condom.. I found that to help a bit with my excitement :)

Search for who committed the study.

(Hint: starts with ‘P’ and ends with ‘pe’) ;) .

Does anybody know anything about IUDs? We’re thinking about the copper one in particular. The pill can really mess up a woman’s system.

In regard to condoms, we like the Durex Love best of all. They don’t squeeze too badly and you can actually feel something, unlike every Trojan one I’ve tried. In addition, I just ordered some flavored Durex, since my girlfriend likes to put them on with her mouth.

***I am not a doctor, but have done extensive studies on natural methods of contraception over the years***

I just want to comment on this. The truth is, once you take a few hours to educate yourself on proper practice of withdrawl method and the scientific process of implantation, you will see that the method is quite effective. BUT, unlike other forms of birth control it is INCREDIBLY risky.

What I just said may sound impossible. How could something be effective and risky at the same time? It is risky because the withdrawl method is the most difficult method to achieve whats called "perfect use." Perfect use means performing the method correctly and under the guidelines that it was designed to be used with. Many men have problems timing the withdrawl correctly. It only takes one mistake to render the method useless. Also, the method offers little protection against STDs (including HIV/AIDS). Not to mention that this method is often practiced by teens who are the most unfamiliar with their bodies and therefore at the greatest risk for premature ejaculation.

Lastly, because I know there is a lot of confusion on the subject of preejaculate (or pre cum: the fluid that comes out before you ejaculate). There are many myths on precum. Precum IS NOT semen. It does not come from the testicles and contains no sperm. Its purpose is to lubricate and clean out the urethra (in common terms). So why do intelligent people spread those myths that you can get a woman pregnant with precum? Well, because you can. Thats right. You can get a woman pregnant with precum, even though it contains no sperm. This happens because sometimes a small amount of sperm from a previous ejaculation can be in the urethra. Then the precum can carry it to the vagina and cause implantation. This can be avoided quite easily by ensuring that you urinate between your last ejaculation and your next sexual experience. The urine will kill any remaining sperm.

This is all still debated to some degree and there is some dissension among medical professionals, but this is the general consensus.

Many studies put "perfect use" of withdrawl at about 95% effectiveness while "actual use" or condoms can be as low as 93%. Just some things to think about. Its certainly not for everyone.