Porn and Arousal

I was able to go a week withouth watching porn videos. I relapsed, so now back to just watching it literally everyday 3-4 times. It doesn’t sound like a lot but when I beat off I last anywhere from 30-45 minutes. That’s about an hour to 2 hours a day jacking off. Sometimes more when not working.

Is there anyway to remove porn from my life? Why is this so difficult? :(

Going on nofap forum helps. Also i would suggest listening to audio books like Your brain on porn and the Porn myth,.you can do it while you do house chores or during transportation.

Audible is a great app for the audiobooks.

Focus dude, who is in charge? Meditation helps to tame the mind, channel your energy. I love porn and helps me get through my routine as a relaxing pill, but the least the best, cause is just unreal. Focus more on workouts and diets, read a book whatever

Yeah, what you describe might still be addiction. Try a month without it and see if you have any withdrawals symptoms. I used to think just the same as you (and tried meditation too). I was not overusing porn at all, but boy when I tried to stop and got withdrawal symptoms, i realized the harm. Never happened to me with weed or alcohol, stopping for weeks/months don’t give me any symptoms.

Redirect your time, get a hobby, go on hikes. Have interaction with real people, you have to use up all your waking hours not porning out. Read a book, pursue somebody you are sexually attracted to. Play online games. Start flame wars in chat rooms.

I do all those things and more to abstain from porn.

I’m curious Phoenix, what are these withdrawal symptoms you speak of? Only one I know of is forms of ED.

Do you have a steady partner? I found a girl that wants to fuck all the time and she gets me hard petting my hand or with a kiss or just her smell. I have a hard time getting turned on with porn now. If you do, then put all your attention to them physically.

Hi Naked Tomato, there are easy way and difficult steady way, and none of them are easy because in the easy way you probably gonna fall in it again just like I did and the difficult steady way is find a friend or a group of friends that have the same interest as you to stop watching pornography and talk everyday, and in that free time you have to do something productive for yourself and yourself only, like develop a hobby and work on that. The easy way for me was going to the farm, because there I have things to do every time, I am being watched, I turn off the internet connection, when it gets dark I am so tired from the manual labor that I just need to get to sleep sometime between 8 pm and wake up 4 am, there I don’t even think about porn, interestingly I think of having a partner to share that place, see and smell nature and good air, think of building something for me and mankind; but then there comes the time that I return to the city and stay something like 3 weeks without porn and the urges return and bam! I caught myself watching it because one day I wake up to simply forget that I committed with myself to stop watching it. I asked a friend to do something in my computer to stop accessing porn and it worked, when I clicked in porn websites it don’t open, says it have no connection something like that, he said that he can’t give me the name because I could search in google and discover how to break what he did here.
Be safe man.

Hi Makehergocrazy,

Sure, it normally goes like this (i saw similar experiences on noporn subreddits or on nofap forum). These withdrawal symptoms happened whether I was on moderate/heavy or on low porn use. That i think is the danger of porn, you might say, yeah, I check it once a week only or once every two weeks, I have no problem, it does me good. Yeah well try going a month without it and see if you have any symptoms.

So here is what I experienced, which was sometimes happening sooner or faster;

Day one, I’m like yeah I got this, this stuff is harmful, I won’t check it anymore ever (or for one year or whatever goal).

Day three, man this was nice to check but I can’t anymore.

Day seven; I begin feeling depressed, guilty of diverse unrelated things. I feel sad.

Day ten: I have a bit of suicidal thoughts, not that I would act on them, i love life, but I feel like a failure and I feel that my life is going to shit (it’s not, my life is going really great). At this point I can become irritable.

Then for several weeks, my mind tries to trick me to check porn or check images of sexy women. Like facebook feedscrolling checking profile picks of sexy girls, choosing movies to watch based on how cute the actress is, a big one is taking PE measurements and using porn to get a boner (just once my mind tell me, yeah… this ends in porn binge), using checking sexy games in the videogame portal steam and then derailing from there, etc.

The worst is whenever I have a shitty day or feel tired, bored, sad for whatever reason. My mind tells me that I need to do myself some good just for once and I need a booster, a bit of me time and that it would be ok checking porn. If i’m not strong enough, I just block my conscience, stop thinking and open some porn think and voila, I’m back into it. Then the next trap is telling yourself that since you have fallen, you can check it as much as you want until you start stopping again.