Premature ejaculation

Hello Thunders,

I have a real concern lately. And I also tried to talk to you in the past about this, but no result so far. I think I suffer from premature ejaculation. Very embarrassing.
Every time I have sex with my girlfriend, I just cum way too fast. She’s very sexy, very wet and tight, and wants me. And when I’m inside, she starts screaming and moaning and shivering and her nails are all over my back. And I cum.

We’re both frustrated because of this. I’m not satisfied of my performance, she’s not satisfied either. She barely has an orgasm once in two months.
When we were together at first, things were different! She could orgasm 4-5 times a night, even squirt. Now, after 2-3 minutes I’m done. If I move slowly, maybe I’ll delay the effect, but If I move a little faster, I’ll go boom.

I never had this kind of problems with none of my past girlfriends. I could last for hours, even if I was younger.

It’s really embarrassing because for example I’m planning a romantic night, with roses and champagne and a hot relaxing bath, .oil massage and stuff, and .after 2-3 minutes of sex.. Damn I feel so screwed. If only I could please her.

I’ve tried cock rings, I’ve tried to stop when I feel the urge, I’ve tried to have sex 10 minutes after ejaculating ( and got same results ), I’ve tried a cream for delaying my orgasm, please tell me, is there any way to control my urge to cum ?

I believe kegels to the max is a great way. I just started kegeling on sunday and I already feel a difference in that muscle.it’s amazing what it can do. I’m sure there may be other things to do as well but I think kegels can actually help. Also try to make sure you fel confident. I had that problem and if your not a confident man in bed youl blow. I try to get a head of cockiness ( no pun intended ), like I’m the man and ill pleasure that girl no problem.just another day at the office. Also try going downtown on her first.make her blow an oring first bud, then get to your business.

Look jroger21 saying true that kegels help you

But I think you have to place stop sign for intercourse and do some yoga exercise

It really helping me at not only body strength level but also at sex level health

And ya most important cut your extra working hours and gave a rest your body

Good luck bro

I think your problem is mostly psychological. You’ve conditioned yourself and your gf to have poor expectations.
Why do you speak as though after you climax in 2-3 minutes, that that is the end of it?
That is just the beginning.
What says you cannot engage in some foreplay and start again? Are you suddenly not interested in her anymore?
Do you want to stop there?

I am a fast finisher also, but in my experience I found that I could last longer the second time if I maintained my level of excitement
And recovered my erection.
If you believe it is over and loose interest, then it definitely is over.
If you are still excited by her body, and enjoy kissing and touching, and making her feel good, then you can go as long as you want.

You need to learn how to have your “orgasm” or muscle spasms without releasing the sperm. Practice on your own by edging. Touch your self up until the point of no return and then stop. Over time you will learn how to have that feeling of orgasm but not actually cum. Ill be great because you can reach that great feeling many times and each time it’s more intense.

And in the meantime, just jack off an hour or two, or three before you have sex with her. Obviously, that’ll make you take longer to cum.

Also, if you make her cum with fingers / tongue then there will be less pressure on you during the intercourse.

How much do you jerk off? Jerking off a lot will help. Also, switch positions frequently. I find that I can last really long with girl on top, but not very long with laying down doggy style.

If you can recover quickly, then ask her to jerk you off or give you head first. Then go down on her until you are hard again. Then you should be able to last for hours.

I am a usually a big “natural herbs” proponent, and am generally against pharmaceuticals, but in this case I have a couple of suggestions that involve medications that I know work for this problem… unfortunately they are prescription so you will have to see your doc to get them.

First, any of the codeine family, Percoset, Oxycontin, Hydrocodone etc. an hour of so before, works wonders.

Second, several of the seratonin uptake inhibitor antidepressents such as Zolof (sertraline) will delay ejaculation, but may have undesireable side effects so they are best used on an occasional basis (don’t let them put you on daily dose).

Both classes of drugs have documented effectiveness for PE. See your doc.

Just edge 5days 2 day off for 15 mins

And do 200 sets of 5sec kegels and it will help.

Also just take your mind off your girls.Think about other nasty things and BREATH.Works Great.

One thing I don’t like is when you’re told to think about disgusting things during sex. I’m determined to find ways to go longer and STILL ENJOY the sex I’m having. No way I’m going to have nasty thoughts in my head in an attempt to “turn myself off” just to last longer.

My advice to you is to avoid ejaculating altogether. No matter what, don’t ejaculate for an entire week. If you make it through that week, you will learn how to control your ejaculate. Don’t abstain from masturbation or sex, just make sure you don’t ejaculate. Listen, it is under your control. You need to breathe slowly and deeply when you fool around with your woman. If your breathing gets fast and shallow, you are about to ejaculate. Also, as other members indicated, you need to practice kegels. If you get a strong PC muscle you can stop ejaculations with a strong squeeze. I never ejaculate and as a result, I don’t even have to worry about ejaculating too early! Additionally, I have rock hard erections, big flaccid hang, etc. all of which I attribute to avoiding ejaculation (which depletes your penis).

It is hard to say something that has not been said already so I will just say what worked for me which is edging + holding (or very slow) breath + distracting yourself that worked wonders. That was the physical part. The mental was just reducing the anxiousness and just relaxing. I may even mentally convince myself that it is just sex and is no big deal (even though it is for 99.9% of us males) but it is just a method that has helped in various encounters to reduce reaching the PONR. Whenever I did any combination this, I am able to pound away for a good 25-30 minutes but it took a lot practice though. That was back then before I really had too much experience and had built up any stamina. Good luck.

5-HTP.

Get it over the counter at your local pharmacy.

Good advice so far — Kegels, edging, breathing exercises, distractions. Anti-anxiety meds work well too (Prozac, for instance), although they may also decrease sexual desire. Or just get nice and tipsy.

One other technique I’ve found works wonders is a sharp downward tug to the nutsack whenever I feel an approaching orgasm. Not so hard it hurts but it hard enough to “shock” yourself. Bit of a mood-killer though..

I had this same problem a few years ago but I re-conditioned myself to last longer by changing the way I masturbate. I stopped using porn and made sure that every time I got off I spent at least 20 min getting there (started closer to 5 min, gradually worked up to 20 and then stayed about there). Now I can’t get off in less than 10 min without serious effort on my girls part :)

Typically whenever I get too close too early nowadays I just stop and go down/finger ma’lady. She doesn’t mind, I stay aroused, she gets off, and I retain my dignity. Once I cool down a bit we get back to the good stuff. Plus once she’s gotten off there is much less pressure on me (it’s my turn :D ).

Ultimately you just need to stop worrying about it man. The stress/anxiety is 95% the problem. Relax and enjoy the physical pleasures of sex without thinking or caring about when you’re going to ejaculate; you’ll find it takes much longer to reach orgasm when your mind/body isn’t obsessing over it. And even if round one ends prematurely, you don’t have to (nor should you!) stop there. Keep going as long as the arousal is present.

This was much longer than I expected. Hope somebody finds this helpful. And best luck to you mate!