Sex Stamina- Think i have trained myself to come quick- The road back

Hey there eveyone, its been a very long time since i posted last. Only recently just started to re-visit Thunders.

The reason for my post is the my lack of confidence in my sexual stamina, i guess i have never lasted very long, on occasion i can go for 30 mins + but thats a rare day lol.

After reading a fair bit i have come to conclusion that i think i have contributed to my own poor performance by the way i masturbate. When i do have a wank i all to often try and reach the end as quick as possible which although has immediate gratification i think doesn’t bode well for lasting long in the sack lol. And i cant believe i hadn’t realised this before.

So i start now on the road to bettering myself. Ive still yet to decide an exact plan but ive stopped masturbating for the time being.

Any input from fellow forummers with advice/past experience will be greatly received.

Thanks for reading!

Here you go … Johanson - Kegels during sex How to prolong, avoid premature, harder erections All kinds of threads referenced here.

How quick do you ejaculate on an average basis?

Hi the one, i usually get at least one drink bought me before i tell that lol, only joking.

Well i would say in sex i would come maybe 10 mins into penetration although this isnt constant action i hvae to stop every now and then to make sure i dont cum and this is the thing i dont like. I want to be able to have continous hard sex for atleat 15-20 mins.

When i wank i can cum within a minute if i wish to cum quick.

This is where i see my problem, my lack of what i perceive stamina kinda knocks my confidence soemtimes.

The truth is that average time is pretty darn short. So, despite the porno flicks, you’re probably not too far off normal. But who wants to be normal? :)

The orgasm without ejaculation technique is really cool. I wish I could get to 100% on it though. After the first one the second round can go quite some time. Never timed it but my fiance’ says 20 minutes or more of steady activity. Not sure how/why it works that way. Not sure of maximum time because she’s pretty much at the end during the second round. I’ve literally stopped while still erect - that messed her head up a bit the first time I did that - but the orgasm, without ejaculation, is an honest-to-god real one so I just didn’t feel the need to force a second one (plus, I was planning on sex again after an intermission). I’m convinced this is the answer for men. Why worry about orgasming fast if you can retain the erection and keep going? It’s the ultimate roller-coaster ride :) .

Pssst, Zlatan, remember capital I not little i. Thanks and welcome back.

Ten minutes is pretty good, I think. I can’t last more than 2 minutes. :o

I have tried edging, but starting and stopping every minute or so is extremely frustrating and pointless. Of course, this is done only while I masturbate. My GF would go absolutely crazy on me if I “stop and go” every minute while being inside her.

And as I have posted many times in other threads, kegeling didn’t work for me in terms of improving premature ejaculation, although I had a much stronger erection and ejaculation during the six months when I kegeled.

Yeah I know what you mean The One, kegels really did nothing of notice to my performance either way.

Although I am looking into reverse kegels and have tried a routine and think they could well help the process along.

It seems when I’m about to cum if I reverse kegel I can make the sensation go away.

I have also been following a sex specific weights routine to see if that helps my performance !! Lol, give it 6 months and ill be giving my gf the best she ever had woo hoo

Good luck to you, bro. :)

Care to share your routine with us? ;)

I have tried reverse kegel, and it kind of worked in a way that I could stop the urge to ejaculate, but it still involves the “stop and go” method, which is very frustrating. Keep in mind that I would have the urge to ejaculate in less than two minutes of thrusting. If the duration is, say, five or ten minutes, I would definitely use the “reverse kegel” method while having sex.

I think I have tried just about every exercise one can do, and none of them improve my PE in a significant way. That’s why I turned to medication for help. It worked great, but as I have posted in the other thread, performing kegels while on the medication actually reduced my performance. Argh! This is so frustrating…

Sadly, (for males in general, not for you), 10 minutes is actually longer than most guys last!

I would strongly suggest that you stop it with the super fast wanks.

Yeah I totally agree on that on Iamaru I have stopped them for good.

I guess it is just a case of trial and error when it comes down to the individual.

My routine was to learn how to masturbate properly, using long but constant strokes not just concentrating on the head or frenulum. I would set a time for how long the continuous strokes would be, say 3 mins constant action to mimic full sex. So you would wank for that time period trying to say focused whilst still getting pleasure. I am also looking at porn while I do this for added sensation but this is harder to control but it works for me.

Then after I felt comfortable with 3 mins move onto 5 and so on. I would only use a reverse kegel if in that 3 mins I did feel the urge to cum. Although I have been doing sets of reverse kegels to see if this might help anyway, I’ve been doing 4 sets of 15 but yet to notice anything fingers crossed lol.