Sex with condom problem

Can you guys suggest any advise here? I really feel little pleasure in sex/oral even hand job with a condom on.

I can get hard without condom just looking at the girl or during foreplay but as soon as the condom is on and I’m either getting oral or penetrating the erection goes down. The ‘feeling’ is definatley less but I think there is some ‘mental’ in it too as I can get hard watching the girl play with herself without even touching my dick. But often I feel with a condom I am pounding away at nothing and can have sex without getting any urge to ejaculate, whereas without a condom I feel like I am going to cum in a few seconds and can not go too long. I love the feeling of the warwth and wet pussy juices all over my dick.

I used to and still do masturbate quite a bit and fast and forefully. If I cut this out would this help? Any other tips

Thanks.

Whenever you masturbate, maybe try it with a condom on? It’ll probably help you get used to the feeling of having one on ( I hate them too!), and it will help your brain to re-program so that condoms will no longer mean bad times for your boner.

Or is it a size issue? Condoms squeeze the hell out of my dick, and unless I’m super-horny, that will kill my erection quick! Maybe you could try bigger condoms?

Well that’s a good point as well. I feel the condoms are too tight but techincally they shouldn’t be becuase I am ~7” length and 5” base girth narrowing to 4.5” girth up top. This is less than average girth but still the condoms do feel tight.

Actually, that is pretty average girth for both measurements. Don’t think of yourself as small on girth.

Penis Size: The True Average (starts out with a lot on length, but girth is discussed too)
http://www.free -condom-stuff.c … on/research.htm (From that site: " The average girth is 4.972 inches (12.63cm), with the majority ranging between 4.7 inches (12cm) and 5.1 inches (13cm)" )

I second WideLoad. If condoms feel tight, try a larger diameter condom such as Magnums. The danger with a condom that is too big, girth-wise, is the possibility that it will slip off. If it stays in place as it should, it’s not too big. Just be very careful the first several times you use them, and WideLoad’s suggestion to masturbate wearing a condom is a good one as well when you first try larger condoms. It will give you some idea of how well the condom stays on when friction is applied.

I used to have that same issue, I had that problem when I wore condoms which were tight or too thick. If they are thick you won’t be able to feel anything and will go on forever, I tried Durex featherlite condoms which are pretty good, you can hardly tell the condom is on, I had to keep checking to make sure it was (and it was). I must admit though when I put the condom on it’s kinda like a mood killer and I lose my erection but then a bit of foreplay with the condom on gets me back up. Must definitely be a psychological thing.

Yeah its definatley a mood killer. From feeling horny to feeling ‘technical’. Maybe I’ll try a lot of foreplay with condom on and also try and use my fleshlight with different condoms.

Thanks guys.

In my opinion what is quoted is your problem. Lay off the masturbation for a bit, tell me how your wood is in a week.

Actually I know this is a big part of problem. My morning wood is only 60-80% or non-exsistant. It used to be ripping hard. I thought maybe stress could be a factor to?

I really will try my hardest not to touch my dick for 1 whole week and see.

I don’t often use condoms because I can not get the pleasure of having sex when the condom is on . I always enjoyed sex with out condoms .

pontivexmaximus, relax, there is nothing wrong with you physically. It is just performance anxiety. You are obviously worried about her reactions to what you are doing. It is a very intimate and personal thing when you are engaged with someone physically, and subconsciously you feel vulnerable.

It may sound selfish, but don’t worry about her. It is probably the biggest favour you can actually do for a girl! Just let yourself go in the moment and do whatever feels right and turns you on. She will set the limits if she is not into something, or better still, she might take over and steer in her direction! Otherwise relax and have fun!

Relax! Being “frantic” and thinking about it will just lead you to think about it the next time your with her. Don’t get caught up thinking “Will it work this time?”.

Could well be the porn still effecting me.

Having gone a few months with very infrequent and tame porn and practically no porn 2-3 weeks I done a test (have had floppy sex and crappy ‘no porn’ wanks in between).

1) sexy live chat semi-naked girls on TV= no arousal/hardon
2) Internet pics hot girls naked= no arousal/hardon
3) naked porn pics=no arousal/hardon
4) extreme porn gangbang etc pics= no aorusal/hardon
5) random video pretty ugly girl and old man oral sex= bada boom bada bing, ‘SAY HELLO TO MY LITTLE FRIEND AH’ Mind and dick overload, 1,2,3.SPLAT!!

Conclusion, I need to see live footage of sexual activities to be aroused. A vid of an ugly girl doing stuff turns me on whereas pics off girls I’m attracted to do nothing.

I wonder who long it will take for my brain to reset. I have barley watched any porn especially hardcore over the last few months yet that small crappy click set off a time bomb, yet it was a vid that would’ve done nothing months back so I guess that is a plus point. Ah well, back to my porn detox.

One huge problem is that we as boys masterbate and we hurry so as not to get caught. We condition our minds and our bodys that our ultimate goal is to get to ejaculation quickly ie; Pavlov’s dog theory! Re-training ourselves takes time but can be accomplished, especially if you control breathing and learn to recognize the signs that you are approaching the “point of no return”. As far as condoms go. I have excellent control without one. I am married and don’t need or wear them. We have a few times, a week ago actually, because I have not been cut yet and we have 5 kids and don’t want the sixth Brady. I feel nothing with a condom on. I tried the ultra thin and could not imagine having to wear one again. Wideload is right. Anxiety is a killer in the bedroom. It can cause a plethora of problems which include erectile dysfunction AND pre-mature ejaculation. You just have to relax and enjoy. Foreplay, foreplay and foreplay. Mix up the oral and vaginal sexual activity. Have fun!

So your saying even the ultra-thin one still felt shit?

I’m never going to get a proper gf in the near or most likely long-term future so I may as well just keep jacking off then.

Life’s shit!

You may be more sensitive than I, so try them. I think the advice to masterbate with a condom may be your best bet. Anxiety seems to be your biggest enemy here. My biggest question would be, do you perform oral sex on your girlfriends? I have never understood why people insist on condoms to prevent disease but will then bury their tongue the same place that they won’t put their dick? I damn sure wouldn’t trust a condom only for pregnancy prevention. I have busted more than one in my single days!

Lol sensitivity and my dick do not go in the same sentence. The top half has been red raw as long as I can remember from all my wanking.

When I have a clean, cute girl I will go down no problem and I’d quite happily dip my dipstick in without a condom but the problem is the only sex I can see myself getting in the near future is with ho’s. And sex with ho’s aint even appealing so that aint gonna make my dick so hard. So, whats even the point if I can’t feel anything with a johnny, just a waste of time and money, may as well be a porn addict for life. Fuck it whats the point in me even doing PE lol. To get a bigger dick to wank. Fuck it I may as well top myself.