Starting Porn detox march 1st

I have to. Its been a part of my life almost since I can remember. Interesting when you think about how, for some of us in this age group, we were able to progress with porn in step with technology:
Porn mags under the bed
VHS
Cable TV
Porn channels on TV
DVD
Internet

I’m actually afraid of what might come next. For me, I almost feel like it will turn to infidelity. All these hook up sites, cam sites, now apps to locate someone that wants to fuck within proximity. I have to figure out a way to dial it back.

I need to change and need to do it now. I’ve quit tobacco no problem. Booze I have a real hard time with. Even when I go months without, it just doesnt take much for me to dive back in. I’m scared to death to try to detach from porn. I’m not sure how I will do it.

Wish me luck

Oh I hear you man. Same shit here. Started with some magazines, vhs, tv now internet.

I hate it but then again love it. Drives me crazy.

Porn is addiction tbh.
Wish you all the best!

Thanks bro. As someone that has used tobacco and alcohol, I was always aware of addition, but this one snuck up on me. It took step number 1 for the whole deck of cards to come down. Just admitting that I was addicted and that it had the power over me was enough. I’m spending the next few days trying to remind myself of the following

1) that is not me that I’m watching
2) my dick isnt that big, I don’t look like that guy, my wife doesnt look like that girl.. Nor do I have any prospect of being with a girl like that (nor would I risk my marriage for that)
3) thats not my house, my car, not my life
4) I’m not gonna bang 3 super hot broads at once
5) I’ve actually had a shit load of sex in my life.. A SHIT LOAD.. Plenty to know that no matter how hot that looks, I know what it feels like and in the end, its just sex
5) What I am is a middle age man, with an above average dick, and average build, and I’m just sitting here in front of a computer jerking off.

I’m planning on trying to figure out a way to get a mirror located right in front of where I usually do my business so I can see just how sad I look sitting here.

Good luck happi_g_more.

I’m turning 45 on the 27th of February. Its been quite a destructive force for me - always negatively correlated with how my relationship is going.

If you have trouble staying off, you can experiment with products like K9 or Netnanny. Or you can do the simple solution of adding something like “0.0.0.0 what.ever.p0rn.url” to your HOSTS file. That is some easy barriers that can help you overcome the urge :-)

Good luck happi. It’s definitely an addiction and so hard to avoid since it’s free and unlimited on a smartphone. The 5 points you made are very good and true. Hope you can do it and your marriage will be better for it.

Number 5 is the best!
Made me laugh but hey its damn funny when you stand side and look at the guy who is jerking off to the screen.

I didn’t’ have many partners or hot sex stuff but watching porn is not the way :D

After reading a bit on YBOP (which I still have a long way to go), but that was the one thing that was glaringly obvious to me. I really think allowed myself into the fantasy of porn. When you look at the reality of your own self watching porn. Not so pretty

Don’t give it up if you enjoy it…

Porn? If you are saying that then I implore you to read youbrainonporn.com

>If you are saying that then I implore you to read yourbrainonporn.com<

But if you do, bear in mind that it makes very loose arguments while initially appearing very plausible. It also conflates porn use with addiction.

How long does it take to read that article?

You mean the evidence isnt concrete like it is with PE? :)

What I’ve read so far has rung true with me. I have all the symptoms that they discuss. If I stop for 30 days or so and see changes in my life, well then thats proof enough for me. If not, well then I’m back to youporn.com

Its a website with a ton of info. Look for the youtube video on the front page of yourbrainonporn.com. Pretty much describes it in a nutshell

>You mean the evidence isnt concrete like it is with PE?<

This is a fair point.

>I have all the symptoms that they discuss.<

I don’t but potentially this has to do with quantity consumed.

>If I stop for 30 days or so and see changes in my life, well then thats proof enough for me. <

Try replacing porn with gaming and masturbate as frequently as you do with porn. That might be an interesting experiment. If you replace porn with self contemplation and walks in the countryside and avoid onanism you are likely to see changes.

Yeah, ill get right on that :) as If I have time. Look, I’ve just come to the decision that YBOP makes points that seem valid to me. I’ve always had and issue with the amount of porn I consume, I’ve never been able to dial it down (when I give myself the OK, why not comsume as much as I please?). I do the same with booze. The problem is that I do it when I should be doing other things, I “sneak” it at times.. Even when I’m not alone in the house, I have the side effects listed on YBOP.. Attention problems, ED.. All the way down. So, back to the point, this IS the experiment and Ill report back to you guys as many others have. If I truly see a difference Ill let ya know.. If not, I get a weekend alone, consume 48 hours of porn, JO 150 times and tell you guys all about it.