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Originally posted by regularwhiteguy
That you even have the choice of making it last long or short is vastly different then some people go through… You mentioned something about you being larger could have been a factor in shooting off faster then previous… That statement got me to thinking, sort of wondering if my girth was most of the cause of my premature ejaculation problem… It would be interesting if others would sound off as to their thoughts on this matter… Anyone add some girth and notice that they came faster then before?
Well, I do believe that good technique also applies. I found that, pre-PE if there wasn’t much foreplay - she was not stimulated enough - the initial entry was so “tight” that the effort of just getting it in had me ready to cum. I think that PE and kegels have helped as well, but it seems to me that these techniques help extend my lovemaking and make it more enjoyable:
1. Spend a LOT of time with foreplay, especially oral stimulation.
2. During foreplay, tease a lot - i.e., stroke softly all around her breast but avoid the nipple. Same for her genitals. Take your time getting to the erogeneous zones, it will make her anticipate it more.
3. If you do this correctly, she will be plenty wet and ready, hopefully she’s already had at least one orgasm. You COULD plunge it in to the hilt at this point, but DON’T. Tease her with your dick as well, I was quite surprised at how much this turns on my wife. Rub it all up and down her slit, “hump” from the outside. Then insert the head JUST BARELY. Pull it back out and rub it around the outside, especially on her clit. Do this over and over.
4. When you do start thrusting, DON’T go all the way in, just do an inch or so at a time and gradually increase the depth. This is the hardest thing for me to do, as I want to start humping like mad. Her vagina will be completely wet and engorged, my dick will want to immediately bury itself. Resist the instinct, go slow and pull it out completely sometimes especially when you begin to feel an orgasm approaching.
5. I usually begin at some point to stimulate her clit with my finger(s) as I’m fucking. This helps to stimulate her and somewhat “de-stimulate” me, as I have to do 2 things at once ;-)
6. Anytime you feel an orgasm approaching, pull out and return to the teasing mode. Also, after some time my wife tends to dry out somewhat, so I will pull out and return to oral stimulation. This helps a great deal, as she is being stimulated as my orgasmic feelings subside, and she will be well lubed when I do start fucking again.
7. Above all, getting into a relaxed state helps me maintain control. Alcohol can help, but I would recommend that you limit your alcoholic intake when you plan to have sex. For me, this would be no more than 2 or 3 beers - more if spread over several hours. Experiment to find your own limits, err on the conservative side i.e. drink even less than you think.