The happy medium

I’ve been doing PE for over a year now with pretty good results. My problem is that I cannot find a happy medium from where I cum too fast or too slow. I’ve been seeing this girl now for a while, and have seen her in the past, about 2 yrs ago, so we have had sex before. I’ve also been with a half dozen or so more girls, so I’m not new to sex or sexual activities. If I see this girl and we got out to a bar and drinking and come back and have sex, I go forever…which kind of gets too long for her and even for me…hehe. I know that alcohol has that effect on sex with giving longer stamina through my experimenting in college with drinking, parties, and what not. When we have sober sex, I seem to cum so fast though. I do kegel exercises almost daily and can control myself fine when I’m with myself, but when it comes to sex, I can’t seem to control it. Maybe it could be because I’m a little bit bigger now, so she seems tighter which could add to my quick sex. Sometimes I can go again right after, so its not too big of a deal, but otherwise I just get tired and want to go to sleep. Anyone have any suggestions for me?

Do you ever try to think of something out in left field when you are feeling you are going to cum like, I need to clean the toilet. I don’t know about men, but sometimes when my hubby is doing me and I want to have the feeling a little long before I climax, I think of something odd, like what I am going to cook for dinner tomorrow or I need to call my sister. That usually does the trick.

I am sure someone has better advice but it’s a start.

Easy… Just get half drunk… :)

Anna and RB are correct.

Thinking of something other than what you are doing will help, like Queen Elizabeth or Bess Truman.

Alcohol is a depressant and will slow things down, course too much and you can’t even get it up. Which come to think about it, would delay cumming. (Sorry, just an off the wall thought)

That you even have the choice of making it last long or short is vastly different then some people go through… You mentioned something about you being larger could have been a factor in shooting off faster then previous… That statement got me to thinking, sort of wondering if my girth was most of the cause of my premature ejaculation problem… It would be interesting if others would sound off as to their thoughts on this matter… Anyone add some girth and notice that they came faster then before?

I have a thin dick (4.25 inches) and I cum too early.

I think successful PE’ers would tend to cum early because they never get a chance to get used to their growing dick. The sheer thought of it being bigger than they ever had before and the feeling that it is not the same old dick tends to make a play at the ego and drives the horniness up the wall. I believe I have this problem as well. I can control myself while alone but plowing my new-founded cock into a tight-warm pussy is just too much for me. I believe I would have to train extra hard to last longer, until I stop PE and get adjusted to my dick, where it won’t be as difficult.

Well, I do believe that good technique also applies. I found that, pre-PE if there wasn’t much foreplay - she was not stimulated enough - the initial entry was so “tight” that the effort of just getting it in had me ready to cum. I think that PE and kegels have helped as well, but it seems to me that these techniques help extend my lovemaking and make it more enjoyable:

1. Spend a LOT of time with foreplay, especially oral stimulation.

2. During foreplay, tease a lot - i.e., stroke softly all around her breast but avoid the nipple. Same for her genitals. Take your time getting to the erogeneous zones, it will make her anticipate it more.

3. If you do this correctly, she will be plenty wet and ready, hopefully she’s already had at least one orgasm. You COULD plunge it in to the hilt at this point, but DON’T. Tease her with your dick as well, I was quite surprised at how much this turns on my wife. Rub it all up and down her slit, “hump” from the outside. Then insert the head JUST BARELY. Pull it back out and rub it around the outside, especially on her clit. Do this over and over.

4. When you do start thrusting, DON’T go all the way in, just do an inch or so at a time and gradually increase the depth. This is the hardest thing for me to do, as I want to start humping like mad. Her vagina will be completely wet and engorged, my dick will want to immediately bury itself. Resist the instinct, go slow and pull it out completely sometimes especially when you begin to feel an orgasm approaching.

5. I usually begin at some point to stimulate her clit with my finger(s) as I’m fucking. This helps to stimulate her and somewhat “de-stimulate” me, as I have to do 2 things at once ;-)

6. Anytime you feel an orgasm approaching, pull out and return to the teasing mode. Also, after some time my wife tends to dry out somewhat, so I will pull out and return to oral stimulation. This helps a great deal, as she is being stimulated as my orgasmic feelings subside, and she will be well lubed when I do start fucking again.

7. Above all, getting into a relaxed state helps me maintain control. Alcohol can help, but I would recommend that you limit your alcoholic intake when you plan to have sex. For me, this would be no more than 2 or 3 beers - more if spread over several hours. Experiment to find your own limits, err on the conservative side i.e. drink even less than you think.

Wesb,

Thanks for that… I’ll give it a go the next time the wife lets me get on it… Had some the other day so that means I have at least 3 to0 4 days before the wife is ready for me to attack it again.. I’m going to try what you said for sure…

Orgasmo… :rolling:

You’re saying PEer’s dicks are growing between two sex sessions to a degree, that the excitement about this makes those PEers cum fast? Well, my advice would be: go increase sex frequency!

Same with the Androgel Gang, they don’t touch their dicks for weeks to avoid hairy hand palms and contribute their firm erections to the stuff…

…but they’re just FUCKING HORNY 7:^)