Why Don't I Enjoy Sex?

I have a short masturbation time to orgasm and ejaculation, I’m done in 2-3 minutes. That has always been the case with me. Since I started masturbating at the age of 9. Now I’m 74 years old and I’m still masturbating. A short masturbation time to orgasm and sperm emptying has the advantage that the penis is not so heavily used during frequent masturbations. I can also take every opportunity to masturbate. If necessary, I masturbate while standing. It is always a relief when the sperm leaves the body. The short masturbation time is also a reason that I have become a solo masturbator. Because I can’t satisfy a woman in such a short time.

I feel like some people, including myself, are born over-sexualized. At 56 years old, I still want to cum twice a day to relieve the urges. When masturbating, I want to do it for hours—except for chafing the skin and wasting so much time. I wonder if I’ll be the same way at 74, maybe? Other guys I know my age have already slowed down but I haven’t.

I’m 52 and my desire is to only release with my wife or wet dreams. I think it keeps me primed for her. As for now a long edging session keeps me feeling quite verile. It’s also gives me something I really like, spontaneous erection.

Porn, and excessive masturbation are not helpful for having good sex with a partner. I sometimes have trouble finishing before I have wore out my partner, and I find if I am indulging in solo play, or watching porn, I can take too long and wear out my welcome. I try to save all my cum for my partner, as nothing warms the heart of woman more than receiving a big load of cum, and nothing, including not reaching orgasm herself seems more disappointing, at least to my wife, than when I fail to fill her with a load of my love juice. Edge all you want, but save your load for your partner.

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Honestly don’t know why I found this so funny but its probably because I can relate. I am literally dying right now.

Seriously though, is it possible for a mod to change my name to Solo Masturbator?

At 54 I know I have really slowed down sexually. I’m now a One Cum Wonder. I can’t go a second round hardly ever now like I used to when the hormones were raging in my teens and 20s. The urge is still strong, but I can easily go 2 weeks so long as I’m concentrating on other tasks of Real Life. If I go without too long then the old Nocturnal Wet Dream will kick in at some point..

Maybe you have some kind of mental issue? I do not know, maybe you saw how your parents had sex in childhood or somebody tried to be abusive to you (I am sorry If I "shot" in very personal things).

I had a problem too: I did not enjoy sex with my girlfriend. I went to the doctor and he said I am a healthy man. Then I go to a psychiatrist and do you know what? We found a root: my mother told me about ten years ago, in my childhood, that "sex is only for reproduction. Men are not able to receive pleasure".

I’ve started to work on this issue on my own. Then I found yourself interested in esoteric. And then I went through the Healing Course which helped me to gain self-confidence, to separate from my mother and her words, to forgive myself. To become a wise and more interesting person.

Who knows. Maybe you also struggling with something connected to your psyche? Psychosomatic is not a joke to be honest.

Thanks for all your replies. I’ve made a lot of improvements now and enjoy it more

When was the last time you had a checkup with Vitamin D, thyroid, and testosterone panels?

Depending on your insurance carrier, you may have to describe specific symptoms to your doctor before they’ll pay for the test, and even then, sometimes you have to specifically ask for the tests.

Also, when was the last time you took a break/decon from PE? You could have slipped over the edge into overtraining and loss of EQ.