Why Don't I Enjoy Sex?

Every time I’ve had sex It feels like the penis head is lacking sensitivity (sexual pleasure sensitivity) and often takes ages to orgasm if at all, I’m 23. I am uncircumcised and am wondering if it has something to do with years of master-baiting with the foreskin covering the head/glands? When I masturbate I use one hand on the base which often provides more pleasure than on the head. I am limiting faps to 1 per week but still no difference. I also suffer symptoms of low testosterone and often struggle to stay fully erect during sex but not always (ordered some ED pills to see if this will help)

What can I do to increase sexual pleasurability, primarily glands/head?
Any creams/supplements/medicine which heal nerve endings on penis head OR make penis more sensitive?

I am seeing a girl on Thursday so any help ASAP would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Have you seen a doctor about this?

No but I will now

I think this is a good next step.

God speed, I hope you find the answers you’re looking for!

On average how long does it take you to reach climax when masturbating?

I think you’re on the right track, especially limiting your JO. The pressure we apply when we masturbate is rarely the same as through vaginal intercourse, so you get used to the pressure, rhythm, intensity of masturbation and then when those are different with sex our body doesn’t respond quite as well. So by limiting your fap you can help reset your penis and body to responding better to actual penetrative sex.

Good luck!

Thank you bro!

Depends but usually around 10 mins or more. Tbh not too sure if meant to masturbate using the foreskin because that’s not how it is during intercourse.

Yeah true that makes sense. It would probably take a while to rewire your brain surely. I’ve probably masturbated to porn at least once a day on average for the last 10 years lol. I’m need something more short term tbh

I have had similar problems as the ones you’ve described, I used fucibet and skin stretching to make mine retractable, even now years later I still prefer sexual intercourse and other activities with my foreskin up. Without being too crass, how is the sensitivity on your frenulum?

Omg I’ve had this same exact problem up until I was 19. I’m 22 now. I am also uncircumcised and I still feel no pleasure at the head, still don’t enjoy blowjobs either. But my current girlfriend was a virgin and after sex with her a couple times, I finally ejaculated through intercourse.. We were on and off so I had opportunities to have sex with other girls and it took hours but I would ejaculate now. Before I never did. Even now it’s impossible to cum with condoms with someone I’m not extremely into.. I never visited a doctor. But now I’m engaged to said girlfriend.

Have you ever had sex with a virgin?

You don’t mention PE. If do some PE things wrong, you may damage nerve endings in the glans. What do you do PE-wise?

Porn definitely will decrease sensitivity on a physiological level, the daily masturbation to the porn can effect it on a physical level. So that’s a lose/lose situation. Also, look into your pelvic floor. That can greatly reduce EQ and sensitivity.

But first off I’d say ditch the porn and learn some masturbation techniques to regain sensitivity.

Your low-T may also be a significant contributor here. Not a quick solution, but I would highly recommend you see your doctor about getting some hormone treatment. As far as difficulty reaching orgasm, that can be such a complex set of issues that there may not be a simple solution. It seems to me that step one is to figure out what’s preventing you from getting or maintaining good erections throughout intercourse. Do you have any difficulty maintaining your erections while you masturbate?