Wives over 50

HI GUYS: Maybe you can shed some light on this subject ? How do any of you fellas handle no sex from wife when they hit menopause stag of life , Mine is not into sex anymore, and I have to take things into my own hands ,if you know what I mean, Thank for PEING and porn movies . Give me your thoughts on this THANKS STEELBENDER

Is it a physical problem for her? Had the ovaries removed? Is she on HRT?

What was the level of her interest in sex prior to menopause? By that I mean, did she often initiate it

Guys , things were super up until around 49, things started to change, We had sex 3-4 times a week, every place you can imagine and every way to keep things interesting ,even after 37 yrs it was good .From that point on it s been down hill shes 53 now and no intersest in sex, The advice to see doc. for hormones been there, doesn t seem to help, I started PEing to see if a bigger dick would rekindle the fire, still working at that and made gains, at least to make me happier, plus give myself some relief Am I the only one, if not how do you guys get relief or fix the problem, and buy the way ,she knows about PEing and gives me my 1 hr space as needed . FYI Shes blonde ,5-6, 105# and good looking for 53, Get back THANKS

There are several new drugs on the way, either in field trials or waiting for approval that may make a difference for her. And it seems that Viagra can work for women, too. Here’s a link to just one newspiece.

http://www.cnn. com/HEALTH/9811 … 4/viagra.women/

Hormonal therapies are highly complex and individualistic. What works for one menopausal woman may not work for others. Even though she has tried the hormonal route with one doctor, he may not have tailored the HRT program he chose to her particular needs and chemisty. Let’s keep in mind, too, that all the negative publicity recently about HRT has a lot of women and their husbands very edgy.

It’s possible, too, that her own hormonal shifts have changed her attitudes about sex. The more you two can talk about this (without you pressuring her), the better the chances of bringing to light some aspect of intercourse that she may find unpleasant now and which used to be fun for you both. The simplest example I can think of is: after a certain age, women do not self lubricate naturally as they once did. She may now find intercourse painful. I am not suggesting that that is the problem in your case, only that communication can reveal a whole bunch of things that neither of you was aware of.

First and foremost I think, is an honest discussion with her about your needs….Her mood swings may be mild or severe due to the hormone problem……she/you may not be aware of what she is going through

She may have to try several different types of hormone replacement therapies to find one that works for her. (My wife tried 12 different ones before settling on one that helped.)

Transdermal patches, pills, estrogen creams, implants etc., should be looked at if, in fact, it is a hormone balance problem.

Sometimes it is purely a psychological thing-the realization that her “fruitful” years are past effects some women.

Sometimes all it takes is reassurance from you that she is still loved and desired by you.

This is a pretty complex issue and I’d look for a ob/gyn doc that specializes in this.

I went through a similar experience with my wife a few years ago-great sex…..hysterectomy……poor sex…..solutions search…..great sex again.

Let me know if that helps, I’ve been there….

The vaginal cream she had some pretty good success with contained both estrogen and testosterone…made by a compounding pharmacist as per an ob/gyn’s r/x

The male hormone helped her libido pretty good.

Look for a doctor that specializes in Climateric Medicine

(luvdadus- is that the right field?)

If there is a specialty in that I just learned something.

The climacteric refers to “the change” ususally refering to female menopause but I can relate to the much more gradual male gonadal failure with aging.

Besides hormones there can be other things:

unresolved issues in the relationship.

interest in another (usually you’d have a suspicion by now)

depression

uncomfortable intercourse

There’s an ob/gyn guy here in that specailzes in that sort of thing-has patients from as far away as Lake Charles, New Orleans

Also works on male problems-low testerone levels etc.

My wife had some pretty good success with him.

Since I have first hand knowledge of this subject, I would like to share my findings.

I hit menopause very early in life, and no I’m not telling my age, but it is younger than your wife.
And I have been post menopausal now for 10 years. I had a hysterecotmy in 1983 and hit menopause six years later, they had left the ovaries.

Once I entered menopause, sex was the last thing on my mind, I was trying to deal with an emotional rollercoaster, hot flashes, chills and a really bitchy attitude. HRT made all the difference for me at first, and I know that some women can not go that route, allergies, or risk of breast cancer. Now I said at first for a reason, it is this. I lost all desire for my spouse or any other man walking the face of the earth. I was dealing with my own loss, loss of ‘womanhood’ if you will. It had NOTHING to do with my spouse, and EVERYTHING to do with my mental status. I felt unworthy of love and of attention, I felt that I was no longer desirable. I felt like shit. It took me years to overcome that, and I have.

My advice to you is this, talk to her, have long intimate conversations where you let her know that she is still desirable to you. Let her know that you still love her and want her. And keep in mind that it isn’t you, it is her.

Luvaduds brought out a good point with the unresolved issues in your marriage, and that is where the communication is so vital now. Trust me when I say that if there are issues, it WILL effect the bedroom, and other rooms as well.

Good luck and think on what I have said.

I would like to thank all you folks on the imput on this menopause subject, the wife and I have sat down and read the replys , we are taking one by one and doing are research, WE will get back with our finding in about 2-3 weeks, Again Thanks.

Send all menopausal wives over 50 to me.

I’ll fix it.

HI GUY: If I send the wife to you how you going to fix it?

That was a joke. You are making me feel bad.

I’m not too serious these days.

If you read my posts you will see that I understand that no “man” can just fix such
problems without the woman getting her attitude in line with her body, her relationship
with her partner, and with herself. HRT is not the only answer for some as sunshinekid403
pointed out. The man has to be loving, patient, and able to communicate with her in a
loving environment. The woman has to WANT to feel sexual again I think, and that is
often not discussed. There is some chicken and egg here since menopause can cause
lack of desire, but one has to “want to want.”

My ex number two became asexual before menopause, after our first and only child. I
am convinced that hormone imbalances combined with unresolved marital issues was
responsible. But she had personal issues too which came out in therapy that added to
the problem.