Hero to Zero

When my girlfriend and I started having sex 6 months ago, I could go for hours. My longest session was 4 hours before I got tired and frustrated and had to stop( I couldn’t get off and I couldn’t get her off, but it was alot of fun still). I got past the non-ejaculation thing and could go for hours then cum when I wanted to(simply a matter of conditioning myself).

My problem is, lately I’ve been noticing my erections are no where near what they should be. In those long sessions, I would be 80-90% erect for the majority of the time, then need a minor break, then be back up there hittin’ hard. Now I’m lucky to hold a 70% for more than 10-20 minutes before I get limp.

And on top of this, my time has gone WAY down(I think I read somewhere that premature is related to a weak erection, not sure). Sometimes I can go for 30 minutes, but sometimes(like today)…I was fingering my girlfriend and when we went for it, not even 5 mintues in and I was done. Granted, I wasn’t using a condom, but if I were my dick would have gone limp in less time than that anyways, so what’s the point.

Any suggestions?

Try P.E.

failed_ethics,

Maybe the excitement and newness of your relationship has worn off a bit. Are you PE’ing actively now and perhaps wearing out your dick prior to having sex with your GF? Just some thoughts. Look at changes in your life patterns to see what else might be affecting you.

Peforeal

I haven’t been PE’ing actively, no. As far as life changes, I quit drinking, I smoke occasionally(but never more than a cigarette a day). My schedule is crazy…typical day for me used to be wake up at 10-12 and hang out. Now it’s wake up at 5, work 6-12, come home and change, drive 40 miles to physical therapy then drive back. Eat. Then class 6:30 to 9:30 at night.

Maybe I’m tired? Maybe I need to start PE’ing actively?

I think you got it in one. You’re tired. With that schedule you must be exhausted.

I agree with the tired vote.

Could you possibly go into a little detail regarding “(simply a matter of conditioning myself)”. How did you do this?

I also agree, and with a too heavy schedule there is not much time for full-blown PE activities either. Except for kegels, which I found to be very effective for erection quality and I’m not alone finding that. I don’t know what you mean by doing PE passively but kegels is as close as it gets, invisible, possible to do anywhere when stationary.

I think my deal was, I wasn’t used to the feeling you have from a pussy, especially with a condom on.

Years of masturbating and I was used to what I did and the way that contact felt. I’m not saying pussy doesn’t feel good, it feels great, but with a condom on I 1) couldn’t feel much and 2) wasn’t used to what I was feeling.

Now instead of just a physical thing it’s physological too…I can get off feeling pussy, but now as soon as I hear her saying “FUCK ME! FUCK ME!” etc. that could push me over the edge way sooner than it would have been if she were quiet.

Maybe I need to take a nap and start a regimen of kegels. And I “not actively” I mean, I started, then stopped because I didn’t have the time. And would occasionally do kegels(not nearly as much as I should), and I wouldn’t isolate the muscle. Last night I did some kegels and worked hard to do it correctly to get the most out of it.

Kegels works wonders. It takes a lot of them, though. If you are reasonably determined, you will see results within a month. Good thing is they become easier to do the more you get used to it. BTW, masturbate as little as possible, also helps a lot. And no porn, absolutely worthless IMHO. I wish you the best of luck! You are obviously a strong man, quitting alcohol is something I always admired immensely.

It’s not that I quit, I have the occasional drink, but I don’t go crazy like I use to. I’ll have a drink every couple of weeks, I’m just not around it and don’t actively seek it anymore.

As far porn, I don’t use it. And masturbation maybe once a week, not often.

On a more positive note, I took a nap today then went to my girlfriends place. Went for MUCH longer, but still not like it use to be. I think a big problem is I love going deep, and she likes it too, so I’ll lift her legs up onto my shoulder and go to town. The problem being when my balls have contact(in this case with her ass), I come very quickly. Gotta take the good with the bad I guess, maybe I’ll get use to it.