Hey guys I need a pep talk

I know this may not be PE related, but I’m really worried about something. See, I’ve been talking to this girl for a month now and she seems to be really interested in me, she bought christmas gifts and last night she surprised me by bringing me lunch to work. I’ve never had a woman to be this nice to me before and I really like it, and I really like her too. Now here’s the problem, I’m afraid that when it comes down to it she may not dig my unit. I have a 4.5x.4.5 and I’m afraid that it may not be compatible with her, she’s been with a black guy before so I know for a fact that she will not find my unit impressive.

What’s your guys input on this? Any advice will help, and don’t be afraid to speak the truth to me either as I will need your honest opinion.

Thanks.

You have a simple choice between (1) your feelings for this girl and her’s for you or (2) your insecurities over “a black guy” and her not finding your unit “impressive.” Boy that sounds like a tough choice….

Since you’re on a PE board, you know there is something you can do about the 4.5x4.5 if that’s important to you. Date her, make sweet love to her, etc. as best you can and see where it goes… if that’s what you want to do. You may ultimately not be compatible for infinite reasons but there’s no reason for you to seize defeat from the jaws of victory today.

She is bringing you lunch to work already, she seems into you as it is. If she doesnt like your unit, stuff her. A man is more than a dick.

Not all black guys have big dicks, look at me for example. I’m black and I have a very averaged size wiener, although my motivation isn’t from me trying to match another mans junk, I do see where you are coming from. My girls ex was a Latin dude that was packing 8 inches almost, now I’m like a 5.5 so you can see where the insecurity fell into place. I didn’t have faith I would get her off b/c I was lacking what he had, until one of the first times we had sex(without interruption) i made her squirt all over my bed. She had never even done it before and he freaked her out a little bit. She(just speaking for some women not all) don’t like have deep penetration, most of their sensitive arousal nerves are clit and g spot, which i usually 2-4 inchs inside the vagina. I can make her cum just by using half my cock truthfully, its all about position, the connection between the two, and like the old saying goes “motion in the ocean.”

In the beginning I was very insecure about any girl I was with b/c I felt I had to live up to the whole big black cock thing, it almost tormented me and I actually avoided sex in hopes i wouldn’t be wasting her time. After feeling sorry for myself for too long I just flipped my mode of thinking and turned into a 5.5 inch dick monster. Now mind I haven’t been with a lot of women(only three to be exact), but I have made every singe one of them wet the bed, curl their toes, and beg for more. Imagine what I would be able to do with a 7x6?

Keep your head up bro, learn how to work the pussy.

5.5? Well What does your girth look like? See my girth is what worries me the most over my length.

99% of your time in a relationship is spent doing other things than having sex. For guys who are married and have kids sex may not be all that frequent, and once a couple are old and have been married for years…

Guys often think the words relationship and sex are interchangeable. Girls are far more realistic. They are more interested in a companion and provider who can make them feel happy and secure and loved. It’s a cliche to say ‘lesbians don’t have a penis but keep each other satisfied sexually’. But it’s also true.

If you tick the boxes that are important to a girl, your penis size is not going to be very important to her. Although penis size is often a consideration in ‘casual’ sex, it should never be a factor in persuing a genuine relationship.

I am 5.5 x 5

I agree with firegoat. relationships don’t revolve around
one’s cock. The world does not revolve around your cock
and you shouldn’t either.

For gosh sakes, she brought you lunch. Forget about your
cock and start focusing on her. Sounds to me like she can
be a keeper.

Seriously, for everyone on this board. You should never let
the size of your unit hinder anything that could potentially
be fun or even change your life for the best. You are a
member here and Thunder’s offers exercises so you can
change the size of your cock and you can do that if you truly
want to, but in the meantime I would not let a good girl get away.

Go for it dude,

This thread is very relevant to me at this point in my life. I have a girl who I’ve been flirting with for about three months who also brought sandwiches for me to work. I’m not much different in size 5.4 x 4.5 and have been very paranoid about sex with her. Then the other day I just told her that I had a “disadvantage” to most men and that I really liked her but probably couldn’t keep her happy in a relationship.

After a few conversations she admitted to me that she’d guessed what my insecurity was, didn’t say it outloud but said to me:

“The connection we have isn’t based on compatability to reality. Its based on the craziness of how we feel. Don’t give me up unless you don’t feel the same.”

I was so touched. I fell in love. I could have cried honestly. I’m still petrified of being unable to make her feel as good as she deserves to. But you have to risk it. This is life.

Don’t be scared of rejection. If you don’t try. You will never succeed.

I know exactly how you feel bro. Just do it.

I used to be in the exact same situation! My girl when we were in our first few months of dating, she compared my penis size to those of her ex’s and did she make me feel low! She said that atleast 4 of the guys she has had sex with has been over 10” and she wasn’t over lieing.. I’m only 7” erect and just over 5” girth and I’m so insecure about my dowstairs its not funny!! But in the end its all about the love you have for each other an thats what counts! But definitely start PE exercises just for your own confidence boost! That’s what I’m doing and am praying it helps! Cheers

Get studying oral skills. Get her excited enough and the sensitivity will do most of the work for you. When I started seeing my girlfriend, I was about the same and I had problems even staying hard sometimes; I’m still with her over a year later and her eyes do boggle a bit these days, even though all I’ve really done is improve my EQ.

Yeah I love to get I to oral before ramming her anyway. She loves our sex. I’m the only guy that has ever made her cum, let alone cum 3 times sometimes.. Thanks heaps dude

This man speaks truth. I’m in the same boat.

Let love win.

Go for it man the above posters are right.

And for some possibly new info on pleasing a woman without the use of a cock I suggest reading these treads:

The Read Deal on How to please a woman Sexually

Before you "Make her Squirt"…
Make her squirt, in response to the "freak" thread

Be brave.

Statistically if at least 4 of the guys were over 10”, she must have slept with hundreds of thousands of guys, possibly millions! I wish I could be bothered to go and find the threads with the stats in, but the numbers she has given are so ridiculous there’s barely any point. Ask any of the gay guys here, even the ones who have been around a lot, how many 10” cocks they have seen…. :)

At your current size you have absolutely nothing to be insecure about. You are well above average.