I have some questions before I start anything related to PE, if you could be so kind.

Thank you for taking the time to check on this thread. I am new to this forum, and I had some questions before I start any type of routine. To start, I am not quite sure if I need PE, but the amount I have obsessed over penis size in my 33 years of life would probably indicate that I will do it regardless if I “need” it, which is rather subjective in itself. The first thing I did was read the warning to newbies, and since I am a very neurotic person, I do have some slight trepidation in regards to PE. But before anything else, I need to explain my situation and what exactly I am trying to achieve; I will make it short.

For most of my life I have had clinical depression and an anxiety disorder. I am dealing with it, but it is still very difficult to get through. Anxiety made it so that my failures had a great effect on me, and I have never gotten past asking two girls out and being rejected. My depression also tied into that, leaving me with no motivation and not caring for myself, as well as being very overweight. The one “relationship” I had was with a Norwegian woman who I met in a game. Emotional relationship formed, talked about many things, but could never work out due to money, distance, and the one time she was actually vacationing where I was living I was without internet. I still talk to her today, but I obsessed over her and worried about a lot of things pertaining her life (Which should have been none of my business, but I was young, insecure, and inexperienced as opposed to older, insecure, and inexperienced with a bit more knowledge and restraint).

I am dealing with those and getting better at it, but maybe I should have not inquired when she was supposed to be online for an event on a game (Told me she was sleeping with a guy, very honest person apparently), or about what she thinks about large penis sizes, (In her words “It’s not a bad thing”, followed by me asking the smallest she’s been with (6 inches) and what is too much (9 inches). I think the reason it bothers me so much is because I never had any relationships besides that if you can call it that, and it feels like I lost my chance, even though logically this may not be the case. Just to say this before the questions, yes, I want to increase my size and girth mainly due to insecurities (But most importantly function), I can admit that. But I also want to do it for myself, as I am 6’3, large structured, and have a lot of muscle even before I worked out, I fear that even if I become slim (Which would be 250-280lbs for my build/height) that looking in the mirror would haunt me every time, regardless of what a woman would think.

So, on to the questions since the back-story is taken care of:
1) Part of my confidence issues is my erection quality. Before even starting PE, I want to look into exercises to help with that. This is probably due to me being considerably overweight, but working on it while I am determined to lose the weight as I am cannot hurt I presume. I literally cannot get a full erection, and it is lost very quickly. Would that be a bad idea? Would doing a beginner PE routine also be a bad idea? Or would it be best to do nothing and wait till I get the weight off?

2) .I have a large fat pad, a little over two inches. Once I lose all my weight (Which I am down 30lbs or so), does it usually go down from anyone’s experience that was overweight then lost a lot of it? I read a lot of people saying it was an issue during sex, but I am more inclined to believe the suggestion that most of the BPEL would be used in certain positions. But with my fat pad, it would be an issue, aside from the EQ.

3) Synonymous with the erection quality issues, I do not know what my true size is and it scares the hell out of me, even though I know it should not. Referencing the conversation I had with aforementioned woman, she personally has never been with anyone smaller than 6 inches (which is within average range) and said 9 inches was too much. This means of course she has had larger, but it also means that anywhere from 6-9 inches she considers large. But considering she said 9 is too large, it may not be her preferred size as most people have a range, so I am going to assume 7-8.5 is her preferred (Not going to ask her again, she made it very clear not to ask personal questions unless we actually meet and things work). That being said, I would like to be at least 7.5 x 5 .5, but the best I can do when measuring is a expedited attempt to get erect and then trying to measure. My flaccid bone pressed length is 5.4 inches, while the girth is around 5.12 inches besides the head, which is slightly smaller. Erect the best I could manage was 6.2 EBPL and 5.2 EG with no assistance.

I used a cock ring to measure my girth recently out of curiosity (Was still not fully erect, rock solid) and my girth was 5.62, which is not bad if that measurement means potential when EG is ever good (Please let me know). The other odd thing is that while I can theoretically cover my EBPL I listed with my hands, when I get as erect as I can and attempt to grab my penis to see if I can “Two-hand” it, time and time again I can fit it in two hands with about and inch left out. Why this is odd? Because even when I am not fully erect, that comes out to about me “grabbing” 6.9 inches with an inch left over pushing me to 7.9 and I cannot figure out why exactly this happens other than me squeezing it and it extending.

So the questions for this one is, should I bother measuring with my EQ all messed up? Do the two instances I mentioned have any value to them (Cock ring “EG” and Two-hand length)?

I cannot think of anything else at the moment. I am working very hard to get my weight off, get in shape again, actually work on approaching women and not dying a virgin. The issues involving my penis will have to come down to advice that is given, research, dedication and time. But I am at the point in my life where I need to get a move on before my life ends, be it by health, addiction, or voluntarily (don’t worry too much, perks of having depression: therapists. I appreciate any help that is given and the time taken to answer said questions. Thank you.

You seem to have much on your plate; diet, exercising and getting yourself back into shape as well as a good frame of mind.Why not forget PE for a while until you have done better with those other issues? Why put more stress on you? It wouldn’t be healthy.

Possibly, but if the questions can be answered it would be appreciated. More concerned with anything I can do to improve EQ.

Getting yourself healthy, both physically and mentally, does more for EQ than any exercise you’ll find here. Healthy 33 year olds rarely have issues with EQ.

Welcome to the forum, Spectrebane. We’re all here to help each other.

First of all,your penis size is definitely nothing to worry about. 6.9 X 5.62 is a BIG penis.

I also agree that working out the anxiety and weight issues ought to take precedence, (especially since you’re already really well-endowed)

Personally, I’d recommend looking for a qualified therapist who can help you, and maybe spend less time online and more time interacting with real people. Also consider the other health benefits of getting off the weight..like improved EQ.

Good luck and stay in touch.

Thank you. That answers question one, as well as Jimmybob55’s response. General consensus appears to be “wait”.

Thank you for the welcome. Even with the suggestions, there are questions that can be answered if people can help. You stating that “6.9 X 5.62” is big. Logically, I know that. But as I have seen from many posts on this forum, the reality is that even people who are huge can sometimes feel inadequate, even though they have nothing to worry about per say. But, if you wish to further respond, I did state that the “6.9” length was only a measurement from me grabbing my penis not fully erect with about a inch sticking out, and the girth from using a cock ring to “cheat” the measurement, or my attempt to see what I can get to (Thinking it may be inaccurate somehow.), but considering your response, (addressing question #3) it would seem logical to deduce that both means used is at least somewhat indicative of an actual size, which in all honesty good to hear. Thank you for taking the time to respond.

We are trying to help you but you’re not listening. There is no magic exercise that will do anything for your EQ that will work as well as good mind and body health. Do you want me to recommend some and then when you do them and you don’t get the result you were expecting then that gives you something to get even further depressed about? Hell you don’t need me. Just search for EQ exercise with the search function and do what you want. Hey I tried.

EQ improvement? Kegels and reverse kegels, without overdoing either. Exercising will help with bloodflow (cardio, gotta get that heart pumping), and eating less red meat will reduce cholesterol and improve bloodflow (and consequently, EQ as well). Lastly, reduce porn as much as possible.

After you get your rock hard boners, then the next thing to work on is your mindset. I am skeptical of therapists since I see them only doing their job for the money, but I am a skeptical person so it might be fine. I’d try meditation as well.

After you become comfortable with yourself, then PE will help. Becoming comfortable with yourself is the first step.

Don’t exercise for anyone, exercise for yourself. Don’t PE for anyone, PE for yourself (if you want a frankencock, go for it, just keep in mind that if you get too big, you will limit your dating options to pythons). Don’t eat healthy because someone told you to, do it because you want to. You’ll get there.

If I refuted the point mentioning I should wait, then I am sorry. Not all the questions were in regards to EQ specifically, especially the fat pad question and the inconsistency with measurements compared to assisted help, or what I can psychically hold. I don’t want you to recommend anything because as previously stated it would be best to wait, and I did not pursue that point after hearing it from two members. Again, I appreciate the advice, and I will proceed getting healthier and seeing what happens.

My bet is that if you get healthy, I mean work at it, you won’t need anything. It will take much hard work but if you want to turn your life around it is all in your power.

I will do more research to determine if that is worth doing in my current state, or if it is best just to abstain from everything until I get to my target weight as suggested. Thank you.

I slept a night before thinking of what I wanted to say. Because I identified with a lot of your post but didn’t know how to respond at first. Here goes.

The honest truth is.. Size does not make the man. I’m not being cliche here. I started smaller than you and even the size I am now.doesn’t make me any more suave.

I’m smooth as sandpaper. So.. I have trouble picking up women. Working on confidence, accepting rejection and understanding my value regardless of my size has helped more than my long journey to a huge penis.

Plus every woman I’ve been with long term loves the tongue most. Serious. It’s pleasure with no stretching, painful or long preparation downsides. Being super big gets technical, to say the least. We have threads here about how technical. You can read up, sometimes being super big is a King Midas touch. Better in theory than practice.

You’re big, even if that’s an approximation, you are big. Believe me. But there are also threads of guys looking for reassurance and here, we give it. Psychologically it’s hard to just change your view and realize starting size was big but.. There are men who would love to be even close to where you think you are.

Lastly, if you are a virgin, PE won’t solve your issues. Sexual confidence will come but being hung with no experience would set you up to be confident then get hurt because awkward virginity is a universal thing.

I’ll echo the sentiment that mindset and body health will get you in a better place with your penis and sexuality than PE. PE supplements a healthy sexuality. It can’t fix you. It only aids you.

My .02 and I hope for the best for you. I really do.