Involuntary PC contractions and Premature Ejaculation

I could do with some help!
I have premature ejaculation and I believe it is due to my PC muscle. Every time I masterbate my PC muscle contracts really tight and once this happens it is impossible for me to delay ejaculation.
I have previously done kegels and believe that I may have been doing these kegels wrong by contracting the PC muscle and not the BC muscle. When masterbating I can last up to 30 minutes if I want by completely relaxing my PC muscle but as soon as my PC muscle contracts it’s game over. When I get really turned on, or even if I begin thrusting, my PC muscle contracts really quickly like after 20 seconds causing me to ejaculate really quick. Thus making sex not last long.

Is there any way I can stop these involuntary PC contractions as I believe if I can stop these I could greatly improve my lasting time??

I was thinking either keep kegeling ( which I have been doing for 1 month now) or completely stop any muscle contractions in my penis and see if I can stop the PC contractions.

I hope you can help me with this!

I got this too. It’s so bad I hardly even try to get laid, cause what’s the point?

It’s more due to anxiety then the PC muscle itself. Been there, done that, got rid of it. You have to learn to relax during sex. If you always think “oh no I am going to cum fast”, which I did, you are going to cum fast.

Try working on a positive mental attitude, and I am sure it will help.

I usually don’t have a lot of anxiety while masturbating, so for me personally I doubt that’s the whole problem.

Anxiety may be the problem but I don’t think it is. When I masturbate I can last for a good 20/30 minutes if I’m not watching porn , then my PC muscle contracts and from then on it’s impossible to go any further. When, I am turned on ( I.e watching porn or sex) my PC muscle contracts straight away causing me to ejaculate in a minute or less.
I think I need to somehow stop my PC muscle from contracting and then I think I would be able to last a long time but I just don’t know how to do this. It must be a mental thing since as soon as I am turned on my muscle contracts so somehow I need to stop the link between mind and PC muscle.

I think I am going to try and not contract any muscle in my penis for a month, no kegels, and see what happens.

I have the same problem. Reverse kegels are working for me. Clamp that muscle the other way and get used to holding it. I have always battled premature ejaculation and now, thanks to this place, I am winning! Practice while edging to get used to it. Get yourself near the PONR, clench the reverse kegel, and stop stimulating for 15 seconds or so. My wife has noticed, and she is pleased. Good luck!

Quick question joystick. Do you practice reverse kegels everyday like normal kegels or only during masturbation,sex?

Being as you are a male, you do not have a PC muscle, you do have a BC muscle though. I have this happen occasionally as well. It totally goes away when I do NOT do kegels. Those fuck me up, and I am not the only one.

Thanks. I am going to do no kegels from now on and also I think I will implement some reverse kegels since reverse kegels are really just relaxing the muscle.

I hope this works!

I do my Kegels while edging. Both regular and reverse. I edge with a cock ring usually and lately I have been clamping very lightly. I get myself aroused, apply the ring or clamp, and edge. When I am not close to cumming I do the regular Kegel for expansion, and as I get close to blowing I stop wanking and reverse Kegel for as hard and as long as I can until the danger passes. Once I am back in control I regular Kegel as hard as I can before resuming stimulation. I can feel my unit expanding in every direction when I apply the regular Kegel, and the reverse Kegel allows me to control myself so I can edge longer. I have been doing this 3-5 times almost every day for about a month now, and I am getting much more control both during the edging sessions and sex. I do my best to not ejaculate during these sessions so I can do more sessions per day.

Those involuntary contractions must be dealt with if any control is to be had. To control the muscle, you must strengthen it and get used to flexing it when you want to, not when it wants to. I have had a few dry orgasms during these sessions and let me tell you, they are intense. I can feel the contractions fighting against the reverse Kegel, but I am clenched so hard that I will not ejaculate. After the orgasm subsides, apply the regular Kegel and pray your dick doesn’t explode!

Males have no PC muscles, eh?

That would be news to medical science - and to westla, who has an article about that here:

Locating the bc muscle

He notes that “men contract a different muscle than women when doing Kegels and it isn’t the PC (pubococcygeus). It’s actually the BC (bulbocavernosus).”

But men do have PC muscles.

I know that females strengthen their PC muscle so that they can orgasm easier(become tighter) and therefore if a male were to strengthen this muscle this would lead to easier or faster ejaculation which I believe to be the case for me.

I think that the muscle on the upper side of the penis is the PC muscle and the muscle underneath is the BC muscle . It is the muscle on the upper side of my penis that keeps contracting and causing me to cum fast. Recently, I have changed my kegels to focus mainly on contracting my BC muscle but I am still not sure whether or not this is the best thing to do as it may still cause my PC muscle to contract easier.

I will practice the reverse kegels and maybe continue with my regular kegels at a later date if this sees no success.

I’ve been through this a few times as well. Ruined my first sexual relationship! Reverse kegels, cutting out regular kegels, and relaxing have helped me. I try not to hold my reverse kegels too long though because sometimes that can push me over the edge (during stimulation) somehow. I’ll do them quick and strong whenever I get an involuntary contraction, lasting about a second. It’s all about training yourself not to kegel when you touch yourself/think of something erotic. I’ve been back to normal for awhile now.

I cannot do a reverse so I just leave them alone altogether. It only takes about a week for the contractions to go away.

This kegel thing is confusing. Seems like half of people say they help control premature ejaculation, and the other half say they make it worse. I guess I can see how a stronger muscle would make it worse if you’re not in control of it.