My first post.

Hopefully this works ok my phone seems to be capitalizing letters at random. I am trying to understand the rules and guidelines of the forums, hope I am not posting in the wrong place. I’ve been reading these forums here and there for a few years now and doing some light exercises. I am 40 years old, lift weights 3-4 times a week and try to walk a mile on the treadmill as part of my warm up. I do smoke about a pack of cigarettes a day and occasionally smoke marijuana, drinking is usually only done on holidays like the 4th and New Years and in pretty small amounts.

I have not followed a very strict routine, just jelqing a couple of times a week and occasionally use a penis ring when getting intimate. I have never been that unhappy with my size around 6.75”L x 5.5-5.75”G erect. I’ve been both too big and too small. I recently decided to give pumping a try so I picked up just a basic pump with a seal for the base seems to be the most common style in many different brands. Only used it a few times very lightly to get used to the feel of it so no results from that yet.

Now though I’m a bit worried. After the last time using it everything was fine. Strong erections everyday without any trouble. Then in comes a new woman I’ve been interested in for 2 years who is well out of my league but some how I got lucky. Well almost. For the first time in my life I could not obtain an erection, waited a week and no change. Whether it’s masturbation or with her there is no response when it comes time to get down to business. I am still getting morning wood so I keep trying to convince myself it’s just anxiety but I am still quite worried. When hanging out, relaxing, and being close to her I get to about 70% but then when we try to be intimate it is gone.

Should I just wait this out and continue getting comfortable with her and hope that’s the problem or am I foolish for not jumping on the phone to my physician right away? In the mean time all jelqing, pumping, and ring use is on hold. Feeling pretty scared about this. I know I haven’t done a lot of exercises but sometimes it doesn’t take much.

It sounds like performance anxiety. If you can’t find a way to get around it, you may want try Viagra (or something like it), temporarily.

You don’t want to wait around and she loses interest or sexual chemistry. You can come back and evaluate the root cause, continue to do PE, etc. But if you’ve just started dating, you don’t want her to doubt the sex between you.

That is my fear exactly. She is always satisfied but still wants her prize at the bottom of the Cracker Jack box. Her handling of the situation has been incredible. It could have been completely awkward and and hurtful but hasn’t even come close. With the Viagra, what is the dependency like? Will it make it even harder to get back to normal once I stop taking it?

I don’t know. I didn’t know that there was a risk of dependency.