Partner Involvement Survey

I am wondering how many of you guys do PE with your partners’ support, involvement or disapproval?

If your partner is involved, what is their degree of participation? That is, what help does she offer?

What is your partner’s first reactions and subsequent responses, after finding out that you are doing PE?

Does anyone keep this a secret from his partner?

LH I think I’m like a number of members here in that I have to PE in stealth. If I told my wife I’m sure she’d have me committed or something. I probably will let her know one day as my time in the shower is getting progressively longer as I up my number of jelqs. That day will be when she notices a difference and tells me “something’s bigger down there!”

I have heard of some wives here who help there husbands with their PE routine. I’m trying to conjure up an image in my mind of exactly what they do - jelqing, hanging from their husband’s dick or something. Interesting thought.

My partner is aware, I told her pretty much a few days after lurking and deciding in myself to really go for it.

I told her I would be careful about it but it’s something for me.
Of course (like most of us?) she says how she’s happy with it now and there’s no need to, but she also doesn’t mind if I do if I want to.

She knows I’ve purchased equipment but I don’t live with her (just g/f but long term)
I’ve been kegelling, PM’ing and pumping for about 6 weeks now (lightly though - probably less than 20 hours in PM, 4 hours in pump and maybe 1500 kegels) none the less while I’ve seen no gains my erection is definately harder and that alone seems to be making it seem bigger anyhow, which she’s commented on.

Also my flaccid isn’t turtling anymore - he’s a little bigger all the time which rocks.

EDIT: one other thing, she’s never seen the equipment and she doesn’t help - I don’t think she wants to, she also hasn’t seen or been fucked with a post pumped temporary monster :( - YET :)

Well what do you know? 4 aussie posts in a row! :)

I am slightly unusual in that I had already been PEing for a while before I started going out with my girlfriend, and when we were starting to talk about things of a sexual nature, I spilled the beans straight up.

The main reason being that I already had quite noticable discolouration, and I didn’t want her to freak out thinking I was diseased or anything crazy like that the first time she saw it. That and I didn’t want her to think it was too big, because she was such a tiny gal (ah naivety)

I think she suspected as much which may have been a contributing factor to her being so interested in me hehehe ;)

Looking back, I could have told her some cool lie about the discolouration - having had it surgically reduced because it was too big or something :D

I don’t see how anyone who lives with a woman could ever get any decent PEing done if they had to keep it a secret. PE partners are the only way to go.

Maybe that’s my problem BG. I still feel like I not doing enough, but my wife and I grew up in VERY conservative homes and while it is ridiculous to me to think that doing PE exercises might somehow be “wrong”, I am pretty certain my wife would be uncomfortable with the idea.

I will keep it a secret as long as I can, just like I do with her Christmas gifts. In fact, she will have to discover it on her own, and also tell me to stop. Two or three years later, I might consider it. ;)

My wife isn’t “involved’ per se, but she’s aware of my PEing and is supportive. She’d noticed my bigger size before I told her about doing PE. She’s also very encouraging about telling me I’m getting bigger. She sure seems to be feeling it, too! So it’s a win-win. I agree with Big Girtha that it’s much easier and more productive if you don’t have to sneak around to do it.

I’m with Big on this. I think it’s important that your partner be aware so as to monitor the changes and suggest aspects to work on. The only reason I’d not want to tell her is if she has a hard time keeping a secret.

BG said it.

I’m not in a committed relationship right now, so I don’t have to deal with this issue. But I find this a very interesting question, and I admire those who have told their partners and who are receiving support from them.

But here’s my concern; I’d really like to hear what others have to say about this. Most people I know are inveterate gossips, both men and women. I suspect, or at least fear, that this is even true of the women I’ve been involved with. Accordingly, my rule of thumb has always been: If I don’t want others to know about it, don’t tell a soul. Simple information control. Honestly, I wouldn’t mind if my closest friends knew that I PEed, and I would really prefer for my partner to know (and to be into the idea). But I just don’t trust people’s loose lips.

Have any of you had this experience: You’ve told a significant other, or a close friend, only to find that, in time, the information has trickled through your community of friends and acquaintances?

Yea BG did say it. Alot of guys don’t want to tell there partners but that has to be hard to do. She might think your strange if you go off by yourself for 2 hours everyday. I’d say that a girlfriend could only help with clamping or jelqing because hanging requires no erection. I would also tell her about kegels if she doesn’t already know.

You tighten up I will enlarge. Sex will have to be better with both working on it.

There have been other threads about members telling there S/Os only to find that the wives have told their girlfriends. I personally don’t care. Once you’ve made some serious gains you really don’t care if the wife’s girlfriends know, its kind of a turn on. I’ve whipped my out on a few occasions for her girlfriends inspection. It even led to a FMF threesome once. But I guess it IS something to consider for those who don’t want anyone else to know, because the wifey will most likely tell her best friend. I mean think about it a minute. This is the kind of talk women love to do most about their men. I don’t think they mean any harm by it, It’s just more fun for them to say things like, “Well, you’re not going to believe what he’s hanging from his dick now.” :rolleyes: Boys with their toys. But my S/O brags about the results, and that is a Good Thing, or it is to me. Now if PE wasn’t working for me and they were laughing, that would be different.

I forgot to mention the important stuff - She does help me with PE, occasionally. For example; clampy fucking (fun).

She doesn’t like to help me, though. Even though I tell her it doesn’t hurt, she won’t beleive me. She thinks it looks too painful.

Great attitude BG! It’s what I aspire to. Not only does it take some results, and the right type of dick, but it also takes the right type of woman, I suppose—someone who will give your PE adventures the right kind of spin. One woman could lead her friends to think you are cool and kinky and liberated, and that you’re sporting a big dick. And another woman could lead her friends to think you’re a freak and a loser, dick size aside.

That says it all. You’re the king in my book! :)

I couldn’t care less who knows that I’m a PE practitioner. It is no doubt worth noting that this attitude is a function of the fact that 1) mrs. x subscribes to the advise of Sippy Wallace, the great Blues singer, who advised that “women be wise, don’t advertise your man” and 2) I have no interest in fucking anyone other than mrs. x.