Small size rant.

First off id like to say sorry, but I didnt want to post this in the smallP thread.I just need to vent and let my anger out.

2009 was such a good year until I started having depression in the last three months due to my small size. If anyone has a 4.5x4 then you’ve probably have endured the same insecurities as I do. Actually I recently measured my girth and the thickest part is only 3.9 (shaft closest to my glans.not even 4 inches. FUCK!) that means my base is less than that. Depression sucks shit, I wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemies. Id rather endure physical pain than go through depression (emotional pain). Despite all of this I’m able to hide my depression from my family and friends and girlfriend.

I’m a virgin and so is my gf. We love each other, but I believe that my emotions will negatively affect my relationship sooner or later. This is something I need to fix. Sadly, PE is something that takes time, dedication, and usually years. My gf has at least seen one other penis (her ex) which was probably bigger than mine. She hasn’t said anything about my size, but either she is being nice about it or she doesn’t know any better and thinks it’s average. All I know is that the first time she saw my penis she tried to give me a hand job. This was 4 months ago and she hasn’t attempted to give me one again. She continues to give me bjs though. This tells me she doesn’t enjoy giving me hand jobs and thinks I’m too small to receive one.

When we do fool around we go crazy. Honestly were like animals.without the sex though.

My gf is a strong christian and she doesn’t want to have sex bc 1) she believes it should be saved for marriage. 2) she doesn’t want to get pregnant. 3) she doesn’t want to regret it if she does it with me, but we later break up later down the road and finds someone more special that she ends up marrying. The last one she had trouble telling me bc she knew it would sound bad and hurt my feelings. At the same time she also says that she doesn’t think she will wait until she gets married bc it’s such a long time from now. Anyway we came to a conclusion. The conclusion is we will say that we will not have sex unless we marry, but every 6 months we will see if were ready to have sex.if not after 6 months than we will wait and see again after another 6 months.

I enjoy this idea bc it gives me time to grow and do PE (hopefully I stick with it and hopefully I do indeed grow). I’ve been PEing for almost a month now. No real gains except for prolonged increase in flacid size throughout the day. The last few times I’ve PEed I’ve had difficulty. The stretching is the easy part but when it comes to the jelqing I can’t jelq consistently. I tend to masterbate to get it up and then when I try to jelq I have a hard time keeping it at 50-80%.

I love my gf and I want to have sex but at the same time I’m afraid of it. I’m afraid the condom will come off. I’m afraid we’ll break up and she will find someone else and they’ll have sex. I know I need to get rid of these insecurities, but it’s difficult.

I could use any advice and help out there. Thanks guys.

She is a virgin. Don’t worry!

The depth of a girls vagina is about as long as your index finger, it just stretches. The most sensetive part is the first inch. When she is still a virgin it hasn’t stretched much and your penis is probbaby big enough tu hurt her the first time. And it shurely is big enough to give her he sensation she needs.

I remember my first time. She was so tight it took me several minutes to get in.

And don’t get your hopes up. The first time means struggeling with the condom. A lot of panthing, anxiethy maybe some pain for her. And if you’re really lucky you might enjoy yourself after that. The second time is a lot better and it only gets easier after that. It sounds like she is a pure and honest girl who loves you. She is probbably as nervous and insecured as you about this. If you love eachother you’ll manage.

Don’t worry about that she is virgin. She can not take easily but she is strong Cristian as you say she have to think that God gave you this dick You wasn’t have any choose but believe you are enough for her even with that size because she is feeling much things from first 2 inches. Any case you have a time for to grow up just believe and read some success stories in TP that get some confidence.

have a good gains.

Does she know about this site, or that you do PE? Has she ever mentioned anything about her EX’s size. All dicks look big to a virgin. Sounds like your dick works well, and you are having fun together with the petting and all. Have fun with what you have while worning on making it bigger. Pumping, (Low to moderate pressure) might be right for you. I would definitely work girth.

No she doesnt know about this site or that I PE. Thats why I came up with the idea about waiting every 6 months not just bc it will suit her views on sex but because it will also give me time to grow larger. I’m sure all dicks look big to a virgin, espcially since were only 19 years old and she hasnt been around the block. However I’m sure she at least knows my dick is much smaller than her ex’s one. And no she hasnt said anything about her exs size. My gf is someone I really find special. I’m sure she won’t purposely say or do something to hurt me. I just want to be larger so I am positive I can please her under the sheets when the time comes. I know technique is where it’s at, but larger size would help.

I know I’m small in length, but even smaller in girth. How or why this happened, I do not know. I just pray thunders will help me become larger. I’m sure it will make my self esteem go up to.

What are some girth exercises that I can do in the meantime big girtha? With a name like big girtha I’m sure you have a few you could share with me haha.

I just began fowfers (sitting). My balls get in the way when I sit though. Idk if this is a major prob bc I still feel the stretch.

Whats the difference between stretching and hanging? It seems to me like I’m working out the same thing except I’m doing it manually rather than using weights. I enjory stretching than jelqing.

If anyone has any more advice towards my current depressed state I would greatly appreciate it. Each peice of advice gives me hope and faith. Thanks, iwish6.

The 6 in iwish6 is the inches I wish to someday have :)

Dude. You’ve got mail.

Big G, you got mail.

Oh yeah, still looking for more confidence boosters on my current situation. Just give me some honest reassurance. Thanks everyone! Help get me out of this emotional hole.

Prolonged increase in flaccid size is a promising sign. In one month hardly you can have a real increase in size. So, stick with the newbie routine. Your problems with jelqs are also pretty common and they will disappear spontaneously after a while.

Before considering hanging or clamping, give some months to manual techniques to work, or you could just hinder furter gains in future. And there are guys that have gained 2”+ in both girth and length just with manual exercises.

Be consistent and have faith.

:smack: Or she is a n00b to the whole sex thing and clueless as to how to wank you off.

First off, read up on stuff so it won’t be quite as scary. Plenty of good stuff within these very forums. Both physical, hands on stuff; and, psychology, seduction stuff.

Below are two links that should keep you busy for many many weeks. Hopefully others can link you to seduction stuff.

Dick Control: A Primer

the-clitoris.com - This website is for sale! - the clitoris Resources and Information.

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Where the heck is my mail!

iwish6-

You are actually in the perfect situation - for you.

She is a virgin and a Christian. That’s good. That means she may not have seen some of the 7/8/9 inch cocks in porn. I started smack bang average, and I am now only slightly above average. Even so, those porn cocks look huge to me. Everyone seems to have one - even on the "amateur" sites. So if she has not been looking at too many of them, thank your lucky stars.

Now… let’s turn to the other point. She’s clearly hot for you, and as you say, you’ve got time to grow. If you keep your routine gentle but consistent, you will grow. If your flaccid is already getting bigger, I would say success is guaranteed. But a lot of guys in your position are like the parable of the talents: They say, "God gave me a small penis, so I’m going to bury it under a bushel, and hang my head and cry". If you don’t recall the story, I encourage you to read it here: http://www.stev epavlina.com/bl … of-the-talents/

So if you are going to do PE, then get on with it, and don’t deviate from your goal.

The other thing to bear in mind is that when you finally have sex, your smaller size will be an advantage! Yes, read that again, she will love it!

Hang in there iwish6. I am just barely 5”NBP and that is after working my unit to full capacity (which is not all the time) and I am married and have a wife that had sex with her ex before me and she told me he was a little bigger than me but that I was better at pleasing her and tending to her needs. So make sure when you are ready to have sex to not rush into getting into her but pay attention to her and her needs and the rest will fall in place and she will not be able to remember how big you are because most woman can’t judge the size of a cock anyway or measure how big it is inside of her during sex especially since she is a virgin. Don’t rush the PE because the last thing you need is an injury and explain to your gf why you can’t fool around, she might get the wrong impression if you stop fooling around. Take your time be consistent and enjoy your gains.. Hang in there have faith and remember to enjoy her.

Yo, man. If she’s a virgin you don’t even have anything to worry about. However, you are in the perfect situation for PE. Your dick is gonna get bigger in between those 6 months. In about a year you can get to at least 5.5x5. In two years you can probably get to 6x5.5, then your dick would be considered pretty big and you’ll blow her mind. By that time you’ll probably be ready for marriage or at least sex.

Now, start pulling on your dick.

PS - I went to a private school my whole life and I knew a very Christian girl that didn’t want to have regular sex, but loved to take it up the butt. Haha.

Thanks everyone for your support once again. All of you are great. Although I don’t personally know each and every one of you, you are like friends to me. I have great friends here back at home, but these issues I cannot and will not talk to them about it.even my parents are excluded. As of now I believe this is something I need to deal with myself. No therapists or psychs thankyou.thunders will do just fine.

BerverPooh- haha yeah I’ve thought about anal too. Maybe ill try to slowly transition into it, hehe. Ill keep you guys updated.

My flacid gains have been on and off. I’m not sure if it’s due to better EQ but my “dude” shrinks up to it’s small size now and again (2.5 inches flacid).

Here a little more info on my life under the sheets. When I say “animal” I mean animal, but this is once things have gotten started and far past foreplay. We never begin without the cuddling and slow rubbing. It usually begins with one of us slowly kissing each other and then tongue is added and then slow rubbing and then dry humping and then I lift her up and we head to the room. I know she goes along with it, but I question is she wants it. I mean during the act of “fooling around” I know she enjoys it. I know she’s not faking the moaning, but I wonder if she does indeed want to mess around.

I hope I do gain. There seems to be a lot of people here at thunders that have. All I can do is hope I follow in the footsteps they have left for me.

Thanks again guys. You guys really helped a young guy today. Reading these posts I gain some confidence and reassurance. Ill be sure to add you guys to my buddy list. Peace!