Statistical Review Of The 8x6 "Gold Standard"

I posted this on Reddit and got a lot of hate. This time, the first paragraph will be my disclaimer instead of that last:

MY "Gold Standard" is not 8x6. It’s not my opinion that we need to be the biggest a woman has been with. I don’t believe that we need to have a truly rare dick to deeply satisfy a woman. The time I’ve spent in the PE community has reduced my goal size not increased it.

8x6 has long been thought of as the gold standard of Big Dickery, but why? Is it because the round numbers sound good? Or because that’s what dudes on the internet claim to have? Maybe your girlfriend claims she had one that big in college and now you’re on a mission to "measure up"?

For all the different reasons so many of us have decided 8x6 is the gold standard, statistics and probability show we’ve been right all along.

According to our best available source of data on dingle dimensions (CalcSD), the western average is about 5.8 x 4.75. Now according to statistics, an occurrence is considered statistically significant if it occurs in no more than 5% of a population. This means if your dick is roughly 7x5.5, or other dimensions of equal volume, then you have a statistically significant dong. Congratulations!

A quick internet search says the average woman has had 7 sexual partners. I personally feel like this number goes up with more attractive women and it obviously goes up the longer they stay single. This means, based on the laws of probability, the average woman that has received 7 dickings has a 30% chance of experiencing a statistically significant wang. This goes up to 40% is she’s been with 10 guys.

Being in the top 5% is undoubtedly big. However, the goal for many doing PE is to be more than just big. Many of us here (foolish as it may be) want to know we’re among the very biggest and have all of our sexual partners feel the same way. A lot of guys in the PE community aren’t satisfied with a size that 40% of women have had.

To be truly rare is to reach statistical significance amongst a womans 10 experiences and not just individually. To reach this level you must be in the 99.5th percentile in the population. This means there would be a 95% chance that you’re the biggest an experienced woman has been with. According to CalcSD’s western average, the golden number to reach this level isssss…..you guessed it…….8 x 6. 8 x 6 is almost exactly the 99.5th percentile and is unquestionably rare without venturing into the freakish and extreme.

This offers mathematical backing to the 8x6 gold standard. It also helps explain why people without knowledge of statistics and probability sometimes have an issue with CalcSD. Even though in a room of 1000 men only 5 with be 8x6, there’s still a 5% chance that a woman has played with one that size. Sorry boys, but the math maths.

Again, it’s not my opinion that we need to be the biggest a girl has been with. I just find it interesting that our collective golden standard is the same as the mathematical standard of "statistical significance". I figured some others here would think the same.

I’m sorry you were attacked on Reddit for such a calm and reasonable post.

The problem with us men is that we tend to base a woman’s pleasure solely on size. Sure, if we were all equally skilled, size would make more of a difference.. But luckily, that’s not the case.

An 8x6 size is something almost all of us aspire to because we’re conditioned by unrealistic standards, where it seems like every man out there is super well-endowed. This creates false stereotypes that distort reality. The truth, as you rightly said, is that out of 1,000 men, only 5% have those dimensions. And, no matter how much we try to overlook it, those 5 guys probably end up with a lot of partners over their lifetime.

This means it’s very likely that almost every woman (or close to it) has had an experience with a man of those dimensions. However, this doesn’t mean they enjoyed it more with them. Because, if you know what you’re doing, size does matter, sure.. but in the end, many other factors come into play.

Hillclimb89, Excellent post. Thank you

The Reddit hate doesn’t bother me. It’s to be expected. This post eats at people insecurities even though that’s not my intention

It may be true that the big guys get around more, but its hard to say how much. The point of my post is that at the level of "statistical significance" the 8x6 becomes rare for the average woman. There’s a chance that the chance of seeing one is higher than 5% for an "average" woman, but not by a factor of 10. 8x6 is not something most women have seen according to the odds.

In 1960s-1980s written porn, 7 inches in length was a pornstar cock. Girth was seldom mentioned, other than "fat" on occasion.

I wasn’t aware of that, Andy. But if I had a 7x5.5 in front of me, for example, I could easily say "he’s a porn actor"!

Yes, I totally agree with you. It’s an exceptionally rare size. However, there are other combinations out there, like 7x6, 7.5x5.5, which, if you think about it, are quite close to 8x6!

I’m going back to the 60s-80’s 👍

“ It may be true that the big guys get around more, but it’s hard to say how much. The point of my post is that at the level of "statistical significance" the 8x6 becomes rare for the average woman. There’s a chance that the chance of seeing one is higher than 5% for an "average" woman, but not by a factor of 10. 8x6 is not something most women have seen according to the odds.”

Based upon my experience (as someone who achieved and exceeded the “Gold Standard” through PE) you are absolutely correct.

Another consideration when comparing statistics from 70-80s versus today is that people are bigger today in all dimensions. It’s difficult for me to buy shoes at Walmart, because they are all so gigantic. It’s the same with socks. My shoe size is 8-1/2, but that is no longer considered normal.

The internet and porn have shown us huge cocks and women cuming all over them. This is what most of us, even women, learn to find erotic. Porn is why I got into PE. I wanted my wife to be penetrated by something bigger, to fulfill my learned fetish.

However, every real sexual encounter that I have experienced proves to me something different. Many women, like many men, don’t expect or require perfection, we look for attentiveness, and when it comes to good sex, we really just need trust.

When we can share through trust, we can get pretty damn fucking crazy in the bedroom, perfect tits and dicks not required:-) . If we focus on penis size, we are most likely missing the boat when it matters most.

I remember that song by Cyndi Lauper, Girls Just Want to Have Fun. There is a lot of truth in that and anxiety over penis size is not fun.

So much truth in just a few lines, Little!
We spend so much time tormenting ourselves over the size of our penis that we deprive ourselves of the pleasure we could instead enjoy by living free and unburdened by these insecurities. When you bring your concerns about size into the bedroom, they’re noticeable. Women can sense it, and the sexual experience inevitably gets "crippled" by these unnecessary thoughts.

I wore a 9-1/2 shoe when I was 12 years old. And all the way up until I was 60 or so, when my feet started growing again. I bought some new shoes a month ago; depending on the brand, I now wear either a 12-1/2 or 13. And there’s not much to choose from past size 11, at least in my local area.

I dug out a set of old boots from 1995-ish; I can’t even get a foot all the way in one, much less lace it up. So it’s not "size creep".

Funny, my feet started growing about the time I started PE…

Are your fingers getting thicker, too? Any issues with your blood sugar being elevated? You might want to have your pituitary hormone levels checked…

I was reflecting on how we often hear about guys with big dicks sleeping with more women. I suppose that might be the case. But I think that the perspective that we have as men, that a big dick equals being confident, is probably false. Sure, there may not be insecurity about being small (which is valuable but may fall short of being confident), but porn has messed up so many guys in terms of what they consider big that I wonder if that applies today unless you are truly huge.

I’m statistically extremely large, but I don’t see myself as visually as large as the big guys in porn. And I didn’t grow up in the internet era so I can only imagine what it might be like for a 20 year old today. So having big dick confidence might be more elusive than ever.

Another thing I was thinking about: one of my good buddies is a total ladies man, and at 40 years old has been so his whole adult life. He has slept with so many incredible women that he has had trouble considering settling down.

He’s tall, extremely good-looking, smart, successful and one of the most facially handsome guys I’ve ever met. Not super athletic-looking, but an outdoorsy guy. He’s also fun and adventurous, and a great buddy hang, both for men and women. Super chill energy and never seems to try very hard to be anything and manages to be super cool.

He also has a relatively small penis. By his own admission. He once told me it is "small to average, at best."

So I think the point is if you are exceptional in any number of ways, like handsome, funny, cool, athletic, etc, you are an attractive outlier. And the attractive outliers are sexually successful.

One way to be an outlier is to have a large penis, but, like I said, I think we as men project that more of an object of female interest than it is.