Ways to last longer during sex, need help

Hey guys, I was just wondering what are some ways you might know of that help you last longer during sex. I’ve been doing kegels for awhile now, and although they do give me a better erection they don’t help me last longer. The only thing I’ve really found is that if I jack off a couple hrs before I can normally last longer. Does anyone else have any other ideas, I’d really appreciate it. Thanks a lot guys.

Take this from a man who has been married a long time. I’ve had a lot of sex, so I know what I am talking about:

1. You can change your grip from a tight grip to one that is a little loose.

2. When you are stroking your meat, think football, football, football. It helps take my mind off the hand stimulation.

3. Use Astroglide. I mean you need to pour it on thick. It’s so damn slick that it’s hard to get any stimulation.

4. Just let your hand lay there and not move. It’s hard to cum to a hand that does not fuck back.

5. Use no lube. A dry hand is one that is really not in the mood and it’s hard to cum in such a hand.

6. Take a tape recorder and record yourself bitching about something. Hit play and then start fucking your hand. You won’t cum until the tape ends.

7. Another tape recorder trick is to record your children saying, “daddy.” When you are about to cum, hit play. It’ll scare the shit out of you and you’ll lose your urge to cum. Beware: You may go soft right there in your hand.

And finally,

8. If I use my right hand I seem to last longer. I’ve been fucking my right hand for a long time so the thrill is all but gone. I usually have to pretend I am fucking another hand in order to cum when using my right hand.

Relax and do DEEEEP breathing into the lower belly. Visualize and feel your lower abdomen and pelvic floor muscles relaxing. It is these muscles that contract and tighten right before and during an ejaculation. If they are relaxed, you will not ejaculate…and after enough practice you may just orgasm without ejaculating (which lets you continue having sex; no refractory period). Just relax and concentrate on the sensations of pleasure, and visualize those sensations spreading up the body, out of the genitals, as you relax.

Cool thanks for the help guys. Does anyone else have any other tips? Ya it’s so weird because I can last a long time when I’m jacking off, but when it comes to sex sometimes i can go for 20+ minutes, but then other times I pop after like 4 minutes, it can be really frustrating.

Marty, thanks for the tips. I have been married 25 years!

Just to clear things up for you it is the reverse kegel that help a man last longer.

Other ideas might be to try condom they help some. You could even try the condoms with the stuff inside that semi desensitize you to help you last longer. You can even buy the desensitizing stuff at a sex shop or online and just put a bit on your tip if you don’t want to use condoms.

Some other trick I use from time to time are to squeeze the base of my dick really hard from time to time during sex. I will also pinch my leg hard or cause my self some type of minimal pain to get my body to focus on the pain for a bit instead of the dick. This would only work if you are not turned on by pain. If you are turned on my pain then this is a recipe to help you blow your load even quicker, which can come in handy if you get bored and wanna cum quick or something.

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joe_smith is right about the reverse kegels. Again, it is about relaxation.

I wouldn’t recommend anything that decreases your sensation…whether it be multiple condoms, a desensitizing cream, or even thinking of doing your tax return. You like sex, right? So why give up your personal enjoyment just to last longer? You can last longer AND enjoy the pleasurable sensations…you just need to relax those muscles and reverse kegel.

Thanks for the help guys. I did a search for “reverse kegels” and it turned up a lot of topics, but none of them really describe exactly how you do a reverse kegel. Can anyone help me with this please?

If you are a stranger to basic breath control don’t be.

If you can do a kegal then you can do a reverse one easily. I expect that you are making it to complicated. It is the same muscle, just “pushing” rather than “pulling”.
westla90069 - Locating the bc muscle This entire thread is a must read if you haven’t yet.

Good advice fellas.

Couple of things I’ve discovered over the years when this was an issue:

1. Longer foreplay tended to make me last longer. Don’t just jump right in. When it becomes time to have full blown intercourse, try inserting it a couple of times and then pull it out and continue foreplay for just a little bit longer. I believe this helps for a few reasons. The mind plays a big part of premature ejaculation. If you slow things down and relax, it takes away a lot of anxiety. It helps to give her time to naturally lube herself up which reduces friction. Finally, sticking it in a couple of times gets your unit used to the situation (much like sticking your feet in the pool before diving in) not to mention teases her and makes her want it even more. Most women would consider you a better lover just for doing the items listed above.

2. Iamaru brought up breath control. I think this is important. This may not work for everybody, but I used to try and hyperventilate (discreetly of course). This seemed to help me last much longer. I also used to make a lot of noise (moans/sounds of enjoyment) and still do. The women seemed to like it and it really helped me focus on something other than “oh shit, I’m ready to cum”!

Sounds silly but you might want to try to desensitise your gland. When I first started having sex with my first girlfriend, I used to always ejaculate within 2 min. So I thought that I’d just rub my unerect glans against my hand every night (for many reps).

It worked great for me (combined with my first PE routine). After a few months of this, I was able to cum when I wanted and when I wanted only (my girlfriend could do whatever she wanted, I would only cum when I squeezed a few powerful kegels). I don’t have such exceptional control anymore because I quit doing this routine long ago.

Another thing, if you have enough stamina, just continue after you ejaculate! This is the first way I found not to suffer from the premature ejaculation problems I had back then. It requires a little bit of effort for the first minute or so but after that, I could just go on for hours. That’s when I was 18, now I always try to satisfy my girl before I ejaculate because it is much tougher for me to stay hard after orgasm then it used to be…

Here is a tip: whisper Knight Rider quotes in her ear when you are having sex. She should have multiple orgasms in seconds. Then you can ejaculate anytime you want! :D

Very interesting.

Relaxing the body and deep breathing really helps, it makes the pressure of ejaculation disappear. So does developing the BC muscles.